Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Friday Fun: Look, Ma, No Hands!

In the last few weeks, I’ve started a list of things we need to get as we prepare to become first-time parents in October. To get ideas for this list, I’ve been talking to friends and family who have young kids, reading parenting blogs, observing the young families in my neighborhood (there are a lot of them!), browsing the baby sections of Amazon.com and Target.com, reading consumer reports, and skimming peoples’ baby registries online. I even took notes at a baby shower I went to last weekend. During this process, I’ve discovered a lot of crap one needs in order to care for a baby. But nothing has been quite as … illuminating as this “hands free breast pump” product I found on Amazon the other day. I guess I can see the logic of such a thing — like, if you’ve literally got your hands super full and suddenly your boobs are threatening to explode all over the place. But, come on … is some lady really gonna sit around watching “The Real Housewives of Atlanta” with two bottles strapped around her chest and hanging from her tits? Readers with kids, is this normal?? Do people really do this? Also, I would very much like it if my stomach looked like this model’s after I give birth. Also, if you have any suggestions for my product list, please let me know!

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    LTC039 May 27, 2011, 1:13 pm

    Maybe you can use it while on the treadmill?? If you’re worried about not being able to lose the baby fat. 🙂

    P.S. Absolutely LOVING the title!! Awesome, Wendy!

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    Quakergirl May 27, 2011, 1:23 pm

    I don’t have kids yet (shockingly enough to most people around me), but buying baby gifts for friends is overwhelming enough. Flipping through a registry is like looking into some kind of alien civilization– wtf does half that stuff do?! I can’t even imagine how it must feel to actually have to learn what it all does/ how to use it, and decide what you actually need, all while you’re pregnant. Yikes.

    Although I will say, I’ve bought some friends a baby food “cookbook” that has different recipes for baby food at different ages, with prep instructions for different fruits and veggies and nutritional info. I may not know what the hell a diaper genie is, but I definitely know that babies need to eat. And making your own food is a great way to save money and have more control about what you’re putting into your child’s system. I can’t remember the name of the book at the moment, but I’ll see if I can track it down.

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      MissDre May 27, 2011, 1:37 pm

      If I’m going to a baby shower, I tend to get the mother something for HERSELF. She’ll get tons of diapers and clothes and receiving blankets and bottles from other people. So I like to do something nice for the mama to be. A nice lotion set or a gift card for a foot massage or pregnancy massage or something (depending on how well I know the person and my budget).

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        Quakergirl May 27, 2011, 1:40 pm

        Oooh that is a good idea– I’ll keep that in mind for the next mom-to-be. Thanks for the tip!

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        Wendy May 27, 2011, 2:09 pm

        Hmm… pregnancy massage. I want!

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        BecBoo84 May 27, 2011, 2:57 pm

        They are awesome! You must get one. That should have been on your Mother’s Day list for Drew 🙂

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      NOLAGirl May 27, 2011, 2:10 pm

      on that same note, a food mill – if you’re going to make your own food. Or an immersion blender (if you don’t already have one). That way you can grind up that baby food into babyfood puree. I personally find an immersion blender to be the most awesome thing ever – AND it’s easy to clean and you can use it for making grownup stuff too!

      I think honestly though, so long as you have a baby, some diapers and some clothes and bottles, you can figure out what you need as you go along. All those baby supplies out there just scare the hell out of me. We’re not pregnant yet, but I think a lot of baby-supplies is just made to make mom’s feel self conscious about themselves and feel like they NEED this thing to be a good mom. Mom’s did this for generations, it shouldn’t be this complicated.

      I will say, a friend of mine tried these cloth diapers (don’t cringe yet), but she uses the FuzzyBunz or something like that. But the Flip brand seems better from reviews. I think when we do have a little NOLAGirl or NOLABoy, I will totally jump on the cloth bandwagon. I was skeptical til I saw them in use and ever since I’ve been totally ready to try them. My friends swear by them. And they had two kids before that used disposable.

