July 17, 2012 at 8:20 pm #33896
I definitely believe in dreams having meaning, but I can’t even imagine what deeper meaning this dream could have. I just woke up from it about a half hour ago. So at first (in the dream) I was hanging out with my coworker that I kinda have a crush on. We talk a lot on the nights we work together and he acts kinda flirty. We’ve never hung out together outside of work but have plans to go to dinner with a few other mutual friends soon. So, in the dream, we were hanging out and suddenly he came closer, told me that I’m beautiful and kissed me passionately (think movie-style). After that, for some reason we were walking into the grocery store and I saw my ex in the store. I started to wonder if he would get jealous seeing me with this hottie. I walked past my ex and he didn’t say anything to me. Then, I heard my mom calling my name and saw my entire family standing by the deli counter. I felt obligated to go say hi to them even though I was much more excited about hanging out with this guy. After I hugged my mom, I turned to find the guy so I could introduce him but he was gone. I looked through the crowd but couldn’t find him. That was when I woke up.
I’m getting the obvious connections here: my work crush, my feelings for my ex, my feelings towards my fairly-astranged family. But why did he disappear as soon as I was with my family? Why did my ex ignore me? And why the grocery store? Actually I have one theory about the grocery store…there was one time about a year ago when I ran into my coworker at the grocery store and we talked and laughed together for a little while. At that time, I was still in a relationship. But I don’t really understand how it all ties together or what it means in the big picture.July 17, 2012 at 9:01 pm #33901
Hmm, dreams usually mean completely different things than what they actually are. Like, death never means actual death, it means change, etc. I don’t know anything about dream interpretation but that I have always found it interesting. I think it involves sorting through the things your subconscious was just regurgitating from memory, and what represented feelings you have or things you have subconsciously picked up from others.July 17, 2012 at 10:45 pm #33908
I don’t really know that I buy dreams having any meaning…it’s just whatever is floating around in your brain that happens to come to the surface while you sleep. But, I know for me at least, I tend to have crazier dreams (or remember them more) when I’m really stressed out.July 17, 2012 at 11:47 pm #33912
I am in no way a dream interpreter, but I’ll play cuz it seems fun.
I think your hottie coworker disappeared because you don’t really see him as being much more than well, your hottie coworker and a potential rebound.
I think your ex ignored you because he spent a shit ton of time ignoring your feelings/wants/needs toward the end.
Grocery store…have you gone shopping recently? It’s also a nice, neutral, normal-ish place. I just googled it, and it says if it shows up in your dream you are lacking “some emotional or physical need.” Well, that speaks for itself. And it goes on to say that if the grocery store is full, it means you have lots of options/choices going on (house hunting…?).
I bet the grocery store was a perfect setting because all three represent (based on what you’ve shared here) a sort of “lacking” in your life. Hottie = hot hot sex , Ex = duh, Mom = a true motherly figure.July 18, 2012 at 1:32 am #33914
Thanks Laura! I did google it and it’s kinda fascinating. One site said the grocery store represents that you are “shopping” for something emotional or physical that you need. It makes sense in that context that my crush, my ex, and my family would be there. I fantasize about my crush sometimes physically because this 3 months is the longest sex dry spell I’ve ever had since I became sexually active. Of course I still miss my ex and his companionship. And everyone needs family…I just wish mine were normal.
I also read this about grocery store dreams: “Supermarket:.
Groceries offer an endless and tempting variety of things. To dream of being in a market means you are faced with tough choices, all of which look perfect and inviting. You are shopping not just for material things, but for things that relate to your emotional or social needs. You might be concerned of making the wrong choice in spending your money/attention/energy.”
