I immediately made an inspection on the bed and saw that there are some strands of long hair in the pillow and in the bed sheet. I know those are not my hair for the following reasons:
1. I have short hair.
2. Before I left my place, I had cleaned it thoroughly.
I immediately phoned him and asked if there was a girl who came to my apartment – which he denied. He got upset with me, saying that I have judged him in this regard. I wanted to believe him, but I can’t shake the feeling that I am right to think that he did bring a girl into my place and had sex with her.
I don’t know what to do. Should I insist on what I feel is the truth? Should I break up with him? — Short-Haired Girl
It says a lot about your relationship and your obvious trust issues that, upon finding long hair in your bed, you immediately jumped to the conclusion that your boyfriend had sex with another girl while you were away. I mean, maybe he did. But, maybe one of his friends he had over for crazy video games had sex with someone in your bed. Or, maybe he never had friends over for crazy video games and instead gave your keys to someone else to have a sex-fueled weekend getaway with a long-lost lovah visiting from out of town. Still, whether he cheated on you or not, the fact that you THINK he did is enough reason to end this relationship, not to mention how rude he was to leave your place in disarray while you were away.
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