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        Quakergirl May 27, 2011, 2:27 pm

        YES on the immersion blender. The books usually say to do it in a food processor, but if you don’t have one/ want one/ have the space for one, go with the immersion blender. Don’t get me wrong, I use my food processor a lot for professional purposes, but for most things I make as regular home food (purees, soups, smoothies– you know, all sorts of baby-friendly items) I just use the immersion blender. Super easy to clean and store.

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        NOLAGirl May 27, 2011, 2:55 pm

        we used ours for making soup, then we went “duh, we can totally make baby food with this thing.” It was like a total lightbulb. It also makes making your own hummus (for mommy to snack on) much easier!

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        Skyblossom May 27, 2011, 5:18 pm

        I made my kids babyfood in the food processor and it was great. You have a lot more variety than the grocery will ever sell and they refused to eat canned baby food from the store. However you puree it, when it’s smooth you can put it into ice cube trays, freeze the food, pop the food cubes out of the trays and put them into freezer bags. Then all you have to do is take some cubes and microwave to feed the baby. I did many foods that don’t usually come as babyfood like berries. My kids loved them and still do.

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    cmarie May 27, 2011, 1:24 pm

    I’ve never given birth but I have a lot of baby experience. First off, cocoa butter all over that belly. Not the generic either, Palmers. My sister learned this the hard way. If you start to break out in a tummy rash, my sister had an allegic reaction to the amniotic fluid, Cetaphil works wonders. For breastfeeding women it’s recommended that you try to exclusively breastfeed for the first few weeks so that your milk supply doesn’t diminish and if you give the baby a bottle too soon he/she might have trouble going back to the breast. A double breast pump is best, and easier. It’s also less time consumming. The best breast pumps will be electric and quick, to mimic the feel of a baby nursing. Pumping can sometimes lead to low milk supply if it’s too slow or doesn’t have enough suction. Nursing stimulates the hormones that produce the milk. Some of the best pumps around come from Medela, although they can be pricey. Also, make sure to see if your insurance covers the pump before you pay out of pocket. Some will cover it fully, others will reimburse you some of the cost. Lactation consultants can be your best friend if you’re struggling to breastfeed. Also, contact your local La Leche League if you want support. Most importantly, you’re mama. Don’t let anybody bully you into something you’re not comfortable with. I spent some time on the Mother-Baby Unit at my hospital and you wouldn’t believe some of the things you hear.

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      cmarie May 27, 2011, 1:41 pm

      Another note, have Drew check for edema in your feet at night. Press the edge of your ankle, at the top where the bend between foot and leg is. If the white spot from the pressure takes a while to go fade, longer than a spot on your arm, call your doctor just in case. It’s most likely normal but my sister developed preeclampsia because of a kidney infection and the stress it caused (it sent her in and out of labor) at the end of her pregnancy and that was one of her major symptoms. Not trying to scare you, of course, but it was one the things no one really talked to her about.

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      Skyblossom May 27, 2011, 5:21 pm

      If you’re planning to breastfeed the La Leche League book “The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding” is a godsend. It tells you how to position the baby and how to get them latched on properly. It lets you know that if it hurts then the baby isn’t latched on properly and you need to try again, not just try to grin and bear it. When you’re at home alone with your baby it is incredibly helpful.

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    Bethany May 27, 2011, 1:33 pm

    I’m not a mom yet, but a lot of people I know have been having babies lately, so I have a few things for you.
    1- use cloth diapers as burp rags. They’re the perfect size, shape, thickness
    2- using the breast pump/breast feeding is NOT easy for most people. I don’t think people expect it to be so difficult and then get upset that it’s not working, which in turn makes it harder. relax and know you’re not the only one who has problems with it.
    3- people are going to give you a lot of advice. they’ll assume that what worked for them will work for you too. Listen to all the advice but pick out what works for you and what you’re comfortable with. Different strokes for different folks!

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      BecBoo84 May 27, 2011, 2:59 pm

      I have to agree with the breast feeding thing. That is the one thing I tell ALL of my friends when they’re expecting… breast feeding the first couple of weeks is typically super difficult and very painful, but if you make it through the initial tough stuff, it is SO worth it. I was completely unprepared for how much it would hurt, but I’m very glad I stuck with it.

