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I’m part of a group of four girlfriends and one of us is getting married soon. Over a year ago she asked the remaining three of us to be bridesmaids. She also has four other bridesmaids, making seven total. We all bought our dresses just under a year ago. Then I found out I was [...]

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“My Boyfriend Keeps Emotionally Abandoning Me”

I've been seeing a wonderful man for about three years. I love him very much and he asked me to marry him along the way, but I said no. After much soul searching, I've realized the reason I said no was fear of continued emotional abandonment. We've worked on a lot of things in our [...]

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One of my oldest friends, let's call her Linda, is in a difficult situation, and has asked for my help. Linda's fiance has a daughter from a previous marriage, and Linda loves this girl as if she were her own daughter. Fiance's ex-wife took their daughter to another country, but Linda+Fiance have been working to [...]

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It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. I have been in [...]

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“He Says He’d Take His Ex Back”

My boyfriend and I are both divorced (I have two children, he has none). Each of our most recent respective relationships were with addicts (my ex was a serious porn/sex addict and his was a serious alcoholic). We have both worked very hard to overcome co-dependency issues that we experienced in our past relationships. However, [...]

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Several months ago I asked my girlfriend of one year to marry me. I gave her a ring that I purchased from my daughter who was going through a divorce herself. It's a gorgeous ring that everyone who sees comments on. She accepted the proposal and, at first, the ring; however, after a few days [...]

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I broke up with my partner of ten years over a year and a half ago. We have two children, ages seven and nine. He was heartbroken, but I was no longer in love with him and it had to end. I have since met someone else, and we intend to move in together this [...]

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I'm 30 years old and I have been in psychotherapy and on medication for the past year to address depression. As part of my long history with depression, I have committed self-harm on places on my body that aren't visible in everyday outfits. For example, I need to wear swimsuits with full short bottoms, instead [...]

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I've been with my boyfriend just under two years. He is divorced with an 11-year-old son. We moved in together a few months ago. Prior to that, he lived with his parents, and I had my own place, never married and no children. When my boyfriend still lived at home, he had his son every [...]

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My husband and I had a very small wedding budget of $1500 but, since we have a 9-month-old baby who is our priority, we hoped to spend even less. My dress was $90 and I wore shoes I already had. We had a free park wedding and a small reception with appetizers, not held near [...]

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“My Baby Daddy Won’t Quit the Pot”

I recently left my on-again/off-again boyfriend of five years. When we first started dating, much of our bonding occurred over Sailor Jerry's and lots of marijuana. Now I am pregnant with our first child together and have decided to give up drinking for obvious reasons. I also quit smoking pot shortly into the first trimester [...]

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“She Rescinded Her Invite to Be Her Bridesmaid”

Two to three months ago a dear friend of mine who had recently become engaged asked me if I would be one of her bridesmaids. I was totally thrown off that I had "made the cut," since the other bridesmaids are her childhood friends and her MOH is her sister. I told her I was [...]

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Weekend Open Thread

I'm posting the week's Weekend Open Thread a little late, sorry. Drew took the day off yesterday (instead of a summer vacation this year, we're enjoying down time at home, including occasional Fridays off, while Joanie is still a little too tiny to travel). Yesterday morning I cashed in a gift certificate and got a [...]

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My fiancée and I started dating in January of this year. We live three hours apart, but we text pretty much all day every day during the week and spend every weekend together, the majority of the time with me driving to her home. She is widowed and has two teenage boys, whom I get [...]

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“My Boyfriend’s Son Stole From My Daughter!”

From the forums: My boyfriend and I have been dating since March. His son, Larry, is 10 and lives about four hours away. His son stayed with his dad at my house Saturday (not the first time) and, since my girls were staying with their dad, Larry slept in my daughter's room. My daughter had [...]

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