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mllryjo 11 months ago.
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Hey Mllryjo!
I’m so glad to hear you are doing better! So as DW’s resident makeup/fashion person (self anointed), I have a few tips on how to look for this meeting at least ( I think I remember reading here somewhere that you are into makeup as well) because even though he behaved a bit ungentlemanly with the phone breakup, no reason for you to be less than a lady to him
I think the closure thing does come from within, it did for me and I think Iwanna said it perfectly. About how to act, well I would suggest keeping the meeting as brief as possible, exchange the items, smile pleasantly and have a general how are you, i’m fine talk and then leave. I’ve done both asking for closure ( and crying and all that..sigh) and being brief, and well the brief meeting always left me feeling better since I felt that I behaved better.I also think if –BIG IF–you do want to ever become friends, its best to not be weepy at this last meeting. Be cordial, polite and when time has passed if you two can work as friends, it’ll happen. Again, this is all stuff I l earned by doing the opposite.
Ok now onto how to look, my fav part! First, wear something that makes your ass look amazing. Since its the last thing he’ll see when you’re walking away. So be realistic, will you be crying the night before the meeting? I think if there is a chance you would be, pack some of those redness relief eye drops. Give yourself PLENTY of time to do your makeup before meeting up, its therapeutic and can came you down while looking in the mirror and giving yourself a pep talk. Don’t wear MORE makeup than normal , or less because that makes you look more haggard and tired. Stick to the usual he saw you in, but maybe a little bit more professional since you are there on business. So yeah that is foundation to cover redness, concealer used under the eyes to cover any dark circles as well. Also, if you have it/can remember to pack it, a cooling eye mask to sleep in is always a good idea to reduce puffiness if your hotel room has a mini fridge, sticking some eye cream in there will also give the cooling effect. Oh and, if you can avoid it, try to not eat a lot of salt the night before. I feel that looking puffy in general SUCKS when I’m trying to look all hot.
For the eyes, I’d stick with matte shadows, preferably one a little darker than your skin tone just swept across the eyes with attention to the crease to recess it. And waterproof mascara–don’t forget it must be waterproof!!
Onto to Highlighter–the secret behind my glowing skin! I think a liquid one would be ideal, but if you have powders only, they’d look nice lightly swept under eyes on the cheekbones. And a natural and pretty pinky blush to perk you up
I’d go with a mid toned lip, maybe a flattering shade of the revlon lip butters.
If you can, I’d get a mani pedi before leaving for the trip. A nice french mani looks professional AND dignified for meeting with the ex.
Ok there is my long comment about how to look at least! We’re here for you leading up though!
Best of luck and chin up. You’re an amazing and beautiful person who WILL find love again!
Haha thanks colors! I just know that if I feel that I LOOK composed, I’m more likely to act it as well.
About highlighters, well it depends on your skin tone. Right now, I’m loving Sun Beam by benefit, but I think of it as mainly a summer only highlighter since its SO golden/bronzey on me but it works with my tan. Eclat Miracle by Estee lauder is a pricey option, but I do love it so and buy it when ever estee lauder has one of those give aways with purchase. I’ve heard good things about physicians formula shimmer strips, but to me they look a little TOO shimmery in the pan, but maybe with a fan brush…hm.. Oh and I’ve been intrigued by the Sephora brand high lighters, they’re MASSIVE so a great bargain but I haven’t bought one. Yet. I know a lot of beauty experts like nars illuminators, but they don’t work well for my skin tone, but asking for a sample at sephora never hurts
I have the Loreal magic Lumi primer sitting in my target.com cart, so if its at all comparable to eclat, I’ll be sure to let you know!
Lili — ahahaha!! You had me cracking up about making sure the butt looks great since it’s the last thing he’ll see as she’s walking away.
Mllryjo, I say keep it short and sweet, IF you decide you want or need to see him. Based on my own experiences, I wouldn’t go through with any kind of face-to-face with an ex until I knew I was 100% over it. My last ex was my first BIG, heart-wrenching, soul-annihilating breakup, in which I admittedly did just about everything wrong. What set me back the most in terms of healing was trying to be his friend soon after we broke up, because I missed him and just wanted to see him, hear about his life, help him with the things he was going through, etc. I think the urges to see him are just that: you missing him (which is normal and natural). I think seeing him, even briefly to exchange possessions, will hurt more than you realize now and probably set you back in terms of the emotional healing progress you’ve made. If I could take back all the evenings I spent crying over the demise of my relationship because I reached out to him, I would. Unless you NEED to do it face-to-face (can you mail him his things?), I say don’t do it.
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