Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

8 Years Together And They Still Haven’t Said “I Love You”

I love this! This is the first installment in a new video series from “This American Life” called Videos 4 U. In the series filmmaker Bianca Giaever “finds people who have something they need to say to somebody and she makes a video to help them say it.” In this series premier, a woman struggles with saying “I love you” for the first time to her boyfriend of eight years.

And here’s the couple watching the video together for the first time:

AWWWWWW.

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  • bittergaymark

    bittergaymark February 12, 2015, 1:25 pm

    See? More of you should just be patient. Really, really patient. Look, only the truly emotionally ever stunted get covered by American Life… Then again, maybe that dreadful, beyond tragic beard simply kept her from saying, “I love you.” Awfully hard to say the three magic words when the only three running through your head are “WTF? Go shave!!”
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      Dear Wendy February 12, 2015, 1:31 pm

      I do agree with you on the tragic beard, but I thought these two were sorta sweet.

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        RedroverRedrover February 12, 2015, 1:34 pm

        They seem sweet, but how does this even happen!?!?! She said in the video that she was awkward, well they must both be really awkward to be dating each other for 8 years, appear to actually love each other, but never say it! Crazy! Well, I’m happy for them that they finally did.

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      • gigi

        gigi February 12, 2015, 1:41 pm

        Sometimes you don’t need words. You can tell by the actions that you are loved. Then again sometimes you do….. I posted about it 9-10 months ago. About wanting to hear those 3 words. I could tell that he loved me, but I really really wanted to hear it. And I finally did! In November! And it was really hard to say it back, because I had trained myself for so long to not say those words to him. It only took 4 years….Ugh. I also got a marriage proposal! Which I did not accept. Or maybe … postponed is a better word.

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      • bittergaymark

        bittergaymark February 12, 2015, 1:43 pm

        PS — I kept waiting for somebody to call Adnan.
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        “Look, I don’t know how it works. You can say I love you or don’t. I don’t know. I don’t know you. You can believe me — or not? Take what I say as true — or not? Do you love him? Spit it out, girl? I mean… WHAT. I. AM. SAYING. IS. LIFE. IS. SHORT. Yeah. Yeah, I understand that. But what are you waiting for? And. What. Does. ANY. Of. This — have to do with my appeal?!”
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      • Addie Pray

        Addie Pray February 12, 2015, 3:01 pm

        haha, totally

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  • mylaray

    mylaray February 12, 2015, 1:52 pm

    This was sweet. My husband and I waited over 2 years to say it, but it was so obvious we loved each other. We’re both just awkward and didn’t really feel a need to say it. But everything changed for the better once we could say I love you.

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  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray February 12, 2015, 2:26 pm

    Aww, that was so sweet! I’m all teary now.

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  • Lianne

    Lianne February 12, 2015, 5:22 pm

    That was super sweet. I had chills when she was saying I love you at the end of the video.

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  • FireStar

    FireStar February 12, 2015, 6:52 pm

    But but he still didn’t say it!

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      RedRoverRedRover February 12, 2015, 7:02 pm

      Didn’t he? It sounded to me like he did, right at 6:39. And then she gives him a sweet little look.

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        Kate February 13, 2015, 8:55 am

        He does. But good lord he looked wildly uncomfortable the whole time. He wouldn’t look at her and his right eye got more and more squinty. Something’s off with him, besides just the tragic beard.

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        Mrs. Marcie February 13, 2015, 10:04 am

        Don’t hate me for this, but I too was wondering what was wrong with his face! His squinty eye! What is that all about?

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        Kate February 13, 2015, 10:14 am

        If it’s a facial tic or something I feel bad, but it seemed like discomfort.

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    Kate February 13, 2015, 8:38 am

    Maia has horrific vocal fry. She needs a coach. I was on a call recently with someone from my company who has even worse vocal fry than Maia, a client who has the most insane baby voice, and another colleague who says “you know” 10x per sentence, and I lost my sanity.

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    • Addie Pray

      Addie Pray February 13, 2015, 10:18 am

      What’s vocal fry? Do I have it? I don’t think I have an unusual voice or speak weird. I’m nervous now, though, ha.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Dear Wendy February 13, 2015, 2:36 pm

      Never heard of vocal fry; totally fascinated by it now.

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