Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

2013 Holiday Gift Guide for Men

Holiday shopping is stressful enough without the added pressure of deciding whether the gift you’re giving is sending the right message, or whether you should even be exchanging gifts. Hint: a gift is always a nice gesture; the key is to make sure you’re respecting the relationship boundaries. To help with that, and to give you some great ideas, I’ve created this handy dandy guy-centric gift guide. These suggestions are certainly interchangeable, but you probably won’t go wrong if you stick strictly to the category each gift is listed in. And if you have a FWB you don’t want to leave out, I’d skip right on down to the list of stocking stuffers.

NEW BOYFRIEND
For argument’s sake, let’s define a “new boyfriend” as someone you’ve been dating exclusively for less than three months. You might stay at each other’s homes occasionally, but you don’t, like, have a drawer at his place.

natural_copyIf he wears skinny jeans and always has a bulge: a slim double-crossed leather wallet
So slim, this wallet fits comfortably in a front pocket of even the skinniest of pants, with a pocket for cash and a pocket for cards.

 

 

 

 

shop-for-ray-ban-rb4147p-flat-top-boyfriend-polarized-sunglassestortoise-frame-brown-lens60-mm-dealsIf his future’s so bright, he has to wear shades: Ray-Ban Flat Top Boyfriend Polarized Sunglasses
The name says it all: boyfriend sunglasses. And flat tops are cool. Your boyfriend (!) will thank you.

1.116604Coasters-10-Pack-correct-imagesIf he’s into art and doesn’t like rings on his coffee table: 6 Banksy Coasters
If you don’t know, Banksy is a famous graffiti artist and political activist and he’s hot shit. Your new boyfriend will think you’re hot shit too if you get him these awesome coasters.

 

bar10der-all-in-one-tool-225x300If he likes to mix a mean cocktail: All-in-One Home Bartending Tool
It’s everything he needs to mix you up a great-tasting cocktail or three. Pair it with nice bottle of Bourbon or a collection of cocktail bitters.

 

 

 

 

322044c5a78034fb3c802625179a60c9If he’s a keeper: Someecards “Fuck This Shit O’Clock” Pint glass
Because this is just too awesome to *not* include on a gift guide.
 

 

 

 

LONG-TERM BOYFRIEND/ FIANCE/ HUSBAND
You’ve been together for a while now and while the spark is still there — hopefully — you’re also comfortable enough to: A) spend a bit more than you would on a brand new guy; B) give gifts that are practical vs. sexy C) help improve his style a bit.

zoom-13-12.29.21-AMIf he’s cooler than everyone else (but doesn’t really know it): denim Pumas
They’re “highly limited release,” so will be sold out before less cool people realize they should own a pair too.

 

 

717547876_260If he prefers being naked but should probably wear something since it’s kind of cold and you never know when someone might ring the bell: Calvin Klein Micro Modal PJ Pants
Whether you call them lounge pants, PJ pants, or underwear the idea is the same: your guy wears these around the house on a lazy Sunday and feels awesome because these are the softest, most comfy lounge pants/pj pants/ underwear ever.

 

breaking-bad-complete-series-xlIf he’s addicted to the blue stuff … or at least to the TV show that popularized it: the Breaking Bad Complete Series
Released just this week, the complete series is for the true “Breaking Bad” fan and includes over 55 hours of special features from all seasons, a brand new two-hour documentary, 16-page booklet and letter from Vince Gilligan (series creator), plus collectible items. Blue stuff sold separately.

imageIf he like to get busy in the kitchen and you really, really like him: copper pots (and copper measuring spoons)
Just remember, it’s a gift, so he gets to keep them if you break up.

 

 

lands-end-sweats-hoodies-mens-quilted-knit-hoodieIf he likes his Sundays over-easy: Men’s Quilted Knit Hoodie
I know what you’re thinking: almost a hundred bucks for a hoodie?! And that is kinda crazy, I agree, but: 1) there’s currently a coupon code for 30% off (‘WONDERLAND’); and 2) It has elbow pockets and “Chambray lined welt pockets,” and since I’m not even sure what “welt pockets” are, I know it must be fancy. And, come on, every guy deserves a fancy hoodie with Chambray lined welt pockets.

