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This letter was posted on Reddit this week: My husband and I have been happily married for four years, together for six. We're expecting our first child, a boy, due in six weeks. We've honestly never been happier with each other. When we found out we were having a boy, my husband requested we name [...]

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When I started this site over five years ago, I had no idea that weddings would prove to be such a controversial and emotionally-charged topic. But over the last few years, I have received more wedding-related letters than on any other topic. In honor of Wedding Week Day here on Dear Wendy, here is a [...]

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Topic of the Day: Weddings!!

This is the time of year that I would normally be doing Wedding Week here on DW. Well, guess what? I forgot all about Wedding Week until just this minute and don't really feel like making it a big thing this year. Some of you are now popping open the champagne and screaming, "Hells yeah, [...]

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My sister is always complaining to me about her money issues. She and her husband are pregnant with their second child, live rent-free with her parents, have two brand new cars with $300 payments, and have high car insurance due to multiple wrecks on both of their records. She gets mad at her husband because [...]

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The following letter appeared in a recent column of The Ethicist in The New York Times: I have been with my boyfriend for several years, and I love him very much. We each decided to study abroad for the spring semester of our junior year and have found ourselves on opposite ends of the globe. [...]

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Five Ways to Live a Truly “Successful” Life

A friend linked earlier today on Facebook to this beautiful graduation speech (delivered at Colgate University) and, since I thought it complemented our wonderful thread from earlier in the week on some of our favorite advice, I wanted to share some passages. (Read it in full here.) The author, Omid Safi, writes: . . . [...]

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for two and a half years, during which time I have been around his family on numerous occasions: graduations, birthdays, Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc. His grandmother passed away Friday evening, and he did not bother to tell me until the following evening--and only then in a passing conversation about [...]

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From the forums: My fiancé and I have been together for four years. Every year he helps to host and facilitate a large group trip. I've accompanied him on several of these trips over the years, but within the past year he's expressed his concern with me going. His reasoning is that he views these [...]

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To ease us into the work week this Monday morning, here are two-quickies-in-one:   I have been dating this man for almost five months. My birthday is coming up during Memorial Day weekend and he just told me he may be going out of town to go to his uncle's party. He also said that [...]

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It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. My fiancé, Jim, is [...]

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This question seems like a no-brainer, right? But, apparently, some people think women are "disgusting" for demanding such a thing. Some think that if, years earlier, both the man and the woman agreed that the woman would abort or give a baby up for adoption if their recreational sex resulted in an unwanted pregnancy, that [...]

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From the forums: Ten months ago I moved across the country for better career opportunities. Nine months ago I started dating my boyfriend. We both highly value education, have multiple advanced degrees, and live in an area where this is exceptionally rare. We live about an hour apart and take turns driving to one another’s [...]

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I met a guy at work (different department) in February this year and things took off quite well. When this relationship started, he confided in me that he'd been having problems with his girlfriend of one year and they were on the verge of breaking up. He said they weren't on the same page - [...]

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It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. I have been dating [...]

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This was a letter asking advice (sort of), but I thought it would also make a great topic for conversation, so I'm framing it (and answering it below) thusly. Do you think it's possible to cultivate attraction? I'm dating a man who is wonderful to me in ways that I have never experienced before: smart, [...]

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