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    LolaBeans May 27, 2011, 1:54 pm

    Hi Wendy,

    every mom I know swears by this: http://www.toysrus.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3433615.
    it’s a bumbo seat.

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    Sailorbabe May 27, 2011, 1:55 pm

    I am a mom of one and some things on my list: a great pack n play to take on trips with you, a nice roomy diaper bag for all the stuff you need to carry around with you (mine turned into a purse for about 5 months too), and a durable stroller for getting you and baby out of the house once in a while! Another blog that I read had a list posted just the other day of some awesome baby stuff that she used once the baby arrived. You might find it useful!
    http://www.modgblog.com/2011/05/18/the-ultimate-baby-crap-survival-list-plus-the-stuff-that-is-actual-crap/

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    mich May 27, 2011, 2:10 pm

    OMG yes I would have loved this when I was trying to pump! My milk wouldnt come in and I had to pump several times a day and night. You have to hold those things on, it can take a half-hour, and you can’t even flip the pages of a magazine or hold a book or surf online! And yes, you do watch TV while pumping. You get used to the lack of modesty after childbirth. This thing would have been awesome. I totally would have used it!

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    Wendy May 27, 2011, 2:10 pm

    Thanks for the great tips and suggestions. Keep ’em comin’!

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    ncp May 27, 2011, 2:15 pm

    First time commenting on Dear Wendy, and of COURSE it’s going to be about breastfeeding (you may have unleashed a monster here).

    Hands-free breast pumps are for moms who are SO BUSY at work that they need both their hands to type expense reports and convince marketing that they DON’T need $50,000 to plaster useless advertisements all over the city (or whatever working moms do, I dunno). In fact, double electric breast pumps in general are for moms who work in an office and NEED to produce enough breastmilk to provide milk for their munchkin for the 8 hours a day they are separated.

    If you’re going to be spending a lot of time separated from your kid, you need a double electric pump. If you’re a WAHM or a SAHM, you need…. a BABY! Babies are MUCH more efficient at getting out milk, plus they’re more cuddly than a machine that makes moo-ing sounds (it really does moo at you when it’s pumping). If you only need a pump for pumping when you have to go out with the gurls once in a while, a hand-held or single-breast pump is adequate. Just pump right before you need to leave the baby. Breastmilk is good at room temperature for up to 4 hours anyway, and good in the fridge for up to a week.

    This is probably way too much information from a first-time commenter! Congratulations on your little one! If you want more information on boob-related issues, I swear by <a href=http://www.kellymom.com!

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      Wendy May 27, 2011, 2:25 pm

      Thanks. I will be a W/SAHM, for what it’s worth. I hope to have a babysitter a few mornings a week — so I can keep up with this site, which I HOPE will be profitable enough by October to justify a part-time babysitter/nanny — so I may have to pump a little for those times, but I don’t plan to be away from the baby all that much — especially in the beginning.

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      cdjd0523 May 27, 2011, 2:47 pm

      Breastmilk is good in the fridge up to 3 days, 4 if you really want to push it. After that it’s dump or freeze. The milk storage bags are great but if you want to freeze, you can also do them in ice cube trays. That way you already have them divided into 2oz cubes and don’t have to worry about trying to measure it out.

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        Flake May 27, 2011, 3:15 pm

        You have to freeze breastmilk right away. You can’t keep it in the fridge for a few days and then freeze.

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      PFG-SCR May 27, 2011, 2:54 pm

      Some women can’t let-down or pump much with a single-side breast pump, so I’d recommend a good double-pump. Although it’s highly discouraged to share a breastpump, if you know someone who has a good one, you could buy it off of them, and then just go buy all of the horns/bottles/tubing to replace theirs. However, please get it tested by a lactation consultant because their efficiency decreases over time.

      Breastmilk is actually good for longer than 4 hours at room temperature (unless it’s a warm room) and in the fridge. If in doubt, just smell it – you’ll know if it’s been stored too long.

