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(Originally posted in June, 2013. Re-posting now because the question has come up frequently from LWs and in the forums. P.S. That picture of Jackson below is exactly what Joanie looks like right now, which is kind of freaky.). I've been doing a lot of thinking about the whole kid thing lately, and I just [...]

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Two quickies in one today! I met my now-fiancé a year ago. He came from South Africa to work on a six-month program where I live. Within months we knew we wanted to marry each other. He was able to get his visa extended for another six months, but he had to go work in [...]

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“I Hate Keeping In Touch with My Family”

What do you do when family wants to keep in touch but you have no interest in pursing a relationship with them? Is there a way to stay true to yourself without hurting their feelings? A few months ago, my brother-in-law (my sister's husband) was deployed as a soldier for a humanitarian mission abroad. He [...]

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“My Husband’s Friend Drunkenly Hit on Me”

Last Friday my husband and I and a group of his friends went for a weekend getaway. We were all having a good time and, as the night went on, people kept dropping out of the group, finally leaving just me, my husband, and one other male friend. We had all been drinking heavily that [...]

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It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. I just moved into [...]

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I remarried two years ago after a messy divorce. My new husband is really good to me: loving, calm, decent and all I wanted. We do have a problem though. When he goes to any party hosted by his children (he has four grown children), he can't take me because the ex-wife is there and [...]

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My husband and I will be married thirty years this fall. We are currently in our third house. Fifteen years ago we moved to Florida because we both “retired” due to health issues. We're both legally blind and could no longer work at our respective jobs. But he hated the humidity and my mother was [...]

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https://vimeo.com/133701689 Drew met his/our friend, Bill Gullo, their first week of college way back in the stone age, and they have been pals ever since. These days, Bill and his wife Rachel and their almost five-year-old son live up the street from us (how quaint is that?) and Bill spends much of his time writing [...]

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From the forums: I thought my friend, who's dating my guy friend, had an emotional affair with another man, but she just confided in me that it was a physical one, too. I actually introduced her to her boyfriend, but I'm closer to her. I don’t want to break her trust and I feel out [...]

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“I Caught My Boyfriend With His Cousin”

About four years ago I met my current boyfriend at college. We were just friends starting out, but then it turned into something more. Things were so good, we moved in together and started working together. Then we lost our jobs and had to stay with relatives, and we only saw each other from time [...]

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It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. I'm 25 years old, [...]

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Joanie’s Birth Story

From the beginning of my second trimester, my pregnancy with Joanie was significantly more difficult than my pregnancy with Jackson. By the time I hit 34 weeks, I was so ready for it to be over and, as soon as I hit the magic 37-week milestone (generally safe for a baby to be born), I [...]

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I read one of your columns titled "Should I tell future partners I've hired escorts in the past?" and felt compelled to write in for advice on my own situation. I am a 40-year-old guy in a loving relationship with a girl I adore and know I want to build a future with (we've already [...]

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Weekly Forum Highlights

This week in the forums we're discussing: Daily dose of DW crazy "I care, I just don't really know how to react" Curious: Sharing food w/ others Dad's Dirty House =/= Bringing Over Baby Is he delusional or am I selfish? pre-engagement limbo wedding traditions How to make husband understand things need to change BF [...]

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“Should We Buy My In-Laws’ House?”

Hi, everyone! This first week with Joanie has flown by, but we're all starting to settle in and adjust to new family dynamics (Jackson, as to be expected, is having a bit of a rough time — more on that later). So far, Joanie is the easiest, sweetest baby ever (she rarely cries and literally [...]

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