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Happy Halloween! (That’s the trolley bag I made for for Jackson to use trick-or-treating. He’s going to be Daniel Tiger, a character from Mr. Rogers Neighborhood who has a popular spin-off series on PBS Kids; I’ll update later when I have a photo of Jackson in costume).

Enjoy the festivities, and don’t forget Daylight Savings Time ends this weekend at 2 AM Sunday morning (sob). It’s gonna be dark for the next five months, which is totally depressing, but the good news is we get an extra hour this weekend. What are you gonna do with yours? I’m going to be painting. Saturday night Drew and I have a sitter, and Drew and I will be spending the evening in our new place having a painting party for two. (We’re painting four rooms, though I’m not sure we’ll get to all of them tomorrow night). I’m gonna make margaritas, and we’re gonna order tacos and try to make it fun even though, let’s be honest, there are about a million other ways we’d rather spend a Saturday night. But when we’re done (and we won’t finish it all on Saturday, but we hope to make a big dent), our new place will look great (um, hopefully) and be ready for the big move in another week and a half. Ooh, a fresh start. I love fresh starts.

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Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

Video: Woman Endures Endless Catcalls During 10-Hour Walk In NYC [Gothamist]

Amy Poehler has a new memoir out this week called Yes Please. Here, Terry Gross interviews her for NPR’s Fresh Air.

Related: “Amy Poehler’s Book ‘Yes Please’ Will Give You All The Life Advice You Need On Every Subject” [via HuffPost]

“What It’s Really Like Being Asexual In A Heteronormative World” [via HuffPost]

“‘I Was a 4-Year Queer’: 15 Straight(ish) People on Their Gay Time in College” [via NYMag]

“Dear Jian Ghomeshi: Keep Your Abuse Out of My Kink” [via Jezebel]

“Homeownership in America Has Collapsed—Don’t Blame Millennials: Blame 35-to-44-year-olds, the true cheapest generation” (holla!) [via The Atlantic]

Self Promotion:

“‘Do I Have to Invite My SIL to My Daughter’s First Birthday Party?’” [via HuffPost]

“15 Things Couples Should Do Before Moving in Together” [via HuffPost]

“I Don’t Understand Pumpkin Patches, and Other Confessions a Seasonally-Challenged Mother” [via HuffPost]

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.

My boyfriend is 35 and I’m 21. He likes asses. I don’t have a big one so I get insecure because he loves them! He follows naked girls on IG all the time, and , when I’ve said something to him about it, he just says it’s for entertainment. He follows like 2-3 new ones every week. I repeatedly tell him how it makes me feel, but he continuously tells me it’s just for entertainment. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do or how to even approach it anymore. Is it something I should worry about? We’re sexually active with each other, we live together, and he doesn’t have a lock on his phone. He doesn’t “like” the pictures, but I still feel like I’m not good enough. — No Big Ass

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absurdfictionDear Wendy readers are some of the most intelligent, stylish, super cool people around (it’s a proven fact), so it’s a no-brainer to feature some of their favorite products. Today’s recommendations comes from absurdfiction who lives in Raleigh, NC with her husband, their snuggly 60-lb lapdog, and their terrifying demon-cat. She loves advice columns, and she has been reading DW since The Frisky days. In her spare time, she loves reading, hiking, cooking, and drinking too much wine. Although she lives in the South, she hates hot weather, so she is ecstatic that fall is finally here! Keep reading for her recommendations, including the wedding gift she uses more than any other.
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The following essay is a guest post written by Emily Morris, whose previous guest essays can be read here, here, and here.

A few weeks ago my boyfriend and I decided we would get married next year right after our tenth anniversary. We have talked about weddings from time to time but never picked a date, and a lot of it had to do with my reluctance to plan anything. I knew once we committed to the date it meant a lot of work for me and a lot of eye-rolling on my part. Hi, I’m Emily, I’m getting married, and I hate the wedding industry.

I should say right away that if your dream is a romantic proposal and a white wedding with a Cinderella theme, I’m happy for you. I hope it happens and you get everything you want and live happily ever after, the end. But that has never been my dream. I am not into weddings, brides, or huge white ball gowns. And marriage proposals gross me out. But that’s just me, and, if it offends you when someone talks about how she doesn’t like that stuff, perhaps you could go look at The Knot for awhile instead of reading on. [click to continue…]