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Life Advice/ Pearls of Wisdom

This text popped up in my Facebook feed this week (from the HONY page) and I had to share it. The words are by Regina Brett and they're lovely. 1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good. 2. When in doubt, just take the next small step. 3. Life is too short to waste time [...]

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My boyfriend and I have been together almost four years, friends for almost six. He has two kids from a previous marriage and we have a son together who is a toddler. We have been discussing getting married next spring (we’ve been talking about it forever), but have a problem with our families. His dad [...]

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I am 48-year-old woman, divorced 15 years ago and mother of 28-year-old son and 26-year-old daughter. Two and a half years ago my old school mate started talking to me on Facebook. He was married then, but he told me that for 17 years he had been unhappy in his marriage to a Russian girl, [...]

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I have been in a relationship with a lovely girl for five and a half years but we keep running into problems. I am willing to make the effort in order to work things out, but she is completely unwilling to change on her part. To give you an idea of what I mean: She [...]

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7 Steps For Getting Back in the Dating Game

I'm like the stupid girlfriend you spoke of in “He Doesn’t See a Future with Me” (dated September 7, 2011). Like the LW, my boyfriend told me he didn't see a future will me. Even though I was looking for a long-term commitment and he told me up front that he did not want to [...]

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My best friend of 20+ years has also been my roommate for the last 2.5 years. Last summer we met a really hot guy at the pool in our apartment complex. Upon meeting him, my friend had a love-at-first-sight reaction while I was mildly attracted to him at best. Since she was really into him, [...]

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My girlfriend is planning to have a boudoir photo shoot, and, ordinarily, I wouldn't have trouble, but the guy who will be taking pictures of my semi-nude girlfriend slept with her before we met and that bothers me. Is it wrong to tell her that it bothers me? I know she really wants to do [...]

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I am 49 years old and and my fiancé is 36. I have three grown children, all from the same father, but I'm having a problem dealing with the existence of my fiancé's 14-year-old daughter. My fiancé was 21 when she was born and signed the birth certificate for a child who wasn't his, and [...]

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I am a first-time mom, living in Spain with my Spanish husband in the neighborhood where he grew up. My MIL has been pressuring me to leave my 5-week-old with her so I can go out and do errands or have some alone time. I am exclusively breast-feeding at the moment and, frankly, am not [...]

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It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. My girlfriend is completely [...]

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Some of Our Best Break-Up Lessons

It's been over four years since I asked readers to share some of their best break-up lessons (or lessons they learned from relationships that ended) and, if my email inbox is any indication, it seemed like it was time to remind people of the silver lining in our broken hearts. So, I posed the question [...]

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In the beginning, I absolutely adored my MIL and had no worries about the promise my husband had made (long before I knew him) to always take care of her because she had a stroke several years earlier. Now, my husband has medically retired from the Army and I am a full-time student and mom. [...]

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I am the youngest of four daughters and have recently had a falling out with one of my sisters. My three sisters all married successful men and they also had careers of their own. I am a teacher, and my husband, who is an immigrant, works in the auto industry. Overall, my siblings have substantial [...]

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“Whom Should I Ask to Be My Bridesmaid?”

I am a young woman (24) who has been engaged for a few months and starting to plan my wedding. I've been friends with two girls, let's call them Monica and Phoebe, since middle school. Over the years I always assumed these girls would both be bridesmaids in my wedding. However, lately, for about the [...]

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“My Boyfriend is a Liar”

After around 10-12 years of two shitty relationships, I have bad trust issues. I went to many dark places and fought so hard to find out who I was again and what I wanted in life and to be able to try to trust someone again. On the verge of nearly giving up, I met [...]

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