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“Whom Can I Vent to About My Crazy Mother-in-Law?”

Speaking of nightmare mothers-in-law, here's another: My mother-in-law is your stereotypical difficult MIL: - She behaves badly when things are not about her or do not go her way. She had a wedding tantrum when she felt she was not being treated specially enough as MOTHER OF THE GROOM. In every photo of her she [...]

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Black Friday Deals on Amazon

These days the sight of Santa at the end of the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade marks the third week of the holiday season, and Black Friday actually starts on the Monday before Thanksgiving. In other words, I guess I'm a day late sharing these quick fantastic Black Friday deals from Amazon, but there's still plenty [...]

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My ex dumped me about three months ago. Within a month, I started seeing another girl who understood and respected my situation, and we have taken things slowly. (I'm 29 and she is 27, fyi.) All my friends and family thought it was way too fast to find someone else, but I have a connection [...]

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“Who Should Keep My Engagement Ring?”

My boyfriend, Rick, and I are having a disagreement about engagement rings that I hope you can help with. Rick's ex-wife, since their divorce four years ago, has pawned her engagement ring because she "needed" the money, despite everything she got from their divorce settlement. Rick is very disappointed because he spent a lot of [...]

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My boyfriend and I have been together for only a year, but we were both really in love from the very beginning. He treats me well and I am very thoughtful with him too. Recently, he confessed he has a foot fetish, and I told him that it's pretty normal and that it doesn't bother [...]

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“He Deserted Me After His Mother Died”

My boyfriend had been widowed for seventeen months and and I had been widowed for nine months when we met about two years ago; we are both 58. Although I had reservations when thinking about getting into a relationship, I was won over by how, immediately, he was so easy to talk to and by [...]

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Talking to Kids About Death

It's been just under five weeks since my father-in-law was admitted to the hospital with pain in his chest and trouble swallowing. It's been exactly four weeks since he was released from the hospital and moved to at-home hospice. He'd been diagnosed with cancer a few months earlier, but we were told that, at 95, [...]

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From the forums: My husband has been estranged from his mom for about three years. The reason is a really long story, but we think she has borderline personality disorder and she can’t take responsibility for her actions. He has no interest in reconciling with her at all. We just got invited to a family [...]

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I've been living with my boyfriend for a year now, and I have a daughter, Carol, from my previous marriage. Lately, she's been insinuating that he's her stepdad. I'm very embarrassed because he's never brought up marriage. I feel that unless you're engaged or married, your kids should refrain from calling your partner stepdad or [...]

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I thought this letter, published in The New York Times yesterday, was a strong complement to this morning's DW column around ethics and extramarital affairs, and I wondered how you might answer it: I am a man (if it matters) and friends with a married woman, ‘‘Jane,’’ and her husband, ‘‘Peter.’’ The friendship is more [...]

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I came across your blog when searching for some advice and hope you can help. I am a happily married woman; however, my husband and I have very different needs, sexually. We have an unspoken agreement about sleeping with other people and so far it has worked for us. My issue is that I currently [...]

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I have been reading your letters for months and I appreciate and admire how much you've helped people and I hope you can help me. I am 23 years old and live with my parents and am currently in a relationship with the love of my life who is 28 and also lives with his [...]

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“I Feel Like My Boyfriend’s Sister”

I'm nearly 21 and have been with my partner, Greg, eight years now on and off (mostly on). Last November, we moved into his parents' annex, which is classed as different properties but has the same private landlord. At first, I thought it was a brilliant idea — we could have our own space, get [...]

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It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. I have been in [...]

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“My Boyfriend Prioritizes Everything Over Me”

My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half. We share an apartment together, kind of. By kind of, I mean that he spends two to three nights a week with me while the rest of the time he spends at his mom's house. He is a HUGE momma's boy [...]

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