Is the guy I'm talking to sketchy?

[Michelle.LeaParticipant]

yea if you’re not sure if he’s going to talk to you, at least make him fly to you.

i get that well, you’re not going to understand some things until you’ve experienced them yourself, that’s kinda how we all go through life. I mean, i met my first husband on the internet, and he drove 30 hours to meet me – and then i went back with him for an entire summer. we had been talking on the internet for a year, and he stayed at my house for a week. I’m extremely lucky i wasnt axe murdered that summer.

if you’ve made up your mind, then at least be safe about it. take cab money. meet him in a public place, and don’t tell him what hotel you’re staying at until you’ve met him. Expect that he’s going to want sex. If that’s not what you want, do not go to his house, do not invite him back to your hotel room. be safe. have a back up plan in case you or he dont ‘click’ well and you need something else to do while you’re there.

i still like the idea of taking a friend with you though.

[ishcortParticipant]

Yes, I had been taking classes at a local community college instead of taking classes at my high school this year. I understand that I could miss out on college experiences, but I honestly don’t think I’m going to. I’m actually not staying in Ohio for college. But yeah, I’m not going to live my life depending on if I could talk to him that night or anything. we have been talking about him coming up here instead. Like I said, he isn’t against it.

[katieParticipant]

Why do you think he might stop talking to you?

[ishcortParticipant]

The possibility that he is just using me. As much as I don’t believe he is like that, it’s not like I can really know for sure..

[sarolabelleParticipant]

or maybe you just don’t have chemistry. I learned the lesson long long ago to not waste my time with internet guys because they are always better than they really are. Your mind makes them better. Even if you Skype with them. Once you meet it’s real. And you can’t force chemistry. I also think chemistry can’t be had through Skype.

[theattackParticipant]

ishcort, It’s true that you can’t really know. The most reliable way to know if someone is using you is to measure how much effort they put into developing a relationship with you, over a reasonable amount of time. You’ve got time on your side here, but you don’t have the effort yet. The time is the easy part, so don’t make assumptions based on that alone. Make him prove himself to you.

[LeroyParticipant]

Well it’s a good sign that he’s considering coming to Ohio. That’s really the best option in any regard. Not just for your safety, but it will probably be much easier to get your dad’s approval. Because realistically your father is never going to be OK with the idea of you traveling to Texas alone. I don’t think that any conscientious father who would go along with that.

[sarolabelleParticipant]

Okay, so do we have an update from her on this?

[rilooyahParticipant]

Yes, yes, WHERE is the update???

[AnnaParticipant]

Seriously! I want to know that my fellow Ohioan is ok.

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