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        Skyblossom May 29, 2011, 8:28 pm

        My second breast pump was such a dud that it wouldn’t cause a let-down so I would feed my daughter on one side, which would cause a let-down, and then pump on the other side. So that’s one way around the let-down problem.

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      Flake May 27, 2011, 3:18 pm

      I pumped exclusively for 6 months, and unless you stop breastfeeding before the baby starts teething, it is not a pleasant experience feeding a teething baby. My friend showed me her nipples after her baby started getting teeth at 5 months and, while I got sore boobs every once in a while, they looked nothing like what she had.

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        PFG-SCR May 27, 2011, 3:49 pm

        A baby cannot nurse and bite at the same time, so if your baby “bites” (and they can clamp down without teeth), then you just remove them from the breast.

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        Flake May 27, 2011, 3:59 pm

        Really not to sound, patronizing, my do you have a baby?

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        PFG-SCR May 27, 2011, 4:03 pm

        Yes, I have three kids, and the _least_ amount of time I nursed was 18 months. So, I’ve nursed through no teeth to a full set of teeth.

        Honestly, I’ve probably had every single nursing “issue” at one point with one of them, except thrush.

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        Flake May 27, 2011, 4:09 pm

        I don’t know what to say then.. Because even before teeth came, when my babe would clamp down on the nipple it was not fun. It hurt like hell actually. And it took an effort to open his mouth and to take the boob out.

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        Flake May 27, 2011, 4:12 pm

        *baby

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        PFG-SCR May 27, 2011, 4:26 pm

        I’m not sure if you’re looking for advice or not, but assuming you do: If he was clamping down at the beginning/throughout the feeding, he didn’t have his mouth open wide enough (there are techniques to correct this). If he was clamping down at the end, he was done but didn’t just “pop” off like some babies do. To unlatch them, you have to put your finger in the side of their mouth to make them lose suction (hard to explain), but if you just try and pull them off, they’re going to damage your nipples.

        Also, I noticed that you mentioned you exclusively pumped with your son – that’s awesome, and as someone who has done that (with my first) but also nursed exclusively, pumping and bottle-feeding is so much more work. But, if you have another baby, I hope you give nursing another try because every baby is different. My second child – a girl – was a natural nurser from birth, and she was so easy.

        [By the way, I was very active on a breastfeeding forum when my kids were younger, in addition to nursing my own babies.]

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        Skyblossom May 27, 2011, 5:28 pm

        That’s the same as my experience. The La Leche League book explains all of this which is why it is so essential if you breastfeed.

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        ncp May 27, 2011, 4:20 pm

        Babies can’t nurse and bite at the same time. Usually by the time they start feeling the urge to bite down (around 4 months when the teeth start to descend), they are also old enough to be “taught” not to bite. It’s more of a Pavlovian thing… baby bites down, baby gets taken off the breast and told “That hurts Mommy!” Resume nursing after a minute or two. If they bite again, take them off the breast and tell them it hurts. They learn quickly that “biting=no more milk”, and they stop doing it.

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        SpyGlassez May 29, 2011, 4:22 pm

        Apparently I wouldn’t or didn’t learn that lesson, because when I cut teeth at 5 months and started biting, Mom quit breastfeeding me. I would bite any time she’d try.

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        Skyblossom May 27, 2011, 5:26 pm

        Babies don’t bite while breastfeediing. I breastfed both of my babies and never had trouble with either of them biting me when their teeth came in.

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    Diane May 27, 2011, 2:17 pm

    If I had had this when I was breastfeeding/pumping, oh my god would I have loved it! So much of the time pumping is just sitting there being bored holding those stupid things.

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      Ally May 27, 2011, 2:25 pm

      Agreed! As a between-feedings pumper, you often have to sit there holding those things on for upwards of 40 minutes every 2 hours…That adds up to A LOT of time without use of your hands and/or nothing else to do.

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      Flake May 27, 2011, 3:13 pm

      I used to surf the net… Not much else to do at 3 in the morning..

