After he went home, I noticed that he had cooled off. No cute texts, and phone calls were sporadic. If I tried to call, he would keep the call short and there was no pillow talk like before. I had a bad day at work one day and learned that a friend had died of cancer. I really needed a friend to talk to about it. I called him at 7:15 p.m. and he told me he was eating dinner and would call back. My girlfriend called me a bit later and I must not have heard the click from his incoming call. About 10:00 a.m. I texted him to see if he could call me back. No response. I tried to call him, but his answering machine came on.
The next day I tried using *67 to see if he was avoiding me or would answer the phone. He answered the phone and yelled at me, saying that my text really pissed him off and that he had tried to call earlier but the line was busy. I told him that I did not hear the beep. He hung up on me after saying that no girl is going to control him.
Perhaps I should have given him his space but didn’t expect him to talk to me like that. Since then there has been no contact from him. — Sadder But Wiser
1. Four days is a long time to spend in constant company with someone you’ve never met in person. If you meet someone online again who lives far away and you decide to meet in person, keep the first visit to no longer than two days. (Bonus if the person visiting has someone else he or she can actually crash with).
2. When you have a terrible day and need someone to talk to, don’t choose the person who has been distant with you, keeping his (sporadic) calls short and changing the tenor of his communication.
3. Bullet dodged, my dear. This guy sounds like a jerk, and a sexist one at that. File this whole experience away in the folder marked “Now I Know Better.” Because you do.
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