The “Your Turn” letter that was originally published here has been deleted at the request of the letter writer who seems to think I intentionally posted her letter and gave it a sensational title to generate comments. Note: I have never ever pretended to not care about generating comments or traffic on this site. Of course I choose letters that I think will generate healthy discussion on this forum. I would be a moron not to. So, yes, LW, I did publish your letter because I thought it was generate comments. I’m not sure what would have been a less sensational title and still truthfully reflect to the content of your letter. I guess I could have gone with “99% of our horrible, blow-out fights are alcohol induced,” which was an actual line from your letter.
The LW also told me this was the “Worst advice ever” mainly because I didn’t give any advice, but instead had you readers give it. Well, anyone who reads this site with some regularity knows: 1) I regularly (about once a week) post a letter strictly for readers to respond to; 2) I’m on vacation this week and next and am posting more “Your Turn” columns than usual; 3) If you want advice from me but don’t want your letter posted, simply let me know and I’ll honor your wishes (that is to say, I won’t publish your letter, though I never promise to respond to each and every letter I receive).
Please, please, please, if you think you can’t handle honest advice — either from me or from the readers here — do not write to me. I get many, many letters that take hours just to read, let alone respond to, and the time we spend reading and addressing your concern could be time we spend addressing someone else who genuinely wants constructive help.