Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

10 (More) Signs He’s Into You

iVillage posted a list of 10 signs he’s into you. They’re OK, but a little generic. He maintains eye contact? He leans in? He touches you? He listens to what you say? Well, in that case, I guess the urologist I saw this week has it for me bad. After the jump, 10 specific signs he’s really into you.

 

 

1. He takes a yoga class with you even though his idea of “Salute the Sun” is staying up til daybreak after a big night out.

2. He always returns your texts within seconds.

3. He gives you a handwritten letter or handmade card.

4. He brings you soup and a stack of gossip magazines when you’re sick.

5. He washes the dishes after you throw a dinner party for your friends.

6. He always sleeps on the wet spot.

7. He watches “Downton Abbey” with you.

8. He keeps your favorite toiletries stocked at his place.

9. He knows your favorite candy and brings it to you randomly.

10. He likes you better without makeup.

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    TheOtherMe September 30, 2011, 3:06 pm

    11- you can TELL he doesn’t want the phone conversation to end

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      Ktfran September 30, 2011, 4:25 pm

      Even better. He actually calls instead of texts.

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    sweetleaf September 30, 2011, 3:45 pm

    What the hell? Did this come out of a teeny bop magazine?! Gross.

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      lets_be_honest September 30, 2011, 3:50 pm

      Huh? Do you mean the iVillage link? I thought these were sweet displays of caring for someone. Doing dishes for your gf certainly wouldn’t be in a teeny bog magazine.

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      Budjer September 30, 2011, 4:23 pm

      I agree with you, sweetleaf. 3 and 9 are the only relevant ones. The rest are things I wouldn’t do unless I had been dating someone a while…and at that point…if you have to wonder if he’s into you then you just shouldn’t be in that relationship.

      Definitely disagree with 2 and 8…high standards to uphold for 2.

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    Yammy September 30, 2011, 3:51 pm

    Great list! I love handmade cards!

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    Zyggurat September 30, 2011, 4:13 pm

    Well, my boyfriend hit 8 out of10 of these, so I guess he must really dig me. But I can honestly state that he will NEVER EVER make a handmade card for me. But he will clean the cat barf off my floor…now that’s really saying something.

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    Kerrycontrary September 30, 2011, 4:19 pm

    My BF does most of these, and along with Zyggurat he helped clean up when my dog was sick…but he still likes me better with makeup. I go without makeup around him of course, but I look completely tired when I don’t wear makeup thanks to my Mediterranean complexion complete with under-eye circles that are a result of genetics, not lack of sleep. So anyways, he loves when I wear makeup and I don’t blame him.

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      EscapeHatches September 30, 2011, 7:36 pm

      I’m with you on the natural dark circles. I’m half-White/half-Kashmiri and ‘deep set eyes’ is just a nice way of saying ‘always looks a little bedraggled.’

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    silver_dragon_girl September 30, 2011, 4:29 pm

    I think if a guy voluntarily watched Downton Abbey with me I would propose to him on the spot.

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      Addie Pray October 1, 2011, 5:05 am

      I have no idea what Downtown Abbey is. Never heard of it. Of course, I’ll go google it now…. but is this a thing that everybody knows about?

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        silver_dragon_girl October 1, 2011, 10:21 am

        It’s an awesome British miniseries about the “above stairs/below stairs” lives of an English country family and servants around WWI. It’s really good. I think the second series is showing in the UK now, but I’ve only seen the first on Netflix.

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    GatorGirl September 30, 2011, 5:05 pm

    I would add:

    -Clean the litter box or pick up after the dog. Nothing says love like cleaning up poop.
    -Wanting to know your family and wanting to introduce you to his family.

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    thyme September 30, 2011, 5:27 pm

    This one applies to the very beginning of a dating relationship and it took me, like, forever to learn, even though it’s so very basic:

    “He calls when he said he was going to, and he returns your calls within a day.”

    I don’t know why that one was once so hard to grasp. So much time spent agonizing over WHY he didn’t call when out last conversation/date seemed to go SO well, and then replaying every word we ever said to each other in my mind trying to figure out WHAT I might have said to offend him, and then obsessing over what I should have said instead, and then rationalizing reasons to try calling him ONE more time, just in case he was like, just shy or intimidated by me, or didn’t think I was into him enough to stick his neck out. I swear I’m never doing that again. If he doesn’t call, he just doesn’t like me enough to put in the effort, end of story – MOA.

