Happy 4th of July weekend, mi Americanos! And Happy Canada Day to most of the rest of you. (And happy Friday to everyone else). What are you up to? We have zero plans except that my sister will be here visiting. Guess I better think of some stuff for us to do (a challenge these days with a baby who only sleeps in a crib and will freak out if more than 2 1/2 hours have passed since her last nap. Do you know how hard it is to do anything in New York with only a 2 1/2-hour window? It takes half that time just to get anywhere!). We’ll have a family birthday party for Joanie at some point while my sister is here. Joanie’s actual birthday is the 7th and I remember very clearly the 4th of July holiday weekend last year when I was nine months pregnant with her and very anxious about going into labor while the bridges to Manhattan were closed for fireworks and not getting to the hospital in time. I didn’t go into labor over the weekend, but I did worry so much that my blood pressure skyrocketed and it stayed that way long enough to be a risk to the baby and I had to be induced a couple days later. So, happy birthday to Joanie, born two weeks early because her mom’s so neurotic, hooray!
Have a great weekend, everyone! Enjoy the festivities.
Illustration by Wren McDonald for The New Yorker
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My boyfriend (37) and I (30) have been seeing each other for a year. We both own condos in the suburbs, fifty miles away from each other. We started discussing moving in together about five months ago as I am tired of the distance between us and only seeing each other on the weekends. I work at a university in the city, fifteen miles away from my home. I also have one semester of grad school left at my university, and my tuition is free since I work there. He is self-employed, working from home, and makes three times my salary. His sister is moving back to this state this week and is renting out his condo with her family. I offered for him to move in with me, and he declined because my condo is much smaller than his and too far away from his golf courses and family/friends.
He said he wants to buy a house for us to move into together. He will be buying it all by himself, and I will be contributing monthly when I move in. I also have a solid tenant for my condo. My name will not be on the mortgage, and I am not investing any money with him. Properties that meet all of his requirements (specifically over one acre of land and that he can also afford) are all located over forty miles away from my work. This would make a three-hour daily commute for me. He sees it as no big deal, but this commute is a deal-breaker for me. He won’t budge on the land or space. My work has amazing benefits and flexibility that I don’t want to give up. I have to stay there at least until I finish grad school. Then I said I would look for another job, which I really don’t want to do.
He is trying to find properties closer, but everything is too expensive. I also offered to stay where I am until I get a job closer, but he just gets mad at me. He says that he wants me to be happy and doesn’t want me to move out of the house if I hate it. He won’t compromise on the land or space at all. I feel like I don’t have much say because he is paying for the house, but at the same time I feel very bitter because I will be the one commuting eighty miles a day, living sixty miles away from my parents and friends. I am also giving up beach living that I absolutely love. Waterfront location is the main reason I bought my condo. And overall I feel upset that he won’t compromise. — Looking For a Compromise
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