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I was seeing this amazing guy for about four months. Everything was great. He told me he had feelings for me and I felt the same way. Then, out of nowhere, he started ignoring my calls and texts. I demanded an answer, and he said that, even though he cares for me and has feelings for me, he can’t be my boyfriend or anyone else’s because he has family issues that he is going through and he can’t be good company. We didn’t contact each other for a month, and, when I finally called him, he told me he was happy I called because he had lost my number. He then called me quite often for a week until I found out he is seeing someone. I asked him about this, and he said that, while they went out a few times, there are no feelings. I’m really confused because this guy seems like he wants to be friends only, yet I have strong feelings for him and I just want to know if it’s right to tell him I can’t be friends. — Have Enough Friends
I don’t know what you’re confused about. The guy told you he didn’t want to date you anymore. He broke up with you. He “lost your number.” And you two were only back in contact after you initiated it. I mean, no shit he only wants to be your friend and nothing more. If that’s not cool with you, MOA. Don’t even bother telling him you can’t be friends — just follow his lead and lose his number.