This Sunday marks eight years since Drew and I were put in touch — over the phone — by our mutual friend, Meg. I was talking about the list of things I was looking for in a guy when suddenly something clicked in her head, and she immediately picked up the phone and called Drew, whom she knew from her days living in New York. That first conversation led to a blind date two weeks later, and the rest, as they say, is history. I’ve been thinking about that initial meeting and how much has changed since then and how lucky we were to have been introduced to each other. I’ve also been thinking about how, if Meg had made that call even two months earlier, I might not have been open or receptive to the idea of dating Drew.
I don’t think I’ve ever talked about this here, but I do credit some of my readiness – a lot of my readiness, actually — in meeting and dating Drew to a book I’d been reading in the weeks leading up to our introduction. It’s a (work)book titled, Calling in “The One: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life, and my friend and I started reading it and working through it together, kind of on a whim. I don’t remember which one of us found the book, and I’m pretty sure we didn’t even spring for two copies of it, instead passing the same copy back and forth. As the title suggests, the book is a basically a seven-week “course” with activities and questions and daily lessons you’re supposed to work through in order to prepare yourself and attract your soulmate. It sounds pretty woo-woo, and, in all honesty, it kind of is. I don’t think either one of us did all the activities and lessons inside the book, but we did a lot of them and we made an honest effort to look inside ourselves and deal with some of the potential blocks keeping up from having fulfilling relationships.
Anyway, as I said, the book is pretty woo-woo and at times I felt really silly working through the various activities, but, since I was also at a place in my life where I was tired of being alone or getting stuck in the same relationship patterns, I figured, “Eh, what will a little silliness hurt? And what if it actually helps?” And it did help. Seven weeks almost to the day after I started Calling in “The One: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life is when I first spoke to Drew — the man I would eventually fall in love with and marry. Coincidence? Maybe. But I really do think that, if I hadn’t addressed some of the issues keeping me from giving and receiving the kind of love I was looking for, I wouldn’t have been truly ready to give a relationship — especially one across hundreds of miles — a real shot.
I’m not saying this book will work for everyone. But I do think that, if you’re in a place like I was where you’re really ready for a life-changing relationship, this book can’t hurt. I don’t make any promises, but I also feel pretty certain that, if you give it an honest effort despite any potential feelings of silliness, you’ll get something out of it. And maybe you won’t meet your soulmate in seven weeks, but I bet that, when you do meet him or her, you’ll be in a better place of readiness. It worked for me. It might work for you too.