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Cosmo Editor-in-Chief Advises Mad Jealousy

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“Cosmo” EIC, Kate White, appeared on the fourth hour of the Today Show yesterday with Hoda and guest host Kim Kardashian’s mom (I’m sure she has her own name, but whatever, I can’t be bothered to look it up). In the segment, she advises women to be jealous — very jealous. It’s smart to be jealous, she says! Like, when your man goes to a strip club for a bachelor party — you should “freak the hell out.” Good lord. Advice like this explains so many of the letters I receive.

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    Ktfran October 6, 2011, 2:09 pm

    Wow. Just wow.

    I have a couple of Kate White’s books on my “to read” list. I heard they were a fun escape, which are the kind of books I like to read. I’m taking them off. I don’t want to help support women like that.

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      6napkinburger October 6, 2011, 4:06 pm

      What, isn’t Kate White the one asking questions? She’s just reporting what surveys and “experts” said. The other two are the ones with consistently ridiculous answers. And Wendy gets questions all the time asking “How jealous/cautious should I be/is reasonable?” Boycotting her for promoting Cosmo by reading some survey answers seems a little harsh.

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        lets_be_honest October 6, 2011, 4:13 pm

        OK, 6nap, admit it. You are Kate White! Amiright?
        I didn’t watch the video so can’t really add anything worthwhile.

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    amber October 6, 2011, 2:19 pm

    oy i can’t believe i used to have a subscription to cosmo.

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    Elizabeth October 6, 2011, 2:21 pm

    I thought Cosmo was cool when i was between the ages of 10 and 14. Then i wised up. Thank God.

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      Amy October 6, 2011, 3:45 pm

      I was older – 16 – 19 was when I thought Cosmo was cool – after I was SO OVER Seventeen. Sheesh!

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    Steelbird October 6, 2011, 2:59 pm

    I’ll admit, I still have a subscription to Cosmo just because it’s so funny to read. I saw this article in the latest issue. My fiance and I laughed about how completely insane it is. He likes to say that Cosmo purposely gives bad advice so that girls get dumped and keep coming back to Cosmo to find out how to “fix” themselves.

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      Anna October 7, 2011, 2:53 pm

      Confession, me too. It’s supposed to be entertaining, right? Well, it sure entertains me, though not in the way it’s intended to. I enjoy reading their ridiculous tips on how to play mind games with your man, then tell my boyfriend about it so we can laugh together. Also, the prices of some of the clothes they advertise are out of this world! Who pays $200 for one shirt, or $1000 for a pair of boots? Maybe if I were a billionaire, but still probably not…

      In the most recent issue, did you happen to catch the article about women drinking and driving? It alarmed me that one of their suggestions for getting home if you drove to a bar but got too drunk to drive home (in a locale with no public transport) was to call the police, tell them you are too drunk to drive home, and hope they are nice enough to drive you home without arresting you. WTF? Who does that?

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        SpyGlassez October 7, 2011, 7:59 pm

        I still like reading Cosmo UK sometimes; it seems to have more interesting stuff in it than the US version. However, that might be because I am insanely in love with the UK.

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    Addie Pray October 6, 2011, 3:10 pm

    Shut the front door – there’s a FOURTH HOUR of the Today Show?! That seems like a couple hours too many.

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      amber October 6, 2011, 3:27 pm

      it’s terrible. i’ve watched it a few times when home sick (and obviously too sick to even change the channel) and it’s just not right.

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    Amana October 6, 2011, 3:11 pm

    I haven’t watched the clip because I am at work, but what is wrong with being jealous or freaking out over your man at a strip club?

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      Addie Pray October 6, 2011, 3:13 pm

      I dunno, jealousy and freak outs have never struck me as good, aspiring qualities. That’s one answer of many to your question.

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      Steelbird October 6, 2011, 3:21 pm

      It depends on the situation, I also haven’t watched the clip due to being at work but the actual article said that you should freak out if your bf was going to a strip club for his friend’s bachelor party.

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      Something More October 6, 2011, 3:24 pm

      Umm… maybe the lack of trust that it equates to? If you don’t like strip clubs and calmly voice your opinion that you prefer your man not go is one thing, but to completely flip out because he is a grown ass man and wants to do something that you don’t particularly like is a wee bit immature and… crazy.

