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The following essay is written by guest contributor, Amy Paturel. I woke at 6 am and started cooking: spinach and mushroom quiche, bacon-egg scramble, even chocolate-dipped strawberries. What if they don’t like the food? What if they notice the poorly hidden clutter? What if our sons act like brats? My husband, Brandon, stumbled into the [...]

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The following essay is by guest writer and former His Take contributor, my very good friend, Matthew Van Colton. It might be the worst lie I’ve ever told. I looked at my boyfriend Scott’s kind, searching face and said, “I don’t see myself in a relationship anymore.” My teary eyes blinked, channeling Les Miz Anne [...]

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I was so sad yesterday to hear of Robin Williams' death, and especially sad to hear that he'd been suffering from serious depression and that his death was the result of an apparent suicide. I can't say I know what it feels like to have serious depression or to battle lifelong mental health issues, but [...]

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The following essay is a guest post written by my friend, Emily Morris, whose previous guest essays can also be read here and here. It’s been annoying lately seeing various starlets and famous women going (seemingly) out of their way to announce that they aren’t feminists, how they have a problem with “the word," or [...]

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The following is a guest essay by Kim Brittingham, author of Read My Hips: How I Learned to Love My Body, Ditch Dieting, and Live Large. When I was small, my grandmother was a chubby woman. She lost weight later in life and became a tiny, featherweight sprite of an old lady. But when I [...]

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A Time for Every Season

It's been over two months since I wrote this post about feeling unloved, or at least unliked, by Jackson. Intellectually, I knew it was a phase, but it was a phase that had been going on so long, especially relative to Jackson's young age, that it was hard to truly imagine a time when he [...]

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Five Years After the Proposal

Five years ago today, Drew asked me to marry him. I've told the proposal story a bunch of times, but for those who can't get enough (or, you know, haven't heard it before): pre-Jackson, we always had a Friday evening tradition of meeting up after work and getting shit-faced at Happy Hour somewhere and then [...]

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The following essay is a guest post written by my friend, Emily Morris. On my seventh birthday I got a baby doll. I named her Jenny and carried her around for months, dressed her in baby clothes, and slept with her in my bed. I cut her hair (into what I thought was an adorable [...]

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It's the second week of January, traditionally a depressing time of year for many of us. The holidays are over, it's cold and dark out, our pants are tight, and the light at the end of the tunnel (AKA April) seems so very far away. I'm experiencing the usual seasonal depression I get every January, [...]

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Training to Let Go (One Day, Not Yet)

Last week Jackson woke in the middle of the night from a nightmare. I gave him a couple minutes to calm himself down and go back to sleep, but, when he didn't stop crying, I quietly got up and headed into his room. "Shhh," I said, "Shh... it's ok. It's just a dream." "Mama?" he [...]

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Parenting a Toddler: It Gets Better…. Right?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n6fqwetB35U&feature=youtu.be Last week, I posted a link to an essay about the "joys" of raising a toddler. Specifically, the essay was a defense of parents who get the side-eye from strangers when their toddlers act... well, like toddlers, in public. After I got home from my grandfather's funeral on Friday evening, I had a chance [...]

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He Had a Good Time

My grandfather was named John C. Bonser, but everyone called him Jack. He was tall, with red hair, deep blue eyes, and a ski slope nose like Bob Hope. He was a writer, a poet, a prolific story-teller. When my mother and her three siblings were growing up, Grandpa Jack would enter all kinds of [...]

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Lately, I've been receiving a lot of letters and seeing a lot of topics in the forums about friendship — specifically, trouble making and keeping friends. As I get older — I'll be 37 (!) in a few days — I've noticed several things about friendships: they are harder to make and keep as your [...]

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5S5V-Y53ad4 My parents met in a bar in October 1972 in Valparaiso, Indiana, where they both attended college. My mother was a senior and my father, five years older, was a middle school science teacher who had stayed in the area after he graduated. The story goes that my father introduced himself to my mother [...]

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Today’s guest essay is written by Nicki Stapleton (honeybeenicki), who has previously shared her essays, “My Life as a Prison Wife” and “My Life as a Post-Prison Wife” on Dear Wendy. When I was a kid, I loved going through the photo albums that lined our book shelf, looking at pictures of "young me," as [...]

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