Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

I will not be at any stores doing any shopping. I will, however, be doing some shopping online from the comfort of my bed, taking advantage of the fantastic sales many retailers are offering today, Black Friday, and throughout the weekend. Here are a few of the best Black Friday sales I’ve found:

Get an extra 20% off sale items at Nordstrom. Need a new coat? This one has rave reviews and is almost half off.

I always love the Christmas ornaments from World Market, which are 50% off this Black Friday. Score huge discounts of furniture and other decor as well! (I love this little side table).

Get 30% off at, where you can score some shearling-lined boots for the winter ahead (reviews called them “better that Uggs,” They’re certainly a lot cuter!).

H&M is having a site-wide 20% off sale (use code 1662 at check-out). I especially love their cute throw pillows, which are an easy and inexpensive (starting at $2!) way to decorate for the holidays or change up the look of a room.

If you like modern/ minimalist design and you’re doing some furniture or decor updating, Rove Concepts is a new favorite of mine since I started shopping for our new place. I ordered a new dining set that was on sale, and through their Black Friday sale, got an additional 20% off.

For more home decor stuff, Wayfair is another favorite of mine for budget-friendly prices, and they’re having a huge black Friday blowout (up to 80% off). I just ordered a rug for our new living room, as well as this ceiling light for 30% off.

Spend $100 at West Elm, save 15% (spend $500, save 20%). You could get a few of these beautiful porcelain constellation tealight holders to have on hand for those moments you need a last-minute gift for someone and want to look like you actually put some thought into it.

There’s a bunch of stuff for $15 and under at Sephora, like this JACK BLACK Deep Dive Glycolic Facial Cleanser, which would make a great stocking-stuffer for the dude in your life.

Everything is 30% off at Anthropologie. I’ve had this dress and these fleece-lined leggings in my shopping cart for a while, waiting for a sale like this.

Everything is 25% off at Madewell. I think this sweater is so cute.

If your kids like mine have been going through growth spurts (Jackson has shot up three inches in six months and Joanie is busting out of the 2T t-shirts I just bought a few weeks ago), you’ll appreciate the site-wide 50% off sale at Old Navy (my mom got this adorable sweater for Joanie the other day and it’s my favorite thing.). And there’s a site-wide 60% off sale at Carters (some PJs are as low as $5!).

Everyone’s favorite — the Instant Pot — is marked down almost 40% at Amazon through the end of the day.

Spend $50 at Target (easy) and get get an email coupon good for 20% off a future Target purchase. If you’re in the market for a new vacuum, may I suggest this one, which we bought earlier this year when our old one bit the dust. It does some serious heavy lifting between Roomba runs (speaking of Roomba, this one is 28% off at Amazon).

And as always, when you make your Amazon purchases through my Amazon affiliate link, I get a small commission that helps run this site. (I also make some money through any clicks made through most of the above links). Thanks for your support, and happy shopping!


Happy (American) Thanksgiving! I hope you are celebrating however you enjoy celebrating best. I spent the morning in Midtown watching the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade (that’s Joanie and Me and Sponge Bob at the parade above). Now I’m enjoying an early glass of wine and a few minutes of internetting while Joanie and Drew nap and Jackson makes magic potion. I outsourced most of our meal this year on account of being overwhelmed with overseeing renovations and preparing for our move in a few days (our contractor says that if they hustle, about 75% of our place should be habitable by Thursday, when we have to be out of our apartment, so that’s good. Not ideal — not the way I envisioned it [having workmen around us for the first couple weeks we’re there] — but much better than being homeless and I am very thankful for that.) So, I outsourced most of our meal, but I made some pie and I’m about to finish cooking butternut squash soup, and prep brussels sprouts for roasting.

Have a wonderful day, and thank you, thank you, thank you for spending some of your time here. It really means a lot. This site is almost seven years old — an eternity in web years — and I am very grateful for your loyalty that has allowed me to keep it going this long and to make a living doing something I love. More than that, I’m grateful for the community that continues to evolve, and all the support and camaraderie that has been shared here over the years. Thank you!!


This week in the forums, we’re discussing:

Why does my boyfriend treat me differently when he has his son?

“My Husband Flirted with Another Woman at a Wedding”

How to uninvite toxic friend to concert?

“My Husband Says My Weight Gain is ‘Grounds for Divorce’”

“He Talks to His Daughter About Our Sex Life”

Need advice about friendship?

My boyfriend still hasn’t filed for divorce

“My Wife is addicted To Conflict”

This whole Trump situation just gets worse and worse everyday

Anyone going on awesome dates?

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If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected].

One of my best friends since fifth grade (we are 32 now) was diagnosed with stage IV cancer two and a half years ago. We don’t live near each other anymore – she lives in Texas and I live in Florida, but we talk frequently and have visits as often as possible. In the past few months, she has been getting significantly worse, and chemo treatments haven’t been working. Up until now she has always been very positive about fighting cancer and her diagnosis, and obviously I have followed her lead anytime we talk. I let her share what she wants with me. Recently, she mentioned that doctors had started asking if she had end-of-life plans in place, and she said she isn’t ready to think about that.

My dilemma is that if it comes to it, I would really like to say goodbye in person. But I have no idea how to broach the subject. I am in contact with her mother, who is very involved in my friend’s care and treatment. I was thinking that I might send a handwritten letter to her mother asking about it. Assuming they would be comfortable with my presence at some point. I don’t know – is this an inappropriate request for a non-family member? I am at a loss for words. How are you supposed to ask a mother to please let you know if her daughter is about to die?

I don’t know what the right course of action is. I don’t want to cause any additional pain or stress to the family, especially since I really hope I am worrying for nothing. But my friend means so much to me, and I am afraid I will regret not asking if something does happen.

If you have any thoughts or suggestions I would very much appreciate it. — Worried About My Friend

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I am a young professional woman in my late 20s and I started dating my boyfriend, “Mike,” about a year ago. We get along splendidly and are very much in love! I can see him being my future something or other and we’ve talked about moving in together next year.

The reason I’m writing you for advice is because, prior to our relationship, he was in a five-year-long relationship. He and his ex met in college and were very serious. When we first started dating, he teared up every time he mentioned the relationship and refused to give details. From what Mike has told me, they broke up because she got into graduate school on the other side of the country. Two of their five years of dating had already been long-distance and she finally called it quits when it was clear they were not going to be in the same city for the near future.

Fast forward to now: His ex-girlfriend is graduating from school in less than a year and they still exchange texts back and forth. From my social media detective work, she is not dating anyone. I’m worried that, once she finishes school, she’ll realize how much she misses him and try to woo him back!

Am I crazy to be concerned? — Worried about His Ex

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