Going to coffee for any other reason than seeing how dating goes is kind of leading him on if you don’t specify. He was very direct. There is no wiggle room here, imo.
The fact he was so clear about it makes me say you need to be absolutely clear that there is no dating potential if you guys hang out / meet up for coffee – but somehow people tend to hold out hope anyways….so I’m not sure it’s the best idea.
@sobriquet – yeah, in the end that was the only reason I considered going. I came to the conclusion that I’m sure the attraction won’t change, but it’s not like it would be a bad time and I think nice guys who make an effort should win out. But then I thought that might be a little lame to assume that it would be a situation he would even want – to go out with a girl who wasn’t interested. So I figured the sooner the better rather than let it drag out.