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        hhr October 6, 2011, 4:14 pm

        I don’t NOT trust my boyfriend, but I’m still not ok with him being around other naked women. It’s just not cool with me, and he wouldn’t want me getting drunk with naked men either. It would just make me extremely uncomfortable, and I’m not down with that at all. I never understood that question, “Don’t you trust him?” in regard to strip clubs. Yeah, I trust him, but I’m still not ok with it. Not liking my bf to hang around naked women doesn’t “equate” to a lack of trust at all for me. And to me, getting a lap dance is paying for a sexual favor (in some clubs, they’re even encouraged to touch the girls). How is that a legitimate form of entertainment??

        Sorry there are no more purple thumbs!!

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        hhr October 6, 2011, 4:16 pm

        Not that I would “freak out” over this situation. I just wouldn’t choose to be with a guy who was into that.

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        Something More October 6, 2011, 9:13 pm

        I didn’t say not liking your bf to hang around naked women equates to a lack of trust. Amana asked what was so wrong with being jealous and freaking out. THAT is who I was answering. Again, he is a grown ass man and if he wants to go, he will. Usually you should be able to CALMLY explain the adversion you have to him being there and, hopefully, he will respect your feelings. Freaking out and being jealous would come across as being psycho-bitch and THAT would be like saying, “I don’t trust you.”

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      H October 6, 2011, 3:40 pm

      I think calmly talking with your man about the reasons why you feel uncomfortable with him going to a strip club is a much better solution. Strip clubs are skeevy and gross… IMHO… but it is rarely helpful to “freak out”. I’ve told my boyfriend that I understand there may be times when he is obligated to go for a bachelor party. I can deal with that. But 1) I’d prefer he not get a lap dance because it feels like cheating in my old-fashioned mind and 2) I really don’t want to know any details. He seemed fine with that.

      Throwing a hissy fit sounds like a great way to have an unhealthy relationship.

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    TheOtherMe October 6, 2011, 3:46 pm

    My BF loves when I fake… Jealousy !

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    lets_be_honest October 6, 2011, 3:50 pm

    Wendy, there is no place for commenting on the newest letter.

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      Wendy October 6, 2011, 4:09 pm

      Thanks, it’s fixed now.

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        6napkinburger October 6, 2011, 4:17 pm

        I still don’t see an option to comment. But maybe its just me.

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        JK October 6, 2011, 4:19 pm

        I don´t either. MInd you I didn´t really have anything to add to Wendy´s great advice, except maybe to call the ex a major ass!!

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    AestheticDiva October 6, 2011, 3:59 pm

    So, you’re not suppose to be jealous if your bf wants to get drinks with his ex, but “freak the hell out” if he sees a hot girl at work? No wonder so many women suffer with relationships.
    She looks a mess anyway, maybe she’s projecting her own love failure on her readers…

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      6napkinburger October 6, 2011, 4:11 pm

      Isn’t she reading survey answers and quoting experts? I didn’t get that she’s projecting (or even really having that strong of an opinion) at all.

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        Aestheticdiva October 10, 2011, 9:29 pm

        Yea, after watching it again you’re right…I guess I took it as if she’s sharing the info, she agrees with it herself…But the first part of my comment still stands : )

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    LolaBeans October 6, 2011, 4:26 pm

    sorry– wendy.. why isn’t there a comment section on the “He Confessed to Cheating after I Broke His Heart”??

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    bittergaymark October 6, 2011, 7:47 pm

    It does seem to me that young women today make very bad decisions because they have all (in masse) seemingly chosen to idolize absolute idiots. Look, if you think Kim Kardashian (much less her trashy, deservedly nameless mother) is even worth so much as her weight in excrement then you deserve to have a shitty personal life. Sorry, but my sympathy for those who act like idiots and live to create pointless drama is at an end.

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    katie October 6, 2011, 8:51 pm

    come on, is anyone REALLY surprised at something like this coming from cosmo?

    i think it is collegecandy.com, maybe the frisky, i cant remember, but one of them does a monthly “cosmo says the darndest things” article, making fun of articles exactly like this… this isnt an isolated incident for cosmo.

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    Theenemyofmyenemyisagrilledcheesesandwich October 7, 2011, 2:24 am

    FLAMES, OUT OF THE SIDE OF MY FACE.

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    Michelle October 7, 2011, 1:22 pm

    How does anyone read Cosmo anyway? every once in awhile I’ll buy one for a laugh. I’m always surprised at some of the stuff I read in it. Some of the articles may mean well, but there’s not a lot of depth there. maybe i’m expecting too much!

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