May 7, 2012 at 9:26 am #24174
The internet seems to have a very mixed opinion on this question. And, I trust the DW community
So, what does everyone think is an appropriate amount to give for a wedding gift? The couple is not registered, so I am definitely giving money. I am not super close to them, but have been friendly with the bride since high school (we are 30 now)… so it has at least been a long friendship. I gather their wedding will be nice, but casual.
Any suggestions on what is an appropriate amount? I am not rolling in the dough (and am in the process of planning/saving for my own wedding)… but I also want to give a respectful amount that shows I am very happy for them!May 7, 2012 at 9:29 am #24176
$100? $100. I’ve been giving $100 lately. I’m owe 3 wedding gifts right now. I need to start writing checks.May 7, 2012 at 9:35 am #24177
Yeah that’s about what we’re going to. Going to a wedding this weekend in DC, and we’ll probably do $150 from ‘us’May 7, 2012 at 9:35 am #24178
I would do $100 for you and your fiance together.
Also, I find it very weird they aren’t registered anywhere…that is one of my favorite “fun” activities in my own wedding planning!May 7, 2012 at 9:42 am #24179
I think they are so established in their lives, that they really don’t need to register. She was previously married with a child. And they just had a baby together recently. They own a home which is fully furnished… they don’t really need to many things for the home.May 7, 2012 at 9:42 am #24180
Heh, yeah I can kind of understand that…we’re probably not going to have a registry either simply because by the time that we actually roll around to getting married we’ll have been together for long enough to basically have everything that we want.
The problem with that is that then what, our friend’s are asking people to donate money towards their honeymoon for the same reason, but the bf and I are broke enough that we can only set aside like $50 towards the present and I’d be embarrassed if they ever saw how much we actually put in…May 7, 2012 at 10:08 am #24184
I don’t think $50 is something to be embarrassed about. If they are friends, they probably understand that you two don’t have a ton to spend. I have put in $50 to a wedding I went to when I was younger and had NO money.
The $100 is probably what I am thinking I will do, but I won’t pretend it isn’t gonna hurt to write out that check.
I was thinking of doing the honeymoon registry myself. I think it is kind of a cute idea… people can see what their gifts went towards, so it is slightly more personal than cash. Plus, fiance and I already have a home. And while it isn’t lavishly furnished, we’re pretty simple people, so don’t need a bunch of extras. I have NEVER been on any sort of tropical vacation. The furthest I have been is down the east coast. So, I feel like I want a nice honeymoon BADLY.May 7, 2012 at 10:14 am #24187
I’ve been to a modest number of weddings, but $100 sounds like a lot to me. I always thought around $40-50 for acquaintances who can’t afford a lot (or whatever else they can afford, if that’s less), and the $100 and up category was for people who were older, well-established in life, and kind of close to the couple. $100 bucks is a lot of money…May 7, 2012 at 10:20 am #24189
I’ve done $100 (or more) for close family or friends. But for people I’m not as close to, I scale it back. Honestly, though, if you can’t afford it, don’t go for broke to make them think any particular thing about you. Give only what you can afford. We had a couple gift us with a check for $35, and we were incredibly honored. It’s not about the amount, but the spirit in which you give. Anyone who’s not a total jerk will be grateful for anything you can give,May 7, 2012 at 10:22 am #24191
I usually give a $100 a person so $200 from my husband and me. However, if it’s a casual friend, I’d give less, or a close family member, I’d give more. It’s all what you can afford though! When we were broke, I gave what I could. I agree with evanscr05, that it’s the thought behind the gift that counts, not the amount.May 7, 2012 at 11:13 am #24218
I think $100 is a good starting point. If you want to give more, for whatever reason, increase it. If $100 is too much for your budget, decrease it.
Like evanscr05 said, I had people give us as little as $40 and was fine with that. Give whatever you’re comfortable with, and write something thoughtful in the card. I saved all my cards and plan on pulling them out and looking through them around our 1st anniversary.May 7, 2012 at 11:35 am #24229
Close friends / family I give $200. Friends I was at least close to at one time but don’t talk to anymore $100. Work people/really casual acquantance to the point of being surprised of being invited I do $50 if it was a casual type of wedding and $100 if it was fancy.May 7, 2012 at 11:44 am #24233
Yeah, for me–close friends is $200 (keep in mind there’s 2 people signing the card, my boyfriend & me) For anyone else, I give $100 (again, that’s the amount coming from a couple)
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