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    • Amanda

      Amanda September 30, 2011, 7:28 pm

      Heh, I think I finally just learned that a couple weeks ago. I was staring at the phone (or checking it every two seconds just in case I hadn’t heard it or my phone was malfunctioning) and blurted out, “You’re an idiot.” Realizing it applied to both of us, I walked away. I think I started doing dishes or something productive.

      He’s never called…and I don’t care.

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    Skittlegryph September 30, 2011, 8:52 pm

    “He always sleeps on the wet spot.”

    …what? I have always read, and never responded before, but number 6 there has me rather confused.

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      Red_Lady October 1, 2011, 2:15 pm

      Yeah, I wasn’t too sure about that one either

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        Flanagan.er October 1, 2011, 11:38 pm

        When you have sex, there is usually some fluid leakage from one, or both of you. If you don’t feel like changing the sheets, one of you ends up in the wet spit.

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        Anna October 2, 2011, 6:29 pm

        This one can be tricky…you just have to make sure you end up doing it on his side of the bed so that’s where the wet spot is! Supposing the person in your bed has a “side of the bed” anyway…just thought of that since I’ve been in an 8 yr relationship that started when I still lived with my parents…never lived alone or had a bed that’s totally my own.

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    Britannia October 1, 2011, 12:06 am

    1. He takes a yoga class with you even though his idea of “Salute the Sun” is staying up til daybreak after a big night out.

    — Okay, agree with this one. A guy who is willing to try new things with you even though he’s pretty sure he won’t like it is a guy who is definitely interested in you.

    2. He always returns your texts within seconds.

    — Uhhh, what if his phone service is really slow? My boyfriend’s Sprint and my Verizon are incompatible with at least a 2-minute gap.

    3. He gives you a handwritten letter or handmade card.

    — I don’t remember the last time I have even seen a guy’s handwriting unless it was homework or a grocery list. This is a very middle-school-before-advent-of-cell-phones kind of thing.

    4. He brings you soup and a stack of gossip magazines when you’re sick.

    — The last time I was sick and just starting to see someone, he brought over pot, tequila, and Left 4 Dead. That was much more appreciated than a stack of gossip magazines… Just sayin’.

    5. He washes the dishes after you throw a dinner party for your friends.

    — Very true. This is exceptionally thoughtful.

    6. He always sleeps on the wet spot.

    — I highly doubt that such an act is ever intentional.

    7. He watches “Downton Abbey” with you.

    — What the hell is “Downtown Abbey”?

    8. He keeps your favorite toiletries stocked at his place.

    — Again, exceptionally thoughtful. I dig this.

    9. He knows your favorite candy and brings it to you randomly.

    — Pretty cool, but also antithetical to the nice body I’m trying hard to maintain!

    10. He likes you better without makeup.

    — I can’t really imagine how a guy could say otherwise. If a guy ever said he liked you better with makeup on, he’d be instantly categorized as a major douchebag, so naturally all guys are going to say you’re more beautiful without it.

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      callmehobo October 1, 2011, 12:52 am

      The number 3 thing happens, I swear. My now boyfriend asked me out with a homemade valentines card, and it was kind of the sweetest thing anyone’s ever done for me.

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      Starla October 1, 2011, 8:08 am

      Downton Abbey is a period drama, that is made and shown on terrestial TV over here in the UK. It has a bit of a cult following and Series 1 was very popular. I am very suprised it’s already being shown there!

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      Anna October 2, 2011, 6:33 pm

      I totally hear you on # 4! I don’t do tequila unless it’s in margarita form but smoking bongs totally helps when you’re miserable, whether you’re actually sick or just have killer PMS. It’s so much better than pharmaceuticals with all kinds of chemicals and scary side effects.

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    JK October 1, 2011, 10:36 am

    I guess my husband mustn´t be that into me then, as the only applicable one is 9 (although it´s always just chocolate for us to share). 🙂
    In our case, I knew he really loved me when I was really sick, and ended up convulsing on the floor (with the gross stuff that generally accompanies convulsions). The look on his face when I came to was priceless, then he bathed me, cleaned the floor and took me to the hospital at like 3 in the morning. If that´s not love…

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