Part of my job as an advice columnist is trying to discern the fake letters from the real ones. Occasionally, I need a little help, which is where you come in. In a new series called “Fake or Real” I invite you to weigh in on the legitimacy of a questionable letter and offer advice if you believe it’s real.
Now, it is 2012 and just 5weeks ago, he came over and we made the most romantic love ever, and when he took the condom off, some of his sperm got on my vagina. i was kind of scared at the moment. But then we started talking about names and everything. On Wednesday, 11/28/12, i took a pregnacy test and i was positive YAY! i told him to call me after work I had great news. He didnt call, which was very strange. So I called the next day, no answer. Then on 11/30/12, his brother said he was in jail, again. What i dont understand is, he payed all his fines, he got a job, he got his GED, he hasn’t smoked, hasn’t drank, he has been doing amazing. So i dont know what he when in for.
Anyway, i asked his brother where he was locked up at and what he went in for and for how long. He wouldnt text me back. I got mad and told him i was pregnat and i have been for about 4-5weeks and i needed to know where my boyfriend is. his brother told me “get an abortion. he’ll never know. he’ll be gone for 2years.” I bursted into tears, i cant move on with out my boyfriend. I sure in heck can’t raise a baby without him. The jail said i cant go see him cause im not his family. i haven’t got a call from him yet, nor a letter (i looked in grams’s room). Wendy, i need help. should i wait for the love of my life and keep the baby? or get an abortion and move on? i want to get him out early but i have no idea how jail works. Please tell me how i can get him out early? i dont own anything, so bail bonds men wont work. I really need help. What do i do?
Thank you for your time
-with his baby and lost without him
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