Miss Advised

[LiliParticipant]

Come On, I can’t be the ONLY person on here who watched the show about the love lives of 3 dating experts?!

PS, I’m Team Julia Allison. She’s no worse than any other reality tv manic pixie dream girl.

[WendyKeymaster]

Julia Allison is a shitty, shitty, horrible person!!!

I have been a fan of this site for a long time, and it will give you plenty of background info on the donkey:

http://rebloggingdonk.com/

This will give you a good idea of who she truly is:

http://rebloggingdonk.com/2012/06/19/julia-allison-even-reality-show-fame-cant-the-inner-asshole-rage-beast/

[LiliParticipant]

Interesting! Thanks for the link Wendy, I’ll be reading the site tonight.

Goes to show how real reality tv ‘stars’ behave. One would think they’d at least TRY to keep up the act…

[MackenzieLeeParticipant]

I have to admit it is become a guilty pleasure of mine. I tend towards the Amy side of things being way too uptight and seeing her is a good reminder to chill out a little. I’m still a tad confused by all the Julia Allison hate. She definitely isn’t someone I find incredibly awesome but I also don’t loath her. I guess I just don’t understand why she is so polarizing. I stumbled upon the article that wendy wrote for the frisky a few years ago. Somehow I seem to be cutting this girl a few breaks.

[Addie PrayParticipant]

I don’t know what Miss Advised is. But for Halloween several years back I was Miss Demeaner. With a sash and everything. I know, the cutest thing you have ever seen! Except for that one yar I was the salt to my friend’s battery – together we were A Salt and Battery. … But that wasn’t as cute as the year I was the Pilsbury Doughboy. (No play on words there – I was just the Pilsbury Doughboy.) How many more days til Halloween?

[Trixy MinxParticipant]

Who is this lady and why do people even care?

[LiliParticipant]

So after watching Julia’s meltdown about her haters and fears and the truth behind it all, I feel like I too have to come clean about something. My biggest fear is that fat Lili=unlovable Lili. This is directly related to my ex telling me that when I was at my (size 8) heaviest, I was at my most unattractive, and he was visibly distant with me then. I mean, I’ll always be an apple shape (bigger shoulders/chest/waist) compared to hips/butt/legs. BUT 8 is my heaviest. Size 3/4 is my smallest. 6 is about my median, but now i feel like, til I get back to the 3/4 I don’t deserve to be loved/girlfriended whatever. Of course, working in fashion and seeing size 0s come in for castings all day is doing NOTHING for my body image issues. I’m not the biggest girl in my company either, but i am on the larger side at my office. I work out in phases. Like, I’ll sign up for classes and go regularly, and then get busy socially and they slide, I get fat (meaning gain 5 lbs) again and its a vicious circle of feeling down about myself, then committing to two workouts a day, no social life, but skinnier me.

AND added on that, my newest closest friend is a person who OBSESSES over her eating. Like she only eats vegetable salads with boiled lentils for meals. Plus regularly goes on juicing only fasts and of course men who wanna do her flock to her left and right. I admit to loving food. And craving flavor and variety. I can BARELY eat the same meal two days in a row and I love carbs. Never met one I didnt like. Oh and cheese and wine. Of course, these aren’t low fat items. I do care, and I don’t. IDK… Ok, that feels good to get off my ample chest. I’ll head back to my cocktail (vodka soda, skinny girl cocktail) that I’m only half done with. Thanks for listening everybody.

[Trixy MinxParticipant]

I deal with alot of the same issues as you lili. I feel like the reason I haven’t found anyone is beaus I’m asst my heaviest. I’ve been trying and failing at losing weight. I think three best thing to remember when you are feeling down its that some day you’ll find someone to love you for who you are as a person. Cause, trust me lili, what I know about you is that you are truly beautiful inside and out. Sometimes I like to think that if I’m just a generally happy charismatic person I’ll draw someone in who loves me for that. Looks fade. If you can’t love me now when I feel bloated like a whale then what is going to happen when my tits start to sag? Lol

[JKParticipant]

@lili and trixy: I wish I could do something to get those crappy thought out of your heads. I´ve been there, when I was in my late teens/early 20s I would totally obsess about my body. And now, when I realize that my body back then was awesome, and now 10 years and 2 pregnancies later it has of course changed somewhat, I feel fine about my body!
Like trixy says, the right guy will love you for who you are.

