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shoppingWendy’s Weekly Picks,” is a feature in which I highlight stuff I like or recommend in the worlds of fashion, gift ideas, home decor, makeup, websites, entertainment, and recipes. Of course, much of the stuff I link to will be affiliate products, which means I’ll receive a commission on any click-throughs or purchases you make through the affiliate links. As always, I appreciate your support! Here are my favorite finds this week:

It’s boot season, y’all (well, at least for a majority of DW readers). Last year I wore these pretty much every single day and, as a result, need a replacement pair this year. Should I get the exact same ones (I do love them)? Or… these or these? Please, I need help deciding!

I’m also in the market for tall brown boots, which I plan to put on my holiday wish list this year. Drew gave me a great pair four years ago and that was the last pair of tall brown boots that I got, so I’m due (and for what it’s worth, in four seasons of fairly regular wear, I’ve only had to have them re-soled once). Right now, these are the top of the list. They’re pricey, but so pretty, so I’m going to keep an eye out for a sale, maybe around Thanksgiving (fingers crossed).

Had these in my Amazon shopping cart and almost pulled the trigger. Still might, but, as I told Drew, I’ve learned about myself that I usually wear the same two to three pairs of shoes all season, even if there are other cute ones in my closet — it’s easier when I’m running out the door, as I inevitably always am, to grab whatever I wore the last time I ran out the door. So, I have to be judicious about what two to three pairs of shoes I select for the season. But these are really cute, no? And I’ve heard they’re super comfy.

If it’s boot season, it must also be scarf season. I always love a bright, cheery scarf (keeping an eye on this one in hopes it goes on sale soon).

This is the time of year I start wearing darker lipstick on occasion. This is my favorite (on sale, too), and I’ve found it to be universally flattering on a variety of skin colors and tones.

A few years ago I started losing my eyebrows. A few months ago, there was nothing left. Like, we’re talking a few strands at best. For two months, I have been using this RapidLash eyebrow serum twice a day, and it’s working! I don’t look like Brooke Shields, but there’s definitely new growth — as in, you can actually see some brows now — and that’s worth 26 bucks, for sure.

I’m having so much fun dressing Joanie. Baby girl clothes are the best! Here, she’s wearing a few of my favorite pieces from her fall wardrobe: the shirt, the pants, the vest, and come on now with this hat. (I got everything 40% off with whatever code was valid at the time. Always check for a Gap and Old Navy promo code before you pay!).

Also, I know this veers into crazy-mommy territory, but I got these tights for Joanie and then by chance I found this sweater, and I’m just saying: They’re a perfect match!

Had a store credit and bought this shirt a few days ago. Love the way it fits my curvy frame.



My boyfriend and I had just made up after a fight, and, on top of telling me how much he physically wanted me, he said he wasn’t ready to give up on us. I was happy because I felt the same. Well, over the next couple of days, he didn’t text me and only gave short responses when I texted him. I was still insecure due to our fight, but I also had such a strong gut feeling something was wrong. Then I saw a girl’s car in his driveway when, since he wasn’t answering my texts, I went over to see if he was home, and that made me feel even worse. He is a recluse and doesn’t let anyone in except me and his mom and kids.

The rest of the night, I kept myself busy, trying to ignore my feelings. Finally, I had to go over there, but this was 2 am. I thought that, if that car was in his driveway at that time of morning, I would know that something wasn’t right. Well, it was there. I have a key he gave me, and at this point I was hoping to find someone passed out on his couch or some other scenario that wasn’t so bad, but instead I found a woman in bed with him. I’m not sure if she was naked, but he didn’t have a shirt on. They were asleep. I stood there dumbfounded, and she woke up and jumped, and then he woke up. I just said: “Cheater,” and then ran out. I know I could have handled it so much better…

I went back there in the morning because I wanted to talk, but he wasn’t home. I texted him and his only response was telling me to leave his house and leave his key. It’s three days later, I’ve heard nothing from him, and I’m still so upset. I asked him if he is sorry at all, and his response is that I’m over-reacting. I asked him how it’s over-reacting when you find a woman in bed with your boyfriend who is naked? And he said this is the last time he will reply to me, and to not ever contact him, and to have a good life!