 

 

If he likes people to leave him alone on the subway: Audio Technica Headphones
A holdover from last year’s gift guide, I got these headphones for Drew after a music fan friend of ours recommended them. Drew reports that the sound quality is perfect and no one bothers him on the subway anymore. Mission accomplished.

 

 

NM1000_281_fIf he needs new snow boots: Sorel snow boots
I got these for Drew last year after he started wrapping his shoes in plastic bags when it snowed, and he said they are among his favorite gifts ever. He loves them so much, he wears them at the slightest hint of snow flurries. When I showed him the first draft of this gift guide, he said, “Where are my boots?! Those things are awesome!” Here they are, here they are!

 

button-stud-watchbands_2012-10_04If he needs a new watch and likes to keep it simple: Button-Stud Weekender
It’s just a great-looking watch with nice, clean lines and a unique button-stud wristband, and it’s only 84 bucks. The guy who will like this is the guy who enjoys Scotch, doing crossword puzzles, and making his own pesto.

 

 

malW1y2J4yR6HYtJE9rgKjQIf he doesn’t take himself too seriously: Sock it to me Socks (like this bacon pair)
Not only attractive, these are some seriously comfortable socks too (I own some myself, as does Drew).

 

 

 

 

 

BROTHER/ LIKE A BROTHER
This guy has your back and you’ve got his. Maybe you share a similar sense of humor and maybe you’ve invested lots of time advising each other on relationships and such. Show your appreciation with any of these fine gifts.

how-to-swear-around-the-world-xlIf he’s taking a gap year to travel (the bastard): How to Swear Around the World
Because how else is he supposed to know what to say when he finds out he has to pay for his own toilet paper at European gas stations?

 

ss-stemless-BS-2If he likes enjoying a glass of vino after a long hike: stainless steel wine glasses
Unbreakable, just like your bond.

 

 

Shreddies-underwear-that-stops-farts-smelling_dezeen_3If you’re tired of smelling his silent-but-deadlies: fart filtering underwear
It’s a gift for him that everyone will thank you for.

 

 

81ByHEfWseL._SL1500_Corkcicle Chillsner Beer Chiller
I’d buy this for the clever name alone, but I hear it works pretty well too.

 

 

 

 

41X-S1mhlvLIf he’s trying to get into shape and likes things that are trendy: kettle bells
It’s the fitness craze that’s sweeping the nation. Or something like that. Basically, people who do the kettlebell workout love it and swear by it. Be sure to include a training DVD.

 

 

Screen Shot 2013-11-22 at 2.26.27 PMIf he’s always quoting some book, with a drink in had: Tequila Mockingbird: Cocktails with a Literary Twist
Vermouth the Bell Tolls? Gin Eyre? The Last of the Mojitos? This is the perfect book for all the literary nerds who like to drink (which is most of them, if grad school was any indication).

 

 

 

 

GAY BESTIE/BROTHER
Where would you be without him? He gives you fashion advice, watches “Real Housewives” with you, shares your crush on Ryan Gosling, and never makes you feel like you’re in competition with each other. He’s the best.

23573_zoom1If it’s always martini o’clock in his house: Wood martini glasses
He “wood” love them! Get it?!

 

 

 

 

72545-cowshed-pocket-cow-bullocks-gift-set-20ml-bracing-body-wash-20ml-refining-facial-scrub-20ml-smooth-shaving-cream-20ml-soothing-moisturiserIf he’s always asking you how old he looks: Pocket Cow Bullocks
Guys love the brand Bullocks and this travel set includes: Bracing Body Wash, Refining Facial Scrub, Smooth Shaving Cream, Soothing Moisturiser.

 

 

 

Bass-Guitar-String-Bracelets-1_grandeIf he’s a guitar man who likes a little jewelry: Bass Guitar String Bracelets
Rugged and cool and only 16 bucks.

 

 

 

 

NICEIf he’s a world traveler who likes a pop of color on the wall: Flight Tag Print
These vintage flight tag prints feature a host of cool cities he may have visited or would love to see some time, like Nice, which is nice. (And you are too if you get him one of these cool prints).

 

 

 

img6oIf he likes collecting trinkets and appreciates stuff that looks sort of old but maybe really isn’t: Rustic Wood Stash Box
Now he can stash stuff in style.

 

 

 

 

DAD
He’s the first man in your life you ever trusted. He survived your adolescence and probably deserves a medal for it, but any of these gifts would be just as good.