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    cdjd0523 May 27, 2011, 2:18 pm

    I have a son and I did the whole breast feeding pumping deal and while it was great to form the bond (mom and baby), helped nourish him and saved a bit of money, it hurts like hell! For those who aren’t sure what pumping feels like, it’s like taking the hose of a high powered vaccum to your nipples, I for sure never looked as relaxed as that model in the 5 months I pumped. Also keep a cloth or rag handy because there are times when the milk starts to leak out of the suction and can make a big mess. Cloth bra pads are more comfortable then disposable (disposable feel more like scratchy paper towels in your bra, no thanks) and clogged milk ducts are about as comfortable as massive knots in your legs. As for dispers, don’t necessarily expect to get a lot from your baby shower, a lot of people get other things and assume someone else is getting you diapers (I’ve been to 8 baby showers, only 1 person got diapers). And always make sure the diaper bag is packed, it’s horribly inconvenient to run out of wipes, diapers, extra clothes and it always happens when you least expect it.

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      SGMcG May 27, 2011, 2:26 pm

      How could people NOT bring diapers to a shower? That’s an awesome go-to gift for a baby shower! As soon as I hear from a new mom whether they’re going to do disposable or cloth diapers, I race to get supplies for making a diaper cake. They’re totally fun to make, the shower attendees love to see them and the mom appreciates the decorative accessories along with the diapers.

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        cdjd0523 May 27, 2011, 2:36 pm

        Cause a lot of people want to get something they view as more meaningful and assume the person will get lots of diapers from other people. Blankets, bottles, toys and clothes a pleanty since people see these things as more useful.

        As guests to a shower, if you buy clothes make sure clothes they are season appropriate. I had my son at the end of August and I received a bunch of tank tops and sleeveless clothes ranging from newborn to 6 months which was very nice and thoughful but heading into the fall and winter months was not super practical. So I stocked up on a lot of long sleeve white onsies so I could still use the clothes we were gifted.

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      BecBoo84 May 27, 2011, 3:02 pm

      I can’t agree more about the diapers. I only got 1 box at mine… and that was a size 2, because everyone assumed I’d be getting a ton of Newborn and size 1s.

      I have to say though that in regards to the pumping situation, that might be a person by person thing. I didn’t think pumping hurt at all, and I could produce 8-10 ounces in around 10 minutes.

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        Skyblossom May 27, 2011, 5:32 pm

        I think it all depends on the pump. The first one I had worked painlessly and quickly. It was a breeze. The second one hurt and hardly pumped anything. I almost never used it. The trouble is you have to try the pump to see if it works and if you’ve used the pump there is no way you can return it. If you have friends who use breast pumps ask how well theirs work. Ask if they hurt when they are used and how long it takes them to pump. Maybe that will help you find a good one on the first try.

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      Flake May 27, 2011, 3:08 pm

      Sorry you had such a rough time. I pumped for 13 months, and while it did hurt for the first 3, it never felt as bad as what you describe. It is not a pleasant experience though… I was very happy to put the pump far far away.

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      Skyblossom May 27, 2011, 5:43 pm

      I’d get only one pack of diapers before the baby arrives because different brands will fit differently on your baby and if they don’t fit your baby well they will leak. Diapers are so readily available and you would hate to have a large stash of diapers that leaked. My last baby was ten years ago so maybe they all work better now but we found that some name brand diapers were awful and some were great. We also tried the CVS brand diapers and they were excellent for us.

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    MissDre May 27, 2011, 2:30 pm

    This is giving me baby envy!

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      PFG-SCR May 27, 2011, 8:43 pm

      I’ve got three “babies”, if you want some practice! 😉

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        MissDre May 27, 2011, 10:17 pm

        I helped deliver my niece and nephew. Seriously, the best feeling in the world is having a new born baby fall asleep on your chest. I definitely know they grow up to be hyper little monsters (in a good way) but man… Some of the happiest moments of my life were dozing in the rocker with a baby on my chest and a toddler under one arm.

