Are you "pre-engaged"?

[AnnaParticipant]

@Lili Aw thanks! I am still hoping one of these days I will have a good update to share. And I am glad we now have a forum to share it on! However, if he goes to NC and we haven’t moved forward we have already agreed that a LDR is not possible for us. As much as it hurts to think about, I am prepared to MOA if I have to. And if that does happen, I kinda expect him to come running back with a ring shortly thereafter when he realizes how much I meant to him and how good I made life for him.

@Kristen Thanks girl! It’s funny how love is. He tells me all the time how much he loves me and how happy I make him…I guess I’m just looking for some actions to back that up. Actions do speak louder than words. I kinda wish we didn’t live together now so I would still have that on my side…but on the other hand I don’t because I have a wonderful life living with him. It’s like a double-edged sword.

As for expensive engagement rings, forget that! I’ve already told him that I do want a ring but an inexpensive one. I’m talking $100 or less. The ring for me is a symbol, the husband is the prize. The only qualifications I would like for my ring is: white gold band with pink ice involved somewhere on it. And yes, I’ve told him this just in case he feels like getting it for my birthday! But still not hoping…

[KristenParticipant]

Well, I’m hoping for you!!! And your dream ring sounds beautiful

[JessParticipant]

Hope none of you kill me for unearthing this thread! But it’s about a year old now and I came across it today. It’s interesting, bittersweet maybe, to see all the changes that have taken place since then.

Judging by her photo, Kristen is married by now!

Several others, including me, are engaged. Others have parted ways with their SOs.

I bet there are still more who are newly “pre-engaged.” There is hope!

[lets_be_honestParticipant]

What a difference a year makes, right?

[GatorGirlParticipant]

Awwwww. I love it. 100 days to go! Everyone seems to be in such a better place now.

[katieParticipant]

ha this is so funny to read over.

im pretty sure i had some sort of weird bride-brain going on. or something stupid. im not getting married anytime soon, i dont even want to.. lol

[iseeshinyParticipant]

Aw, whatever happened to Zepp? and Mel?

[theattackParticipant]

Wowwwwww.  Reading old things on DW almost feels like going through old embarrassing pictures from middle school in front of all my friends.  Yikes.

[lets_be_honestParticipant]

katie, what if he proposed right  now?

[katieParticipant]

well, id say yes if he proposed today. but i know he wont- weve talked about it, lol.

[katieParticipant]

oh you know what it was- jakes brother got married nov 2011. we talked a lot about our own hypothetical wedding after that because we planned/did so much of their wedding… so january 2012 we (i?) were probably still in that mindset.

[iwannatalktosampsonParticipant]

Oh god.  I can’t believe I didn’t comment on this forum just to talk shit.  Although some things actually annoy me more with time.  One being “pre-engaged” and then other being “hubby”.

[HmCParticipant]

please God no

[ChemEParticipant]

I love my engagement ring. I know my husband spent less than average on it, but his dad works for a jewelry company and gets a sweet discount.  I was wearing it along with my wedding ring. Now being in a factory, I can’t wear them. It makes me sad.

[AKchic_Participant]

IWTTS: We’ve discussed the annoyance of the term “hubby” before.  But yes, “pre-engaged” is another word I don’t like either.  Either you are, or you aren’t.  Are you “pre-shitting”?  (That’s called ‘farting’)  Are you “pre-vomitting”?  (That’s dry heaves)  “Pre-sex”?  (Foreplay)

It’s an unnecessary label for a psuedo-stage in a relationship.  It shouldn’t take months/years for a couple in a long term relationship to decide whether or not they want to get engaged.  That’s the entire point of a fucking relationship!  The whole “exclusive, committed” relationship is a “pre-engagement”.

I’m going to walk away from this topic now, because I’m starting to feel a little like Sam Kinison.

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