 

mR48rWFQkiHqH9U4eNHLVeAIf he thinks the key to happiness is the perfect pair of slippers: Sorel Men’s Falcon Ridge Slipper
These will make him happy! They’re from the same company that makes the snow boots listed earlier — Sorel knows how to make feet comfy!

 

 

51s3oAE304L._SY300_If he’s workin’ on his photography skillz: Professional Lens Filter Accessory Kit
Including filter kits (UV, CPL, FLD), carry pouch, tulip lens hood, snap-on lens cap w/ cap keeper leash, and a some sort of magical cleaning cloth, this is basically a goodie bag for any camera lover (Nikon camera, that is). Pair with a wireless remote, a cool polka-dotted neck strap and you’ve got a great themed gift for the photo geek.

 

 

SSGROWLER-BLANK-kegworks-stainless-steel-growler-B1If he has become a beer aficionado in his retirement: Stainless steel growler
Dad can fill up this 64 ounce growler at his favorite filling station and trust that the beer will stay fresh and keep its flavor. Plus, it looks pretty bad-ass, too.

 

 

 

Todds-Concoctions-1If his motto in life is “the hotter, the better”: Todd’s Concoctions
I’ll just let the product description speak for itself: “A collection of hot sauces, ketchups, BBQ sauces, and relishes that sound like they were invented by some mad scientist (or someone who was super high). The different concoctions available include: Cola Leather BBQ, Tobacco Moonshine BBQ, Marshmallow Smoke Ketchup, Chewing Gum Tobacco Ketchup, Squid Ink Cayenne Hot Sauce, and Root Beer Pickle Hot Relish. Because you haven’t been using enough leather or cigarette butts in your recipes.”

 

31YvPtJtAqL._SY300_If his doctor told him to get in shape: Fitbit
The Fitbit Zip tracks steps, distance, and calories burned — then automatically syncs the data to the owner’s Fitbit account through any and all of his gadgets. Even if he hates exercising, he’ll probably enjoy the geek aspect syncing data to his gadgets.

 

 

Stocking Stuffers

AJ Morgan Sunglasses (my fave for cheap but stylish sunnies)

Drumstick pencils

Kiehls Soap-On-A-Rope Limited Edition

Gentlemen’s Card Deck

Motz Tiny Wooden Acorn Speaker and FM Radio

Repurposed coin guitar pick

Yumaki bamboo ergonomic toothbrush

Match case

Artisinal beef jerky

IPA lip balm

Death Star lollipops

Baxter of California face wash

Bacon candy canes

Cremo cream shave

Stainless Steel Ice Cubes for whiskey lovers who don’t want their booze watered down. (Good for women too!).

Vosges Mo’ Bacon Caramel

Key bottle opener

 

For more gift ideas, check out my 2012 holiday gift guide for men.

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    TECH December 3, 2013, 1:09 pm

    I think you missed the link for the fart filtering underwear. I would give them to my brother, and I think his wife would appreciate it, but isn’t it weird to give your brother underwear as a gift? I’m on the fence about it.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Wendy December 3, 2013, 1:14 pm

      Thanks, link added. And FYI, if you click on any of the images, you’ll be linked up.

      Underwear for a brother is great if it’s fart-filtering, come on.

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    • kare

      kare December 3, 2013, 1:15 pm

      How close are you with his wife? You could always send her the link and say “hey this might be a funny but much needed gift”.

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  • GatorGirl

    GatorGirl December 3, 2013, 1:11 pm

    I got GGuy whiskey stones last year and I steal them when I drink white wine or martini’s. They are awesome.

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  • kare

    kare December 3, 2013, 1:13 pm

    Nice copper pots reference, Wendy! 🙂

    Seriously, I’ll never forget the saga of the copper pots and Louboutins.

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      spark December 3, 2013, 8:18 pm

      Love the reference to the copper pots! She-who-shall-remain-unnamed should never live that hot mess down!

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      • Lady_Red

        Red_Lady December 8, 2013, 8:13 pm

        Yeah, that one made me laugh!!

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    kerrycontrary December 3, 2013, 1:16 pm

    Copper pots !!!!!!!! 🙂 I can never find anything for my brother in law or brother. They’re not super into drinking or lounging or anything. And they have new babies. Any gift ideas for new dads?

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    Christy December 3, 2013, 1:24 pm

    Seriously, Wendy, this list is awesome. I want about half of the things on the list for myself (or for gf).

