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On Friendship: Saying Good-Bye and Starting Over

As a kid, I moved around a lot. And when I wasn't moving, everyone else around me was. Such was the life of a quasi-military brat. I didn't like it — losing friends all the time, always saying good-bye, starting over. Over and over. This was all before social media and Skype and FaceTime. This [...]

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Women Need to Stop Worrying About “Looking Bad”

I've been seeing a lot of letters lately from women who are concerned about "looking bad," most recently in this column and this forum post. When they talk about "looking bad," they don't mean aesthetically-speaking, the way some of us might be concerned about our appearance (which is a whole other conversation about the way [...]

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New Motherhood The Second Time Around

Little Joanie May is 11 weeks old today and rapidly aging out of the sweet newborn stage. I remember this age with Jackson really well; it was probably when I felt the worst, actually. Two and half months of sleep deprivation had caught up with me while the novelty of a brand new baby was [...]

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24 Down

This week marks my 25th week of pregnancy — I'm just about six months along, and I'm starting to see the finish line faintly in the distance. The last couple of weeks I've really started to feel pregnant: I'm short of breath and get crampy sometimes when I walk a lot or walk too fast; [...]

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Happy News

In early November, about a week before we moved into our new apartment — the bigger, three-bedroom apartment our family could grow into regardless of whether we remained just the three of us or were lucky enough to add a fourth Condellberry to the mix — we grabbed some dinner at Shake Shack one evening. [...]

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Thoughts on “Boyhood,” Parenthood, and Being Human

Drew and I watched "Boyhood" over the weekend (in bed!) and I know I'm a little late to the game discussing it since it was released many months ago, but, seeing as it was just released for rent a few days ago and it won Golden Globes last night for best picture and best supporting [...]

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Getting Personal: My Fiancé Has Multiple Personalities

The following essay is written by guest contributor, Gina D. I met James during our mutual friend’s graduation party at a park the day after I finished high school in May, 2013. After everyone else at the party left, he and I hung around, talking and laughing until very late. We saw each other again [...]

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Getting Personal: Recognizing a Kindred Spirit

"The electricity of our ideas found its way out of our brains to connect in that kitchen and, purely platonically, we’d fallen in love." The following essay on kindred friendship is a guest post written by Susie Petersiel Berg. I met Karen when she was designing the interior of my friend’s house in Washington, DC. [...]

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Moving, A History (Part I)

Our move date is fast approaching (two more weeks) and I've been feeling nostalgic. This is the longest I have lived anywhere. Ever. In my whole life. I've been in this apartment almost 4 1/2 years. I moved in as a newlywed and I'm moving out as a mother of a 3-year-old (still married, of [...]

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Getting Personal: Leaving Chicago, Leaving Ruth

It's Donation Drive time again! If you have ever considered donating, this is the time to do it (donate here; you can make a one-time donation or click the little box to make a recurring monthly donation). So far, we've raised $1010 — over 20% to the goal! Thank you so much. Your donations help [...]

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It’s Personal: My Chemical Pregnancy

My 38th birthday last Monday was one of my favorite birthdays so far. Drew took the day off work and arranged for Jackson's babysitter to watch him until mid-afternoon. We had breakfast at a coffee shop around the corner and then rode our bikes down to Brighton Beach before eating lunch at my favorite ramen [...]

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The following essay is written by guest contributor, Amy Paturel. I woke at 6 am and started cooking: spinach and mushroom quiche, bacon-egg scramble, even chocolate-dipped strawberries. What if they don’t like the food? What if they notice the poorly hidden clutter? What if our sons act like brats? My husband, Brandon, stumbled into the [...]

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The following essay is by guest writer and former His Take contributor, my very good friend, Matthew Van Colton. It might be the worst lie I’ve ever told. I looked at my boyfriend Scott’s kind, searching face and said, “I don’t see myself in a relationship anymore.” My teary eyes blinked, channeling Les Miz Anne [...]

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I was so sad yesterday to hear of Robin Williams' death, and especially sad to hear that he'd been suffering from serious depression and that his death was the result of an apparent suicide. I can't say I know what it feels like to have serious depression or to battle lifelong mental health issues, but [...]

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The following essay is a guest post written by my friend, Emily Morris, whose previous guest essays can also be read here and here. It’s been annoying lately seeing various starlets and famous women going (seemingly) out of their way to announce that they aren’t feminists, how they have a problem with “the word," or [...]

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