July 18, 2012 at 4:02 pm #33968
I’m in my early 20s, so I haven’t been to a ton of weddings yet, but they’re popping up all around me now! One of my best friends is getting married next month, and I’m a bridesmaid. Her family follows etiquette strictly for big events like this (except for how they’re sending out invitations to everything extremely late). She just invited me to a bridesmaids brunch for two weekends from now, and I really don’t know what that is or what’s expected. Do I need to bring a gift to that? What usually happens at these things?July 18, 2012 at 4:06 pm #33969
usually it’s something that the bride does for the bridesmaids to thank them. no gift needed, just your lovely self. and the ability to drink a few mimosas.July 18, 2012 at 4:08 pm #33970
Awesome! Thanks. Unfortunately there won’t be any alcohol. These are very conservative church-goers. I’ll just hope for something chocolate instead, I guess.July 18, 2012 at 4:11 pm #33971
No need to bring a gift, this will be an event that will be and event thanking you for being an attendantJuly 18, 2012 at 4:15 pm #33972
hmm well then the time of day it’s at will tell you what to expect to eat. if it’s a traditional brunch they should still have cake i would think! i think there is some sort of specific tradition surrounding the cake itself, but i can’t remember. the few i’ve been too have been a little less traditional, one was getting manicures/pedicures and the other was at this cute little restaurant with the best mimosas ever.July 18, 2012 at 4:20 pm #33973
I think this is a Southern thing, but I might be wrong… I’d never heard of one before until my brother got married. They live in Nashville, and my sister in law is from the South, and she had one.
I was actually a Groomswoman, but she invited me to the Bridesmaid brunch anyway. It was a nice way for me to get to know the Bridal party, since I was from out of town and didn’t really know anyone.July 18, 2012 at 4:33 pm #33974
What everyone else said is correct. It’s basically a luncheon to thank the people who have supported the bride during the wedding planning and those who will be supporting her on the wedding day. So mothers, maybe grandmothers and involved aunts, the bridesmaids and any female readers/greaters. If the bride is giving gifts to anyone it is usually done during the brunch. In my limited experience it is a pretty relaxed and enjoyable time.
I’m opting not have a bridal brunch before my upcoming wedding mostly because we’re not having a bridal party. I think it’s a very Southern thing.July 18, 2012 at 4:37 pm #33975
@bethany, We’re a couple hours south of Nashville, so I can believe that! I’ve always loved the idea of Groomswomen or Bridesmen. I wanted to do that, but it just doesn’t make sense for the way our friends are distributed.
@jlyfish, I can get excited for anything with cake! And wow, manis/pedis is such a cute idea! I’m going to have to remember that!July 18, 2012 at 4:45 pm #33977
I thought it was a nice idea too… Since I didn’t really know my sister in law that well (because of them being in TN and me being in PA), I would have felt weird being a bridesmaid. So I was a Groomswoman and her brother was a Bridesman! I thought it worked out great, and I felt so honored that my brother asked me to stand up there with him
And luckily they let me wear a dress!July 18, 2012 at 5:55 pm #33978
manis/pedis was the best. they usually give you a deal if you bring a group in and some of them let you have champagne or wine, yay.July 20, 2012 at 11:23 am #34133
I did a sort of Bridesmaids Brunch when I got married, but it was more of a lunch, and my mom, mother-in-law, and husband’s aunt (who’s like a second MIL to me) came. I just wanted to treat them all to something as a thank you for all the support they gave and for agreeing to participate in it for me. It’s definitely not a gift giving occasion. I did mine the day before the wedding since everyone was in the same place, and it kind of also helped kick off the weekend and my friends got to spend some more time together in a more low-key way and our mom’s got to spend some time together, as well.
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