    And I literally cracked up when I got to the copper pots reference. I had to hold my hands over my mouth because I work in a cubicle near other people. That reference alone has made this work day so much better.

    Sidebar: Has anyone ever actually used copper pots? Are they worth it?

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    • the_optimist

      the_optimist December 3, 2013, 1:28 pm

      Copper pots are WHAT’S. UP. They conduct heat better than pretty much anything else, they last a long time and they’re really pretty to boot. We have a small copper teapot that is just my favorite thing. My dream is to one day own a set like the one Wendy posted above.

      Oh…so yeah, worth it 🙂

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        EricaSwagger December 3, 2013, 1:39 pm

        They’re pretty until they tarnish. Then they’re a pain to get pretty again!

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      iseeshiny December 3, 2013, 3:03 pm

      I have these, and they are amazing:

      They’re not all copper, but they have a thick layer between two layers of stainless – they heat really evenly and stay hot, so you keep the stove temperature a little lower than you would with, say, those thin nonstick pans. You can use a brillo pad to clean them if you need to, they look pretty, I love them so.

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      • rawkmys0cks

        rawkmys0cks December 3, 2013, 5:24 pm

        I also have these! They are great!

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    • GatorGirl

      GatorGirl December 3, 2013, 3:14 pm

      I’ve never used copper pots, but I do have All Clad and it is totally worth the money. The cooking is so much more even, they clean better, they are pretty, last longer…yeah I love nice pots and pans.

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      kerrycontrary December 3, 2013, 3:37 pm

      My pots have copper on the bottom which helps with even heating. I’m going to register for Le Creuset pans for my wedding (woot woot!).

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        lets_be_honest December 3, 2013, 3:39 pm

        are those better than copper?

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        kerrycontrary December 3, 2013, 4:36 pm

        They’re coated caste iron so they’re….different? I’ve never had trouble with them sticking though when I use them at my mom’s. Plus you can put them on the table and they still look nice.

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      • rawkmys0cks

        rawkmys0cks December 3, 2013, 5:26 pm

        I am totally registering for Le Creuset. The only piece I have right now is a Le Creuset tea kettle. I loooooove it and I want more!

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        Morgan December 3, 2013, 6:44 pm

        We have one le creustet right now (a saute pan) and I love it except, and this is embarassing, I can’t lift it off the stove. So I never use it if I’m cooking w/o the bf home 🙁

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  • the_optimist

    the_optimist December 3, 2013, 1:25 pm

    Oh you bad, Wendy…. you bad. 😉 SO getting those CK pants for my boyfriend and that How to Swear book for my boss. Thanks for these!

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    Banana December 3, 2013, 1:25 pm

    I haven’t even finished reading the whole thing, but I just wanted to say: WENDY, YOU ROCK! This is fantastic! I want to get everything in the first two sections for Banano because it’s all 100% up his alley, and I’m saving a bunch of it for future holidays since I already got him his gift (a record player) but now I want to add some of this on. Plus, lots of good ideas for my brothers/Banano’s brothers/my dad.

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      Banana December 3, 2013, 1:28 pm

      ZOMG and the gay suggestions are perfect for my bro and his partner! They’d LOVE those wood martini glasses!

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      Banana December 3, 2013, 1:32 pm

      Okay Wendy fess up: do you secretly know Banano, my dad, and my gay brother?

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      • Dear Wendy

        Wendy December 3, 2013, 1:37 pm

        Yeah, we’re all drinking buddies!

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        Banana December 3, 2013, 1:41 pm

        I knew it!!

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      Banana December 3, 2013, 1:36 pm

      Also, LOVED the custom guitar picks. Which reminded me of something I learned on my gift-buying journeys with Banano…for those dating regular musicians, picks are apparently always welcome because they’re so easily lost. They get lost in cases, at gigs, around your room…kind of like the musician version of bobby pins, which seem to disappear into the ether. If you’re buying a case of plastic picks, though, remember to ask which size/weight he prefers! (I’d had no idea they were different.)

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      • Lyra

        Lyra December 3, 2013, 1:43 pm

        I dated a fellow band teacher (read: band nerd) for over 3 years. We bought each other music scores, instrument supplies, and techie classical music stuff for birthdays, anniversaries, and Christmas. It was awesome haha.

