Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Every year around the holidays, I feel the same sense of nostalgia and like, “Woah, this year went fast, didn’t it?!” I mean, it did, right? Weren’t we just celebrating Hanukkah and Christmas and saying how awful 2016 had been and we were all so ready for a new year? Ha. And this holiday season, mercury is retrograde, which makes the nostalgia feel even more acute. Oh! That reminds me: [click to continue…]

My husband and I have been married for eight months now. We are crazy in love with each other. My husband is a widower and he and his late wife were married for 29 years. The last five years of their marriage he lived out of state and she stayed “home.” This was due to him losing his job and needing to support the family. She stayed home because she didn’t want to leave when he got a new job. The kids were almost out of college.

Unfortunately, she passed away, and we found each other pretty soon — six months — after her passing. We fell in love and two years later we married. His daughters didn’t like it and couldn’t even be happy for their dad. They do not like that we are happy and that we do things and travel and have fun together.

Now, they want nothing to do with me. I have been nothing but loving, caring, and supportive. They are both out of the house and have heir own lives, husbands and children. They say I am rude and disrespectful to their mother because my husband and I are happy and doing things together.

I’m not sure what to do. Personally, I think they are rude and disrespectful. — The New Wife

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It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.

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Friday Links

Photograph by Elinor Carucci for The New Yorker

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

Speaking of being young and making bad dating decisions, this short story in the New Yorker captures that experience perfectly.

10 things everyone wants to know about their relationship, according to Google

Alabama Women ‘Make a Stand’ in First Election of the #MeToo Era

Black Women Are A Political Organizing Force. They’re Not Unicorns.

Related: Black voters just saved America from Roy Moore. Black votes matter.

Oy, this is sad: “Women are happier after they reach 85 and their partners have died”

2018 will be the year of women

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to [email protected] and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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This week in the forums, we’re discussing:

“This [Work Issue] Makes Me So Mad!”

“He wants to watch me have cam sex with other people”

Husband’s weight problem and depression – need advice

Is my boyfriend’s relationship with his sister bizarre or is my barometer off?

Boyfriend keeps interrupting me

Engagement party or wedding?

Is he too old to be my man?

Boyfriend’s mom passed away. I was one of the last to find out.

This whole Trump situation just gets worse and worse everyday

Anyone going on awesome dates?

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If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected].