I got back from Chicago yesterday afternoon. I had three whole days away, from Friday night until early Tuesday morning. I thought it would be just what I needed to crawl out of this winter funk I've been in since December — not because the weather is any better in Chicago, because of course it's [...]
Five years ago today, Drew asked me to marry him. I've told the proposal story a bunch of times, but for those who can't get enough (or, you know, haven't heard it before): pre-Jackson, we always had a Friday evening tradition of meeting up after work and getting shit-faced at Happy Hour somewhere and then [...]
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i7bO9xF_lEY Speaking of the "L" word...
A brand new study involving interviews and surveys with more than 5,000 people of all ages, statuses and sexual orientations over a two-year period, discovered that couples who reported being happiest of all are... those without kids. This finding doesn't surprise me too much. I would say I was probably happier in my marriage before [...]
It's the second week of January, traditionally a depressing time of year for many of us. The holidays are over, it's cold and dark out, our pants are tight, and the light at the end of the tunnel (AKA April) seems so very far away. I'm experiencing the usual seasonal depression I get every January, [...]
I'm starting the day with an espresso — my second of the morning — from my brand new Nespresso espresso maker, which I love and highly recommend. We had a lovely Christmas in Brooklyn yesterday, the first that Jackson had any sort of understanding what was happening. Presents! Food! More presents! And the first Christmas [...]
Yesterday I asked you what you'd like to see more of on this site and many of you replied with "more personal essays!" And it's true, I haven't been writing as much personal stuff lately. Part of that is because the personal stuff takes a bit more time and focus — two things I often [...]
Happy Halloween, everyone! Over in the forums, we're sharing photos of our Halloween costumes (that's one of my favorite past costumes in the photo above. I was a shooting star that year) and talking about true ghost stories, which I always love. I thought I already had shared my own story about living in a [...]
Last week Jackson woke in the middle of the night from a nightmare. I gave him a couple minutes to calm himself down and go back to sleep, but, when he didn't stop crying, I quietly got up and headed into his room. "Shhh," I said, "Shh... it's ok. It's just a dream." "Mama?" he [...]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n6fqwetB35U&feature=youtu.be Last week, I posted a link to an essay about the "joys" of raising a toddler. Specifically, the essay was a defense of parents who get the side-eye from strangers when their toddlers act... well, like toddlers, in public. After I got home from my grandfather's funeral on Friday evening, I had a chance [...]
My grandfather was named John C. Bonser, but everyone called him Jack. He was tall, with red hair, deep blue eyes, and a ski slope nose like Bob Hope. He was a writer, a poet, a prolific story-teller. When my mother and her three siblings were growing up, Grandpa Jack would enter all kinds of [...]
Lately, I've been receiving a lot of letters and seeing a lot of topics in the forums about friendship — specifically, trouble making and keeping friends. As I get older — I'll be 37 (!) in a few days — I've noticed several things about friendships: they are harder to make and keep as your [...]
Happy 4th wedding anniversary to my husband, my best friend, my biggest cheerleader, my partner in parenthood and love and life and fun. I'm having a good time.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5S5V-Y53ad4 My parents met in a bar in October 1972 in Valparaiso, Indiana, where they both attended college. My mother was a senior and my father, five years older, was a middle school science teacher who had stayed in the area after he graduated. The story goes that my father introduced himself to my mother [...]
Most of us have at least one fear, irrational or not. Some people are afraid of roaches; some people can't handle the sight of clowns; and for other people the idea of mingling with strangers at a social event is enough to make them barf. I've struggled with all of those fears to some extent, [...]