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A Time for Every Season

It's been over two months since I wrote this post about feeling unloved, or at least unliked, by Jackson. Intellectually, I knew it was a phase, but it was a phase that had been going on so long, especially relative to Jackson's young age, that it was hard to truly imagine a time when he [...]

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Five Years After the Proposal

Five years ago today, Drew asked me to marry him. I've told the proposal story a bunch of times, but for those who can't get enough (or, you know, haven't heard it before): pre-Jackson, we always had a Friday evening tradition of meeting up after work and getting shit-faced at Happy Hour somewhere and then [...]

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The following essay is a guest post written by my friend, Emily Morris. On my seventh birthday I got a baby doll. I named her Jenny and carried her around for months, dressed her in baby clothes, and slept with her in my bed. I cut her hair (into what I thought was an adorable [...]

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It's the second week of January, traditionally a depressing time of year for many of us. The holidays are over, it's cold and dark out, our pants are tight, and the light at the end of the tunnel (AKA April) seems so very far away. I'm experiencing the usual seasonal depression I get every January, [...]

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Training to Let Go (One Day, Not Yet)

Last week Jackson woke in the middle of the night from a nightmare. I gave him a couple minutes to calm himself down and go back to sleep, but, when he didn't stop crying, I quietly got up and headed into his room. "Shhh," I said, "Shh... it's ok. It's just a dream." "Mama?" he [...]

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Parenting a Toddler: It Gets Better…. Right?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n6fqwetB35U&feature=youtu.be Last week, I posted a link to an essay about the "joys" of raising a toddler. Specifically, the essay was a defense of parents who get the side-eye from strangers when their toddlers act... well, like toddlers, in public. After I got home from my grandfather's funeral on Friday evening, I had a chance [...]

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He Had a Good Time

My grandfather was named John C. Bonser, but everyone called him Jack. He was tall, with red hair, deep blue eyes, and a ski slope nose like Bob Hope. He was a writer, a poet, a prolific story-teller. When my mother and her three siblings were growing up, Grandpa Jack would enter all kinds of [...]

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Lately, I've been receiving a lot of letters and seeing a lot of topics in the forums about friendship — specifically, trouble making and keeping friends. As I get older — I'll be 37 (!) in a few days — I've noticed several things about friendships: they are harder to make and keep as your [...]

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5S5V-Y53ad4 My parents met in a bar in October 1972 in Valparaiso, Indiana, where they both attended college. My mother was a senior and my father, five years older, was a middle school science teacher who had stayed in the area after he graduated. The story goes that my father introduced himself to my mother [...]

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Today’s guest essay is written by Nicki Stapleton (honeybeenicki), who has previously shared her essays, “My Life as a Prison Wife” and “My Life as a Post-Prison Wife” on Dear Wendy. When I was a kid, I loved going through the photo albums that lined our book shelf, looking at pictures of "young me," as [...]

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rjFaenf1T-Y If you ever asked me to describe my childhood bedroom or recall my favorite hangout as a kid or try to remember the route I took to school most often, I probably couldn't do it. And it's not because I have a poor memory. I still know the birthday of the little girl who [...]

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The following essay was written by guest contributor, Sarah Fetters. She's pictured above on her wedding day with her new husband, Josh. When I got married in November of 2012 I was a first-time wife, but a second-time bride. About four and a half years before I walked down the aisle towards my husband Josh, [...]

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Alphabet, A History: W (Winter)

The following piece of creative nonfiction is part of a series I started on my personal blog a few years ago called "Alphabet: A History," which is a collection of short, autobiographical vignettes, focusing mainly on relationships (familial, romantic, platonic, and self). It's July, 2004 — hot and sticky. We're sitting in his backyard drinking [...]

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When I got pregnant in January of last year, I had just left a job with a stable paycheck and started this website as my full-time gig. There were several reasons I ventured out on my own, but top of the list was my desire to be a stay-at-home mom AND have an outlet that [...]

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What it’s Like to be a Woman in America in 2012

I'm out voting this morning. In lieu of a new column and in honor of election day, here is a re-post of the popular essay I wrote in August, "What it's Like to be a Woman in American in 2012." Here's hoping women's rights aren't set back 50 years today... This week, the buzz is [...]

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