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      • Diablo

        Diablo December 3, 2013, 5:17 pm

        Just a note, B: some of us are insanely particular about the type of pick they use, so you might want to check on that too. I’ve received guitar picks which were appreciated as thoughtful gifts but never used for this reason. I can no longer get my brand in my city, so i pick up quantities whenever we travel to larger cities. It’s the same with strings.

        As to the phrase “regular musicians,” well, i do get a lot of fibre in my diet…

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  • Lyra

    Lyra December 3, 2013, 1:27 pm

    BAHAHAHA the copper pots literally made me LOL.

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    Ivory December 3, 2013, 1:50 pm

    I love “The Frisky” reference with the copper pots 🙂

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      Holly December 3, 2013, 5:32 pm

      Hahaha yeah, I saw that and was like “BURN, WENDY!”

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  • katie

    katie December 3, 2013, 1:52 pm

    ohhhhh i got jake some slippers already but those are probably way better…. hmmmm

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    bethany December 3, 2013, 2:10 pm

    I bought those headphones for my husband! I still need a gift idea for my dad… All the Dad ones were cool, but not quite right for my dad… If anyone has “dad” suggestions, keep ’em coming!

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      lets_be_honest December 3, 2013, 2:12 pm

      wine.

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        bethany December 3, 2013, 2:17 pm

        I got my dad a “gift certificate” for a wine class and a bottle of wine at this awesome Mega Wine store last year (and the year before), and we never actually got around to going this year… So… Maybe I shouldn’t get wine until he cashes in last year’s gift!

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        lets_be_honest December 3, 2013, 2:18 pm

        golf balls? haha. wine and golf balls are the only things dads like, right? oh, ties too!

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        bethany December 3, 2013, 2:20 pm

        I used to get him golf balls and racquet balls every year. I think he’s at maximum capacity!

        I might get him some sort of iphone gadget, since he just got one?

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        lets_be_honest December 3, 2013, 2:22 pm

        That’s a good idea!

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        GatorGirl December 3, 2013, 3:13 pm

        Hahaha. My dad neither golfs nor drinks wine. He is IMPOSSIBLE to shop for.

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        lets_be_honest December 3, 2013, 3:17 pm

        That’s what socks are for silly!

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        bethany December 3, 2013, 3:22 pm

        I get him socks all the time, too!! And he only wears ONE KIND. It’s so annoying.

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      • GatorGirl

        GatorGirl December 3, 2013, 3:25 pm

        Yup, my dad wears white Haines tube socks. Seriously.

        He is basically a farmer, he wears the same jeans (Levi’s 505s), same shirt (button down from LLBEAN), and boots every single day. He doesn’t read, only drinks one kind of beer, doesn’t golf, doesn’t travel…I have no idea and haven’t for years.

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        bethany December 3, 2013, 3:45 pm

        My dad wears Gold Toe Fluffies. And he’s just like your dad!! Same jeans, same shirts, it’s crazy!

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      • othy

        othy December 3, 2013, 6:01 pm

        Maybe it’s a dad thing? My dad’s been wearing the same jeans/shirt/socks as long as I can remember. At least his glasses are *almost* stylish. Almost.

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        lets_be_honest December 3, 2013, 3:29 pm

        a donation to The Human Fund?

        (real suggestion: Omaha Steaks)

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        bethany December 3, 2013, 3:47 pm

        I like the Omaha Steaks suggestion!!

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        bethany December 3, 2013, 3:55 pm

        I just emailed an awesome local farm that puts together meat/cheese gift boxes for Christmas, to see if they still had any available. Yay!

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        lets_be_honest December 3, 2013, 3:56 pm

        Great!

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      • GatorGirl

        GatorGirl December 3, 2013, 3:57 pm

        Omg can you Facebook me that?

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    • Dear Wendy

      Wendy December 3, 2013, 2:27 pm

      Check last year’s gift guide, too, for more dad ideas, as well as my Father’s Day gift guide from this year.

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      rawkmys0cks December 3, 2013, 3:03 pm

      I think this year I’m getting my dad a gift certificate for the dollar shave club, and some fancy shaving cream. Google it!

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        bethany December 3, 2013, 3:22 pm

        I have heard of that– But again, with the theme of my dad being impossible, he is obsessed with his electric razor and won’t use anything else.

