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    Zepp
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    My boyfriend is on a business trip for 16 days. It’s night four, and I still do not want to go to bed at all. Normally I am asleep at 11 pm like clockwork. Last night I was up til 2 am! I think part of the reason is I have a lot going on at work this week and I’m not getting home until 8:30/9 pm, but it’s mainly my routine is totally screwed up by the BF not being here. I don’t like going to bed alone :(

    I still have to get up at 7 am and be on my toes at work all day so this staying up super late things needs to stop. what can i doooo this sucks! im so tired but my mind just wont sleep

    #27334
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    Zepp
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    Also with the time difference us talking on the phone before bed/goodnight talk is not an option :(

    #27336
    JK
    JK
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    I sympathize, zepp. I suck at sleeping alone, too.
    The only thing that really works for me is having something really boring on TV. After a while I will drift off. And having several lights on (I´m a wuss).
    Apart from that I would recommend the usual things: cut down on caffeine, sugary foods in the afternoon. Maybe some exercise to get you good and tired?

    #27338
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    jlyfsh
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    yeah i use the tv on in the background, if your couch is comfy sometimes i try and sleep on that too. for some reason when i sleep alone it’s easier for me to fall asleep there rather than the bed. i also make my dogs cuddle with me at night when my husband is gone, haha.

    #27352
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    Something More
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    You could try taking a Melatonin tablet before you go to bed. My daughter uses them becasue she’s on a medication that makes it harder for her to fall asleep and it works really well.

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    Trixy Minx
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    When I’m feeling lonely i snuggle up with my dog or a pillow. If i cant sleep I’ll take some nyquil to help.

    #27356
    mllryjo
    mllryjo
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    I LOVE melatonin! I would definitely suggest melatonin. Also, hear me out on this next one, because I didn’t trust it at first either. Have you ever tried listening to a guided imagery or meditation? At first I was like, “No way this is stupid.” Then I slept like a baby. I think it just gets your brain to stop thinking. It’s out there, but I really like this lady’s stuff: http://www.healthjourneys.com/. I even won over my old roommate, and she was so skeptical. I came back 15 minutes later and she was OUT.

    Also, buy a bottle of lavender scented lotion and put it on every night right before you fall asleep. You’ll start equating the smell of it with sleeping, and it’s a step that makes bedtime seem more spa-like and less like something you have to do.

    I also have an app on my phone that makes rain or wave sounds. Love that.

    #27358
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    iseeshiny
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    I second sleeping on the couch – it doesn’t feel so empty.

    #27360
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    Anna
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    I hear that. It’s been two weeks since I started sleeping alone and I’m still no good at it. I’ve never been so glad to be on 3rd shift. On my nights off, sometimes I’m up until sunrise. My couch is the expressway to back pain so I hooked up my 2nd TV in my bedroom to help with going to sleep. Also, I always have to leave one light on somewhere in the apartment.

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    Zepp
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    the sleeping on the couch totally worked! Luckily we have a pretty comfy couch. Thanks so much guys!

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    Fabelle
    Fabelle
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    Aw, I’m the same way– it’s really difficult for me to sleep when my boyfriend’s not with me. I can fall asleep, but usually wind up tossing & turning/waking up all night and missing him. The couch is a good idea; I’m glad it worked out :)

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    Fabelle
    Fabelle
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    Also, I know people mentioned melatonin, but serotonin supplements (5htp) coupled with Valerian root can also be helpful.

    #27389
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    GatorGirl
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    Goodness I can not sleep when I’m home alone. I’m usually up untill 2 or 3 and it is terrible! Being alone in that big bed is so hard! I don’t have any tips other than a good stiff drink.

    #27452
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    Zepp
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    I know I cant believe how empty the bed feels! And every other morning we talk about how small our bed is (I think it’s full size! not even a queen!) and how we need to get a bigger one. I’m not picky about being touched in my sleep though. I like the forced cuddling! =)

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    cokes518
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    Also try sleeping with his shirt, one that he’s worn once but not completely stinky. Man-pheromones are relaxing!

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