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Shortcuts: When Hello Means Good-Bye

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. I was at a [...]

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Vacation Open Thread

Hi! I've been on vacation with my family this week in Miami Beach visiting my sister (my parents are visiting, too), and I didn't get around to lining up any new posts for today, so here's an open thread for you instead. I'll even suggest a few conversation topics. Let's see. How about: Do you [...]

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Poll: Do You Stay Friends With Your Exes?

One of the biggest themes in the letters I get from people asking for advice is trouble with exes. Specifically, one or both members of a relationship have remained friendly with exes much to their partner's chagrin. There were two letters in last week's Shortcuts column regarding friendships with exes, and a commenter called me [...]

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“Am I Selfish For Wanting a Kid-Free Wedding?”

I'm getting married in April and I'm having a kid-free wedding. I have six sisters who all have children (ages 2-20) and have had no problem with me having a small wedding with no children to save some money. However, my fiancé's sister, Julie, has suggested several times that she and her husband will be [...]

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It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. I've been with my [...]

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From a recent Savage Love column: I'm a 27-year-old male engaged to a 26-year-old female. We have been together 6 years. We met at college. We've lived together for almost three years. We have been saving to buy a house together. Well, I have been. She makes less than me and has a lot more [...]

in Columns, In Other Words (Letters from other advice columns)
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My partner, Rob, and I each have children from our previous marriages (he has three and I have one). We have been together less than two years now and we are planning to live together shortly. We are very excited and we want to feel as though we are from the same family and are [...]

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About a year ago I ended a relationship that wasn't satisfying with a guy who emotionally abusive. I had a string of unsatisfying relationships before that one, including one that was horribly physically abusive. Now, I can see the signs of a physically abusive relationship, and avoid being in one. After these relationships, I took [...]

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What’s Your Proposal Story?

This week marks seven years since Drew asked me to marry him. I've told the proposal story a bunch of times already, but for those who can't get enough (or, you know, haven't heard it before): Pre-Jackson, we always had a Friday evening tradition of meeting up after work and getting shit-faced at Happy Hour [...]

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I work in a small office of about fourteen people, and, for the most, part everyone gets along quite well. "Rachel", however, is causing everyone a lot of stress due to her overbearing communication style. First, Rachel is a loud talker. If she is speaking, especially in our small break room, no one else can. [...]

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My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly five years and are both in our late twenties. We have been through a lot together — deaths in the family, long distance, job loss, several moves, cultural differences. Despite these things, we are best friends and he is a loving and wonderful man. We lived [...]

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“His Ex-Wife is ALWAYS Around”

My boyfriend and I met at a birthday party in October of 2014. We lived in different states and at first just kept in contact. We went on vacation together a few times and did the long-distance thing. Then he asked me to move to his hometown this past July. I had just finished college [...]

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I'm the youngest of three girls, and the oldest, who has three kids and recently moved back to our town, stresses me out. Now that she's back, we have begun to see more of her daily struggles. Her two older children are in elementary school and her youngest is one. She gets so frustrated with [...]

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“I Don’t Feel Safe with My Boyfriend”

I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. I would like to outline the pros and cons of the relationship. The cons: 1. I don't feel SAFE with him for the mere fact that he has not been able to land a permanent full time JOB. 2. He does court-related [...]

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My current husband has raised my daughters since we married twenty-four years ago when the girls were eight and five. Their biological father was not, and is not, an active parent, and both my daughters love my husband, look up to him, and call him Dad. My older daughter married at eighteen and moved to [...]

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