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It’s Personal: My Chemical Pregnancy

My 38th birthday last Monday was one of my favorite birthdays so far. Drew took the day off work and arranged for Jackson's babysitter to watch him until mid-afternoon. We had breakfast at a coffee shop around the corner and then rode our bikes down to Brighton Beach before eating lunch at my favorite ramen [...]

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Parents Just Want to Have Fun

Last week POPSUGAR Love syndicated my post about 30 Things That Will (Probably) Happen to Your in Your 30s and a commenter wrote: "This is written in a really "non-mom" tone. I only relate to about half of these," which I thought was kind of interesting since I am, in fact, a mom and I [...]

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Jumping Off The Fence

Next Wednesday, Drew turns 44 and Jackson turns 2 1/2. In September, I will be 38. Thirty-eight!! How did I get here already? This year marks twenty years since I graduated from high school  — twenty years since I started college! I look at my friends whom I met when I was 17, 18, 19, [...]

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A Time for Every Season

It's been over two months since I wrote this post about feeling unloved, or at least unliked, by Jackson. Intellectually, I knew it was a phase, but it was a phase that had been going on so long, especially relative to Jackson's young age, that it was hard to truly imagine a time when he [...]

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“How Do You Find Balance After You Have a Baby?”

I recently got married and we agreed to stop actively preventing pregnancy for now. Emotionally, we're not exactly ready to have kids though financially we are. Ideally, we would wait three years, but we would feel very blessed to have a baby before then (we had my fertility tested and there are some issues; if [...]

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The following essay is a guest post written by my friend, Emily Morris. On my seventh birthday I got a baby doll. I named her Jenny and carried her around for months, dressed her in baby clothes, and slept with her in my bed. I cut her hair (into what I thought was an adorable [...]

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The Secret To Happy Relationships: Don’t Have Kids?

A brand new study involving interviews and surveys with more than 5,000 people of all ages, statuses and sexual orientations over a two-year period, discovered that couples who reported being happiest of all are... those without kids. This finding doesn't surprise me too much. I would say I was probably happier in my marriage before [...]

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“I’m Jealous of My Sister’s Pregnancy”

From the forums: My husband and I had an accidental pregnancy about 1.5 years ago and lost it suddenly at 12 weeks. It was soul-crushing and the pain is still tender. I wanted to try again immediately, but we took some time off to have our wedding. We started trying again the month before our [...]

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It's the second week of January, traditionally a depressing time of year for many of us. The holidays are over, it's cold and dark out, our pants are tight, and the light at the end of the tunnel (AKA April) seems so very far away. I'm experiencing the usual seasonal depression I get every January, [...]

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The Joy is Louder Too

Yesterday I asked you what you'd like to see more of on this site and many of you replied with "more personal essays!" And it's true, I haven't been writing as much personal stuff lately. Part of that is because the personal stuff takes a bit more time and focus — two things I often [...]

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Fewer Married Women Having Children

Yesterday, on a day that I had four hours of childcare help, I still spent roughly an hour or so potty-training my 2-year-old, changed a few diapers, managed two terrible temper tantrums, did several loads of laundry, cleaned up countless messes, and stepped on no fewer than three legos. And according to a new study [...]

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I am a stay-at-home mom. My mother-in-law is our primary babysitter on the rare occasions one is needed. She loves our kids so much and they have a great time with her. On my husband's side of the family, there is a history of Alzheimer's. I've noticed many times that, unless I write down explicit [...]

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Training to Let Go (One Day, Not Yet)

Last week Jackson woke in the middle of the night from a nightmare. I gave him a couple minutes to calm himself down and go back to sleep, but, when he didn't stop crying, I quietly got up and headed into his room. "Shhh," I said, "Shh... it's ok. It's just a dream." "Mama?" he [...]

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I met a girl on the internet last July and we started talking and flirting. We had both just come out of bad relationships and originally only wanted a friendship from each other. A couple of months down the line we decided to have a go at a long distance relationship. Being 21, this was [...]

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Parenting a Toddler: It Gets Better…. Right?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n6fqwetB35U&feature=youtu.be Last week, I posted a link to an essay about the "joys" of raising a toddler. Specifically, the essay was a defense of parents who get the side-eye from strangers when their toddlers act... well, like toddlers, in public. After I got home from my grandfather's funeral on Friday evening, I had a chance [...]

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