He was my bus driver for a school I worked for and I would ride his bus every day, so every day he and I would just hug and kiss and get to spend like an hour together before I had to catch my train home. I have since left that school and he was fired (unrelated to me), and since all of that I have only really seen him like three times to hang out.
Long story short: he has taken vacations with his girlfriend, has taken her to his sons’ weddings and etc., and has even gotten a hotel room for them after the wedding of one of his sons even though he told me that he had to be careful how much he drank so he could drive home after the wedding. He had this hotel room scheduled way before the day of the wedding, so why the need to lie to me? The way I found out was he was FaceTiming me from the wedding and he forgot to shut his phone off and put it in his pocket that is how I found out they had a room and were heading there. I also heard him talking with the sister of the bride about a tattoo that she had on her back right above her butt. He asked her if they are still called “tramp stamps,” which, to me, is totally inappropriate and makes me feel like he is loose and a player.
Understand that he is 64 years old I am 50, and I am widowed and not seeing anyone. He told me also that he was going out of town to VA because he had a buddy who was a war hero and was going to be buried there, which is true. He said they would leave on Thursday morning, get a hotel, and come back Friday. We were going to see each other Friday evening for the first time in months. So he called me Wednesday morning and said he was heading to a job interview, which I believed; he said he could not wait to get out of his interview clothes and that he would let me know how the interview went. I said good luck and we hung up. A few hours later I asked him if he was back from his interview and he said soon. I still had not heard from him a couple of hours after, so I texted him and got nothing back. SIX more hours went by and it was 8:30 pm so I knew he was no longer at the interview. I was so angry at that point, because of the day before with all the wedding lies and now this, so I sent a couple of angry texts.
Well, finally he calls me and says he is on his way home. I asked him where he was and for like five minutes he kept saying, “You don’t know where I was? You mean you really don’t know where I was?” I finally said, “Are you going to tell me or not?” He then stated that I blew the surprise and that he went to VA a day early so he could get back early and spend more time with me Friday. Bull crap. I don’t believe him. Anyway, he said he never had an interview. Why the need to lie to me about this? It only took him two hours to get to Virginia and two to get back, and he was on his way at 7:30 a.m., so why did he get back at 8:30 p.m.? Oh, and he was drunk, too. He said he was at a brunch-like thing with his relatives who went with him to the funeral and he should have called but forgot to and he was sorry. Yeah, right!
Since the few nasty texts I sent, we have texted each other and I thought everything was ok, but I texted him this morning to ask him how he is holding up after the funeral and I did not get a response all morning. Noon comes and I call him to be sure he is ok and he answers, does not say anything, and then immediately hangs up the phone and shuts it off! I just need to get your opinion on how you view this guy. I know how I am viewing him, but what the hell?
P.S. We have never had sex either. He claims he has not had sex with his girlfriend for 10 years, but, if it has been that long, then why didn’t he ever want to have it with me?? — Yeah, Right
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