I’ll have updates late tonight, the date is at 9:30
Will it help to share the story of my last horrible date?
This guy messages me and asks me out. Has clearly read my profile, thinks my dog is cute, likes that I play guitar. He’s older than me (33) which I think is nice, because the last one I was excited about may have been a little young in retrospect. Smart, educated (pediatric neurologist), all systems are go.
I show up to the restaurant and see a guy sitting there. There’s this one guy, and a family, and so it’s clearly my date. And you know, looks aren’t everything, even though he looks nothing like his pictures, so I greet him and sit down.
He’s terribly awkward, just awful at making conversation. But it’s the first date. Maybe nerves, NBD. Maybe that’s why he needed both me and the waitress to explain the menu to him, and still ended up ordering way too much accidentally. But then, it turns out he’s not a pediatric neurologist. He’s a second year med student. And then he was asking about my brothers (four, all older), wanting to know what they did. Three of my brothers are blue collar types, one is an engineer. I finish rattling off what they do, and he says, wow, so you’re the smart one in the family who values education. Because the best way to get a second date with a woman is to insult her big brothers!
So I’m taking a little break from OKcupid. Just until I feel a little less discouraged. Veritek, I’m sorry this guy didn’t turn out to be what you were hoping for, I know how disappointing that is. When you’ve been through a traumatic breakup, it’s terrifying to be exciting again, and when that doesn’t pan out it hurts that much more. Try to be as carefree as you can about it, although I know it’s hard. You get to have your emotions, whatever they are. And in the meantime, keep doing all the awesome things you’re doing to work on yourself. Internet love!
My last horrible date wasn’t too bad…but it wasn’t ideal.
We went to a play, then to dinner. At the play we ran into his ex and her new boyfriend. He then told me “Yeah we dated for 4 months – I thought I was going to marry her. I still miss her.” Not exactly the best thing to hear.
Then on the way to dinner, the alarm for my birth control pills goes off. I’ve been on them since I was 15 for my period, so when he’s like “what’s that alarm?”, I nonchalantly say “Oh my birth control”. He stops everything, turns and says “I don’t have sex”. Okay….
At dinner, he gets drunk and starts talking about Jesus and how sex is for couples that are married and in love. He stresses that he isn’t a virgin, but after his ex’s miscarriage, he takes sex very seriously. He then tells me how his cousin is getting an abortion, which he laughs off as a “$500 mistake”. Oh and he told me he once tried to kill himself.
A lot to hear on the first date. Honestly if I would have known he was a conservative nutjob, I wouldn’t have gone on the date in the first place. But I met him through a friend at a group dinner thing and our conversation mainly revolved around having nipple piercings, so didn’t expect him to talk so much about how “Christians need to get tattoos declaring themselves as Christians to remain proud because in the next 5 years they will be persecuted like the Jews”. WHAT THE FUCK.
Oh and then he told our mutual friend HE wasn’t asking ME out because I was a slut for being on birth control. Bullet: dodged.
OMG. The convent is sounding better and better.
Veritek, can we start an alternative convent? Where we can drink wine and eat nothing but olives and cheese (or whatever it is that you want to eat endless amounts of) and have lots of dogs. Acres and acres of dogs.
Wine and cheese convent? I’m in, except I’m an ass and had a really good date tonight. Damn it, I feel like an ass. The wine and cheese convent sounds so much fun. Except boys can’t join convents, so I’ll have to be part of the beer and sports priesthood. Okay, I may have had a couple of drinks on this date and she was really awesome and she totally made the first move on the kiss, and it was awesome.
TELL US MORE!
But you could totally join if it tanks.
But I hope it doesn’t.
Haha. well she was really cute, actually looks like her picture. How much does it suck when people don’t look like their pictures? Like seriously, I’ve been on dates with a few people that don’t look like they’re pictures, and it’s always surprising, and just sets such a bad tone for the date. Anyways, I digress. So we went for drinks at a local pub, we didn’t stop chatting the whole time. No awkward silences, and she actually seemed to find my rambling tangents entertaining. She loves animals, and doesn’t mind doing the dishes (I passionately hate doing the dishes). She has already been engaged once, which I find so mind boggling, but then I think that I almost proposed to someone at some point. Then we went outside and hugged, then I walked her to her car, and she gave me the “I definitely want to kiss you eyes.” Then we kissed, and it was like just enough, but left you wanting more? Does that make sense? So that was night in a nutshell.
That sounds like a great date, mr! You are really sweet. You’re like Budj 2.0 except you’re easier to flirt with haha. So now – send her a text to say you had a great time and goodnight. Then you gotta call that girl tomorrow and ask her out for a second date. Don’t wait the 2-3 days or whatever – call tomorrow! But like wait until the evening.
Do exactly what AP said.
Yes, what AP said, but you can email if you want since you met online.
@applescruffs your convent sounds awesome, I’m totally joining. As long as I can bring pound cake and my beagles. I had a pity party with pound cake and a dog walk last night, and it was really a rocking event.
@mrmidtwenties that sounds like a really nice date, and yes, please let her know you had an awesome time so she’s not hanging waiting to hear from you!
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