I know he’s pissed I came in without telling him, even though he gave me a key a couple months ago. I know it was disrespectful, but I had a bad feeling and needed to see for myself what was going on. No matter if he was cheating or not, his response tells me I mean nothing to him. He’s cared about me, and even loved me, since high school, and we got re-connected just a few months ago, 27 years later — it felt like fate. I can’t believe how cold-hearted he is when he is the one who screwed up! I keep feeling that, if we could have talked about it the next day, he would have explained, and it wouldn’t be like this.

He is an INTJ personality which is 1% of the population, and now I’m beginning to think he is also a narcissistic sociopath. What are your thoughts? — The Other 99%

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This week in the forums we’re discussing:

I’m not sure how to interpret this…

Everyone’s going on awesome dates

…(Except when they aren’t)

Drinking while trying to conceive?

Should I break up with my boyfriend?

Big argument with boyfriend

MIL Moving In?

How to Respond to Controlling Mom

Should I hang out with this dude…

Fantasy football…?

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If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at wendy@dearwendy.com.


Mother and daughter

My 20-year-old daughter has been dating her boyfriend for three and a half years. He comes from an extremely religious and controlling family whose children were home-schooled, and now his two oldest sisters are married and live in homes on the family property. The boyfriend is always making my daughter feel guilty about hanging out with anyone other than him. When they first started dating, my daughter had friends and liked going to parties, etc. Now she is very religious, doesn’t have any friends, and is close to his family. The boyfriend has made little to no effort to be close to our family. He has managed to isolate her from friends and anything social. Now I believe he is trying to isolate her from her own family.

Most of my extended family lives in New York, and we live three hours away. My husband, two daughters, and I have always celebrated holidays with my extended family members who are very close. Because of distance, holidays are among the few times that we see my family, which includes my now 80-year-old parents. Yesterday, my daughter sent me a text stating that she and her boyfriend want to spend Thanksgiving with his family! His family lives fifteen minutes away from our house and all of his relatives live locally as well. My daughter and boyfriend go to the same college and see each other all of the time. I am very upset that my daughter is willing to hurt my family just to please him. I know in the past he has tried to guilt her into this. Can I just tell her flat out no and that she has to come with us? (If it matters, we pay for her car insurance, health insurance, and phone. Last year we paid her tuition, but I have been out of work for six months so this year my daughter had to take out additional loans for which my sister co-signed. I supply my daughter with toiletries and homemade treats, and she lives with us on school breaks and in the summer). — Worried Mom

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From a recent Carolyn Hax column:

mama bear

I adore my older sister, but she is married to someone I find difficult. His personality is not a match for mine, but much larger than that is he was inappropriate to me from when I was 13 through my early twenties. Nothing he could get arrested for — he would “accidentally” touch my rear end or chest, ask very inappropriate questions, once even made a model of genitalia and showed it to me. They had daughters and I kept a VERY close eye on them. Thankfully, nothing has seemed amiss and they are adults now.

These days I manage to be civil and sometimes fairly friendly — he was raised very badly and I can see he isn’t all bad. He has also mellowed out quite a bit as he’s aged.

Problem: I have kids now and my sister wants them to spend the night with their favorite aunt, as her kids did with me and my husband hundreds of times. I just can’t see ever allowing that, but I don’t know how much longer I can make excuses.

My sister knows of a few instances but made excuses back then and it immediately was a non-topic, and she is absolutely one who would cut me off forever if I just said, hey, hubby isn’t someone I have good memories of, so no thanks.

I can’t imagine I’m overreacting, or am I? — Mama Bear

You can read Carolyn Hax’s response here. Mine is below:
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