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    cmarie May 27, 2011, 2:31 pm

    Random question: Have you thought of a birth plan? There are really good templates floating around the internet and you can adjust it to your wants and needs. I did the one at babycenter.com and added my own footnotes to it. No, I’m not pregnant nor am I trying to get pregnant. I’m just a little baby crazy. When I worked at the hospital with the moms and babies some of the doctors hated those plans but it was always a comfort to the mom and helped her remember what she wanted when things got crazy. It’s just important to remember to be flexible and if things don’t go as planned don’t blame yourself.

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      Wendy May 27, 2011, 2:39 pm

      Oh, yes, I have a birth plan. It’s this: push out the baby and then immediately order some sushi. Meeting the baby will be exciting, I’m sure, but that first piece of unagi is going to be a close second, I predict.

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        LolaBeans May 27, 2011, 2:51 pm

        bahahahahaha….. amazing

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        SGMcG May 27, 2011, 2:54 pm

        Not a fan of tomango then?

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        cmarie May 27, 2011, 4:20 pm

        Lol, great plan!

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      Flake May 27, 2011, 3:00 pm

      Birthplans don’t mean much. You can plan all you want, but chances are the baby has a plan of his own. In order not to be disappointed too much, have a general idea of how you want it to happen,go with a flow, and trust your doctors

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        cmarie May 27, 2011, 4:20 pm

        Of course you’re supposed to be flexible about your birth plan but that doesn’t mean they’re useless. Birth plans are about more than c-section or vaginal. What type of pain control do you want, do you want an epidural offered or only if you ask, how often would you like your cervix checked, do you want the countdown when pushing, delayed cord cutting, do you want to breastfeed immediately or after the baby’s bath, do you want the baby examined on you, who gets to hold the baby first, mama or daddy, do you want to eat, do you want to get up and walk around, who do you want in the room, if you’re giving birth in a teaching hospital do you want students in, etc. Every birth is unique to the mom and the baby and in the end the baby is the one in control. However, there are some things mom can influence. As long as you don’t expect your birth plan to be excuted perfectly and are ready to be flexible and listen to baby and doctor, you won’t be setting yourself up for disappointment.

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        Flake May 27, 2011, 4:32 pm

        Again, personally, not much went according to my birth plan. All the things you are talking about, the doctors or nurses asked me about them right then and there. They didn’t even look at it. I wanted to try to have the baby naturally, but ended up being induced. Wanted to be offered epidural at 5cm dilation, barely made it 12 hours without one, had one at 2cm… Ended up with a C-section after 48 hours of fun and no progress. So I am a little skeptical about the whole ‘perfect’ birthing experience 🙂

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        cmarie May 27, 2011, 5:23 pm

        I agree that each birth story is unique, I just think believe that it can be better to have already thought those out before you’re in labor or the baby has arrived and suddenly you’re being bombarded with all this information and all these questions that you haven’t even had a chance to think about. I also don’t think there’s such a thing as a “perfect” birthing experience. If that were true that sucker would just slide out, no pain, no tearing, no pooping on the table, etc. Another thing you want to think about before you go into labor: do you want an episiotomy (if the hospital still does that) or do you want to naturally tear? Do you want stitches or do you want to heal naturally depending on the degree of tearing? If you end up having a c-section will your doctor use staples or sutures for the wound? Some research says that sutures are the better option.

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        PFG-SCR May 27, 2011, 5:25 pm

        Poor Wendy probably fainted reading this…

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        cmarie May 27, 2011, 5:30 pm

        Oops, don’t mean to be fear-mongering here. I just have stories from working in the mother-baby unit about moms who come in with no idea of what she’s in for. In my experience, the more prepared and informed you are, the better you do. Also, everybody poops. Sorry 🙁

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        MissDre May 27, 2011, 10:21 pm

        You can choose to have an episiotomy? I thought that was standard to protect the perineal muscles from tearing and being permanently damaged. When my best friend was giving birth I stood right there and the doctor just got between her legs and snipped her. During both of her deliveries.

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        cmarie May 29, 2011, 10:58 pm

        Tears heal faster than cuts. If you talk to your doctor beforehand you can request to not have an episiotomy. Some OB’s won’t even do them anymore.

