July 23, 2012 at 6:18 pm #34386
Not a very dire situation, but advice would be helpful nonetheless!
So, I’m going to visit/stay with my boyfriend’s family for a couple days, and I’m completely at a loss for what to get them as a “thanks for letting me stay here” present. I figured I’d ask the helpful people of DW rather than continuing to get baffled by what my boyfriend considers good ideas.
I’ve always thought that perishables like local snacks, etc. are a good idea. But in an effort to make it more personalized, I asked my boyfriend what he thought his parents and soon to be married sister would like. The response? “Well my sister said my mom might appreciate things like photo frames or a serving platter more”. Seriously? There’s no special event and I feel like that’s way more formal than necessary. Not to mention I would be confused by people giving me sometime like picture frames.
Ideas? I think I need some objective opinions.July 23, 2012 at 6:28 pm #34387
I think a nice bottle of wine is always a good idea (if they drink, that is). Buying something like a picture frame or serving platter seems overly formal (plus, how are you supposed to know what his parents like?). Or, a nice bottle of champagne to celebrate the sister’s upcoming wedding?July 23, 2012 at 6:33 pm #34390
Yeah, I typically default to wine. If they don’t drink, maybe a small flowering plant?July 23, 2012 at 6:53 pm #34393
Admittedly I come from a background that’s a bit more casual than others, but I always bake something. Cupcakes, fudge, cookies, etc. That should be enough combined with offering to help make and clean up from dinner.July 23, 2012 at 6:54 pm #34394
Ha funny I was going to suggest wine too. Maybe find out what each of their favorite liquors are and get them each a bottle of the best kind? Like if his dad likes whiskey get him a unique/nice bottle. Same for his Mom. Otherwise you could see what their hobbies are and get them a gift certificate to do those things. Like his mom a yoga pass and his dad a round of golf or something.July 23, 2012 at 6:55 pm #34395
theattack – YES of the offers to clean up! Those are always super appreciated I think.July 23, 2012 at 8:33 pm #34400
Reading this in my phone I thought it said penis and I was like……… Drawing a blank… “Parents” didn’t make much difference. Haha. It has been so long since I have had to be concerned about that and never since having a full time job.
That said…bottle of wine is always good. A nice center piece for a table…may be more holiday appropriate… One of my exes brought pastries in the past.
Cleaning offering is always a good one. My parents wouldn’t stand for that on the first few visits. Though definite brownie points…..Haha but once a gf has been around for a bit that situation changes.July 24, 2012 at 8:59 am #34458
I think wine is definitely a good idea, or some other kind of food item. If you don’t want to completely disregard your boyfriend’s suggestion, maybe arrange some baked good or crackers & cheese (I dunno?) on a decorative plate for the parents to keep.July 24, 2012 at 9:21 am #34472
Wine or bake something. Or tea towels.July 24, 2012 at 9:25 am #34474
I would get a nice bottle of wine and wrap it in a decorative dish towel. Like this-
That is somewhere between a perishable and a physical gift. Personally I think it would be odd if you brought a serving tray or something- you don’t know their house or personal style yet really.
And then offer to clean up, make your bed everyday, and don’t leave a mess in the bathroom.July 24, 2012 at 10:13 am #34496
great though, gator girl!July 24, 2012 at 2:12 pm #34528
i agree with theattack baking something feels personal. Maybe you could bring the baked good on a nice serving plate and then you get the best of both worlds with something they can use (the plate) but with some thought put in (the baked good)July 24, 2012 at 5:39 pm #34602
I like the idea of perishable + permanent. I’m with theattack, I always bake. Maybe ask your boyfriend whether his parents would appreciate baked goods or liquor more, what their favorite of both is, and just bring it with the cute plate or dish towel that others have suggested.July 24, 2012 at 6:56 pm #34625
I always took baked stuff to my ex’s parents’ house for Christmas and the family always loved it. And I always TRIED bringing it on a nice dish or something, but…his mom would always wash it and give it back to me *face palm* And I swear it wasn’t because I had horrible taste, that’s just the way she was.
Last Christmas I got them some tea that they totally loved, and the one before that, I got them some special alcohol from their home country and a pretty coffee table book with stuff from their home country. So if they are far, maybe something local or unique to where you live, or if they’re foreign, maybe something that reminds them of home?
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