And lili, believe me that I´ve NEVER met a guy who prefers a woman that doesn´t eat, and is too thin over a woman that actually likes food and is comfortable in her body.

[CaraParticipant]

I kind of feel that way too, I was never really thin, but was at my thinnest when I was 18, with a height of 1.78 cm /5´10 and 58 kilo / 128 pounds. And I know that doesn´t sound too much, but I still wasn´t skinny like most people are, and I ate almost nothing then! Anyway, I gained so much weight in the 8 years since then, think 30 kilos, 20 of them in the past 2 years…. I´d be okay if I lost 15 of them but right now I feel really undesirable. And fewer men hit on me! Like a lot less. It´s not like I go out and feel unsexy or anything, most of the time I do feel good about myself but still.

My ex never said anything bad about my weight gain, but he wasn´t a fan. But then he couldn´t really say anything, because one, only assholes do that and two, I lost both my parents in the two years we were together, so he knew why I had gained that weight.

The random 20 year old I hooked up with last year who commented that my tummy was SO SOFT AND SQUISHY! didn´t help matters, lol.

[JKParticipant]

@cara I´m sorry about your parents.
And 58 kg at your height is WAY too skinny. Hell, I´m 1.75, and am weighing 60 kg at the moment, and everybody keeps telling me I´m too skinny.

Advice for all of you: find yourself a nice latin guy The only complaint Arturo has about my body is that I don´t have a butt. Latin guys love curves!

[CarisParticipant]

How is being 1.78 and 58k not skinny? I’m 1.64 and weigh 60k, and I don’t consider myself fat, at all. I love to eat, I love yummy food and I’d never give that up, just to lose some weight.
My bf says that my tummy is soft and squishy, and he loves it. He doesn’t say it to make me feel bad about myself. He loves that my stomach is soft, he can use it as a pillow .

Anyhoo, if you really interested in losing weight, I’ll tell you what my mom does. She lost A LOT of weight with this diet, and she doesn’t gain it back. She also has hypothyroidism, and shes a big woman (big bones, tall, etc) so she tends to gain weight really easy. What she does is eat mostly protein during the day (no carbs, if she does eat carbs during the day it’s very little). And then at night she only eats vegetables. She also stopped eating fruits, instead she drinks those vitamin supplement drinks that supposedly taste like OJ. The diet works so well, that sometimes for dinner she only has ice-cream (1/4 kg) . She eats, a lot of cheese, sometimes for breakfast she has steak. That’s how she eats now. She also works out a lot. She swims, goes for runs and sometimes goes to the gym.

The reason I couldn’t care less about diets it’s because my mom has gone through SO many of them. She was always told by ppl (her mom, my dad, her sister) that she was fat. She wasn’t. I mean, I look at pictures of her back when she was in her 20′s 30′s and she looks AMAZING. So, I always so her struggling with some diet, getting depressed because she gained 1kg and stuff like that. And it only succeeded in making her unhappy. She thinks that losing weight will make her happier, and that’s not how it actually works. So, after seeing her be unhappy with her body all my life, I chose to be happy with my body and not stress about my weight.

[CarisParticipant]

This guy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P-l8MRaWfxs&feature=g-user-c is doing a similar diet to my mom’s. He’s just some dude trying to lose wight, he is no expert or anything, but this diet works for him. Maybe you can try listening to what he has to say.

[CaraParticipant]

Jk, thank you. My first boyfriend was actually a Latino!

Caris: Yes I was skinny, but not the fairy, waif-like skinny I thought I should be. I just have curves.

Generally, I like myself, I don´t obsess about my body every day, but sometimes it does get me down. Just not enough to, you know, stop eating. Food and cooking play too much a role in my life to diet. I do eat relatively healthy, but I don´t exercise at ALL. Which is really bad and unhealthy, I know. I will pick up sailing in september, so yay for that.

We seriously sidetracked this thread, sorry. Back to Miss Advised. I have never seen it and can´t find it online, so I don´t have much to say about it.

[CaraParticipant]

Found it and saw the first two episodes, I think I like Amy best, so far. Julia is just… too over the top. She has some really funny lines, but she tries sooo hard!

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