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        lets_be_honest December 3, 2013, 3:34 pm

        CAR WASH GIFT CERTIFICATES!!!

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        bethany December 3, 2013, 3:56 pm

        OOH– That’s a good one, too!! YAY!

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  • Fabelle

    Fabelle December 3, 2013, 2:20 pm

    Lololol @ copper pots, oh my.

    Ahh, these are great. I need to ask my bf if he wants snow boots, because I would love to get those for him (& they go up to size 14/15!! I clicked, preparing myself for disappointment, but yay!! So he better need snow boots…ha!)

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    • Fabelle

      Fabelle December 3, 2013, 2:21 pm

      Also yeah, my dad is always needing slippers, so those might go on the list. And he’s into spicy shit. So that Todd’s collection thing… hmm.

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  • peppers87

    peppers87 December 3, 2013, 2:32 pm

    Got the camera lens filter kit for my brother!! So excited

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  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray December 3, 2013, 2:34 pm

    I thoroughly enjoyed reading this gift list. I want the fart underwear for myself.

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    • honeybeenicki

      honeybeenicki December 3, 2013, 4:26 pm

      Who wouldn’t want those?!

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      • Addie Pray

        Addie Pray December 3, 2013, 4:33 pm

        Like, think of all the times you’ve accidentally farted. It would have been really helpful if I had been wearing that underwear. That’s just a good daily defensive tactic. Also does it trap sound?

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  • Jess

    Jess December 3, 2013, 2:58 pm

    The death start lollipops went STRAIGHT into my Etsy cart for purchase. My husband will be overjoyed.

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    • honeybeenicki

      honeybeenicki December 3, 2013, 4:27 pm

      I’m getting those for my bonus son! And the drumstick pencils for my husband.

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  • mrmidtwenties

    mrmidtwenties December 3, 2013, 3:33 pm

    Guys, you’re all free to get any of these for me, and I need about 14 pairs of the fart underwear.

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    sms841 December 3, 2013, 3:57 pm

    I am so excited to purchase almost everything on this list. Goodbye, shopping budget! Thanks Wendy for great suggestions!

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    sisisodapop December 3, 2013, 4:25 pm

    Love the TF/Copper Pots reference. Too funny!

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  • CatsMeow

    CatsMeow December 3, 2013, 5:32 pm

    How come the booze, beer, and bacon stuff is always on “guy” lists? Those are a few of my favorite things… I also want the jerky and hot sauce. And the fart underwear. Of course, the fart underwear. (I was just talking about it today actually!!)

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  • Jess

    Jess December 3, 2013, 6:08 pm

    Can someone fill me in on the copper pots joke?

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    • kare

      kare December 3, 2013, 6:49 pm

      This article:
      http://www.thefrisky.com/2011-03-16/does-your-ex-owe-you-something-after-a-breakup/

      There used to be a ton of comments on this article, but now there aren’t any..weird.

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        applescruffs December 3, 2013, 8:09 pm

        I think they switched servers and all the comments from before the switch got wiped.

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        jsw December 4, 2013, 10:50 am

        They tend to do that often enough… it’s almost as though they don’t value the comments or commenters. Weird.

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      spark December 3, 2013, 8:21 pm

      But it was more than just that article. The author carried on about that saga and her break-up in the most entitled, immature, and painful way for a long time. Plus, she was unlikeable as it was; the copper pots saga really exploded.

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      • kare

        kare December 3, 2013, 10:36 pm

        This is very true. I think at one point the main writer for the site or whoever made a post to admonish all the commenters that had said it wasn’t appropriate for her to take the pots because they were a gift. I mainly read the site for Wendy, so I quickly jumped ship once she started Dear Wendy.

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        Morgan December 3, 2013, 10:46 pm

        Yeah, there were like 4 or 5 articles. That was the second or third I think.

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      • Lianne

        Lianne December 4, 2013, 9:15 am

        I still read The Frisky and every article she writes is either whiney, braggy, snotty, or all three. Can’t stand her.

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      • kare

        kare December 4, 2013, 10:18 am

        Really? Ugh. I remember they stopped featuring most of the writers (like Wendy), and heavily promoted/defended the whole copper pots saga so I stopped reading.

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        lets_be_honest December 4, 2013, 10:20 am

        Oh, but its such a good hate-read sometimes.

