In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me:
Anyway, during a significantly rough patch between us, I met another guy. He’s handsome, friendly, and has the job that my boyfriend is yearning to get. Everyone wants me to get to know this new guy because they think I can do way better than my boyfriend, but I feel terribly guilty, although a tiny part of me would like to explore other options. I keep telling myself that it is only “fair” since my current boyfriend has had so many previous relationships to compare me with, whereas he is my first serious one. I have a lot of history with my current boyfriend and I know he loves me, but the image of this successful and motivated man that I fell in love with is far from what I’ve experienced thus far. He lacks motivation, lies about irrelevant stuff, and seems to not really care about anything.
Although I love him and would like to help him, it has come to a point where I find myself not being proud enough to tell people that he’s my boyfriend. So my questions are: I do love him, but should I see this other guy and check out my options to compare?; And if not, what can I do to help him get out of this rut without completely doing all the work for him? — Curious about Other Options
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