So that makes sense in terms of my current house hunt as well as some other big decisions that are looming ahead career-wise and in my romantic life.July 18, 2012 at 1:35 am #33915
It is going to be challenging next time I work with my crush because that dream kiss was so hot… I woke up super turned on…it was so vivid. Next time I see him I will be thinking about it for sure.July 18, 2012 at 1:56 am #33917
Haha, you’ll have to tease him and tell him he was in your dream
And yeah, this dry spell thing is so not awesome. I’m hitting close to the longest I’ve gone for a while, too, and don’t see the situation changing for a loooooong time. It’s so weird!July 18, 2012 at 8:02 am #33918
haha, anna, atleast you didnt have a dream about a creepy co-worker or one you are absolutely not attracted to.. lol. that would be really awkward!
has that ever happened to anybody? its happened to me. and its super terrible because, like anna said, the next time you see them its all you can think about. lol…July 18, 2012 at 10:23 am #33925
I believe that dreams can have meanings too. I think it’s the way your brain solves things, and works things out. Other times it means nothing lol, but there are ones that have meaning.
To me the dream sounds anxiety/worry filled. You want your ex to notice you with someone else, but he doesn’t. Does that mean that he’s completely over you (in the dream) when you’re not quite over him yet? About your parents, could be that you’re afraid of introducing someone new to them, that a new guy may freak out and leave because they’re a little over the topJuly 18, 2012 at 10:34 am #33927
I think Michelle.Lea has it spot-on– you’re afraid of introducing a new guy or maybe even telling a new guy about your family for fear he’ll run. I know popular dream interpretations have everything meaning something entirely different, but this one seems like it has pretty obvious symbolism. I definitely believe dreams have meaning, but instead of focuing on things like “Why were we in a grocery store??” it can help to focus on how you felt/any “thoughts” you had during the dream (if that makes sense)July 18, 2012 at 10:36 am #33928
I think what you posted sounds about right. I had a dream I got a mermaid tattoo on my upper thigh. I don’t think that means anything, I just found it odd.July 18, 2012 at 11:19 am #33943
I always have dreams about whales. Since I was a kid. It’s recurring. Usually, I am swimming with them or looking at them from above. And I feel like we are communicating in some strange, other-worldly way. I love whales, so that might be part of it… but, I love a lot of things that I don’t often dream about. So, I like to think it means something!
Although, some dreams are just plain effed up and I hope they are just my brain firing off random tidbits… and not actual meaning.
Anna, you’ve mentioned the tumultuous relationship with your family multiple times on DW. I wonder if it is just the part of you that wishes you could have a healthy relationship with them. You are longing for that special guy in your life (OMG, that sounds so cheesy!! LOL, sorry!). When you have a significant other, you probably look at him as your primary family, since you aren’t able to be close with your folks. And right now, maybe you feel a little like you don’t have a family because you are single. It is just that inner battle, expressing itself in your dream. Don’t be offended if I am way off!
But, at least you got to make out with a hot guyJuly 18, 2012 at 12:45 pm #33952
SweetPeaG, I think you are right on about a couple things. When I was with my ex, I did think of him as my family since I’m not close to my biological family. Honestly, I’m not even sure how I ended up being related to them. And I do feel like I don’t have a family now that I’m single. Luckily I’m one of those people who doesn’t really mind being alone, but of course there’s something missing there.
I also think Michelle Lea is right about the fear of introducing a new guy to my parents, especially if it were the guy in the dream because he’s black and my parents are very ignorant racists. I don’t think he would run because I’ve told him all about my family and he’s told me about his too. Our families are actually very much alike. You end up talking about anything and everything when you spend 10-11 hour overnight shifts with someone in a nearly empty office.
I might tell him about the dream just to see his reaction. I don’t really see him as relationship material because he’s a workaholic who works two full time jobs a total of 20 hours a day. But I would definitely enjoy making out with him for a little fun.July 18, 2012 at 12:46 pm #33953
*wondering if any of my FB friends will figure out who he is* heheJuly 18, 2012 at 1:31 pm #33954
Hooray for black guys! We are back on the map!
I never referenced my dreams to real life events. I’ll take a stab at your dream. Pretty easy and everyone probably hit on it. You want to sleep with your co-worker, but not date him, wish you could get back with your ex and everything be better, and can go either way with your family.
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