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        _jsw_ December 4, 2013, 10:53 am

        Don’t forget that many of them are about issues that have nothing to do with feminism but which she turns into feminist issues. They’re not really whiney, or braggy, or snotty. More like “poorly written page-click-whoring attempts to get men’s groups to respond enough that the site will get more traffic.”

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    • Jess

      Jess December 4, 2013, 11:30 am

      Ahhhh yes. I had sort of a vague awareness of all of that. I also started with Wendy at the Frisky and also jumped ship. I didn’t follow that other writer enough to get a read on her but I did catch on to the fact that she had acquired a lot of haters.

      For what its worth, I think she was wrong in keeping the pots 😉

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    Morgan December 3, 2013, 6:42 pm

    a) I love you for including the copper pots

    b) I got my boyfriend a cashmere sweater i fully intend to steal, but i should have gotten those lounge pants. He never wears pants and it drives me up a wall. I’m both always cold and a big believer in being clothed, so I just do not get it.

    c) I had no idea what to get my dad, and those Todd’s concoctions might be a winner, so thanks!!

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    sms841 December 3, 2013, 9:54 pm

    Also, my boyfriend wears the CK micro modal underwear religiously, so I really can’t imagine how comfortable those pants would be!

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  • Nookie

    Nookie December 4, 2013, 5:20 am

    People, can I please use this opportunity to tell you how dastardly (wonderful) I’ve been with the Cockney’s BIG present? I’ve got him some smaller things but I’m going to totally big up the one present, which is wrapped up in a big box. But when he opens said box, he will find a small present inside. This is a book that he wanted which he will be pleased about but confused on why I made a big deal of it.

    He will then open the book and the tickets for a helicopter ride around London will fall out! I am an evil genius (wonderful person)!!

    Oh, I’m excited.

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      lets_be_honest December 4, 2013, 9:03 am

      You’re awesome, and not just for the Brit-talk.

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      • Nookie

        Nookie December 4, 2013, 10:49 am

        Thank you! Please do something similar to a member of your family if possible. I cannot WAIT for this moment alone. 🙂

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      rachel December 4, 2013, 10:59 am

      That’s awesome Nookie!

      When I told Ross I had gotten him 3 things already (and had hence won Christmas) he said 12 PRESENTS! So, I think I’m gonna get him 12 presents. I’m up to 6 now. I think the last 6 will be really cheap, haha.

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      • Nookie

        Nookie December 5, 2013, 9:05 am

        12 presents?! Greedy gob! I’d start wrapping things he already owns. Like his socks or underwear.

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        lets_be_honest December 5, 2013, 9:39 am

        Next he’ll demand 300 sandwiches.

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    _jsw_ December 4, 2013, 10:32 am

    I love the copper pots comment. 😉

    By the way, the M50 headphones in the list are stellar – I own a pair and love them. They also contain the sound so as not to annoy others around you. If you want slightly better sound quality at the expense of leaking some sound, I also like the AKG K240 MK II ones: http://www.amazon.com/dp/B0016MNBAM

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    Jessica December 4, 2013, 9:35 pm

    “Just remember, it’s a gift, so he gets to keep them if you break up.”

    There are many reasons to love you, Wendy, and this joke is pretty high up on the list. I tip my hat to you.

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    ktfran December 5, 2013, 9:36 am

    Alright DWers, I’m late to the men’s gift guide article, but is this lame?

    I want to get the kid a little something. He’s coming in town over Christmas and we’ll see one another. Actually, he called the other night to see what my plans were. I acted a little weird on the phone so I need to tell him that he can stay with me Friday/Saturday if he wants. Anyway, I was thinking about getting him a little bit of Chicago to take home. For instance:

    Some of the co op hot sauce he loves, made at a little sustainable shop here
    Vosages mo chocolate (chocolate with bacon bits)
    Dark matter coffee beans

    Anything else? Is this a stupid idea? Or ok? I thought about adding beer to the list, but that’s a pain to take home. Plus, I got him that and three floyd’s beer glasses as a going away present.

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  • LadyinPurpleNotRed

    LadyinPurpleNotRed December 10, 2013, 3:34 pm

    Got the Calvin Klein pants today…holy shit those feel so good!

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  • theattack

    theattack December 16, 2013, 4:04 pm

    Crappp. I got my husband the Fitbit and then realized it doesn’t work with his iPhone 4. Now I have to return it and start over a week before Christmas. 🙁

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