However, our families will eventually see the tattoo, at one holiday or another. Hiding it for multiple decades just seems silly, as well as very out of character for me. I think the longer I hide it from them, the more incensed they will be when they finally learn about it. So, I am thinking of mentioning it casually in conversation when I speak to them next and letting their unpleasant reactions happen over the phone. Hopefully then, they will have it out of their systems by graduation. But perhaps that will just cause more drama? I honestly have no clue how to proceed. I would very much appreciate your thoughts! — Getting Inked
Admittedly, I don’t really understand the big deal — about tattoos or about someone’s reaction to said tattoos. What does creating “drama” over your adult daughter’s tattoo even look like? Are you anticipating a few sighs and eye-rolls and words of disapproval, or do you anticipate being disowned and uninvited to future family get-togethers? Honestly, if you think your family’s reaction is really going to be so terrible that it’s going to ruin your graduation weekend, wear a freakin’ cardigan over your loveliest summer dresses when you’re around the ‘rents, or just wait until after they leave to get the tattoo. If neither of those options appeal to you and you want to minimize whatever drama you think is going to happen when your tattoo is unveiled, then mention it over the phone or email a few days before your May graduation: “Oh, by the way, to mark this incredible milestone of earning my MD, I got a tattoo on my back. I know you disapprove of tattoos, but it felt meaningful to me to get one to mark this occasion and I wanted to let you know now so you aren’t in shock if you happen to see it over the weekend. Can’t wait to see you guys! Bye!” And then suck it up and deal with whatever fall-out there might be. You’re a big girl — you can handle it.
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