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    SGMcG May 27, 2011, 1:36 pm

    I personally don’t have kids yet. Heck, I’m not even pregnant. Yet I will admit to seeing those infommercials for The Original Baby Bullet and I can’t help but think OhmygoshItissocuteLookithasaSMILEYFACE! Even my husband admits seeing an anthromorphized appliance that makes baby food and comes with a storage system has some appeal.

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      Quakergirl May 27, 2011, 1:48 pm

      I love those infomercials, too! My cousin has a one-year-old and she used something similar (if not the same one) when he was starting to eat solid foods. She said it was super helpful to have all the portion containers and date labels so that she could make big batches and skip the measuring/dating. Plus they have SMILEYFACES!

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      brendapie May 27, 2011, 9:10 pm

      I’ve been tempted to purchase a Baby Bullet to keep it in storage just in case. I have no desire for children yet this cute little blender stirs up these weird maternal emotions inside of me. I think it’s overpriced for what it does (you could use a regular blender!) but all the storage accessories are just so darling and convenient. The little containers with the date lids are genius.

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    PFG-SCR May 27, 2011, 2:42 pm

    Don’t waste your money on that – get a good Medela pump (Symphony was “the” model when I last bought a pump), and you’ll learn to pump hands free on your own. I worked part-time with my first, so I pumped at work, and I could sit in a chair with my legs angled in such a way that it could hold the bottles as I pumped and worked on the computer.

    Also for nursing, you might want a nursing pillow for when he/she is young and you’re getting the hang of it, Lansinoh cream for sore nipples and breast pads. If you don’t already know of this site (www.kellymom.com), it’s a good one for nursing advice, information, etc.

    I haven’t looked at the suggestions, but get a sling that you can “wear” the baby and/or nurse him/her in – don’t get a commercial one sold at Babies R Us, but get one made with pretty fabric, etc. online or at a baby fair.

    I don’t think I had anything that was unusual that you wouldn’t already know if you’ve researched baby stuff.

    I’m excited for you!!

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      MissDre May 27, 2011, 2:49 pm

      I lived in a primarily African neighbourhood for a while, and I loved seeing the women who just tied on a piece of cloth and went about their business with their baby at the small of their back. I’d love to be able to do that.

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        PFG-SCR May 27, 2011, 3:54 pm

        I know – that is really neat to watch them, and then they just flip the baby to the front when they want to nurse, without even missing a beat!

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    Yammy May 27, 2011, 2:51 pm

    I never sprang for one but I certainly thought about it. It would’ve been nice to have had an easier time reading a book, writing, and typing.

    A quick warning about Medela, while we’re on the breast pump subject: I bought my pump in style in June 2010, it was awesome and did great for about 8 months. In February, it crapped out on me, but it comes with a 1 yr warranty, so they mailed me a new one, not a big deal. The newer model pump is much lower quality than the old one was. The plastic seems cheaper and the pieces don’t fit correctly. I’ll spare the general public the details and just say you might want to consider another brand.

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    silver_dragon_girl May 27, 2011, 2:56 pm

    No offense to all you helpful moms and moms-to-be out there, but reading this thread is making my breasts hurt just thinking about it. :O You are all seriously scaring me off of breastfeeding my future, hypothetical children!!

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      Britannia May 28, 2011, 1:19 am

      A lot of blood, sweat, and agony gies into developing and raising a child… Good mothers are as tough as nails! When it’s time, you’ll rise to the challenge 🙂

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    Flake May 27, 2011, 2:58 pm

    🙂 I have a 17 month old boy, and every one around is pregnant and /or having babies for some reason 🙂 I guess I am at that age.

    *I also live in Canada, we get 1 year off to be with the baby, so that definitely helps.

    There are a few things I wish I knew before I had a baby (or right after).

    1. (And I cried when I learned that :)). There is no sex for about 6 weeks after delivery.

    2. It hurts and it is not pretty. This is obvious. I do not see how women do it without pain relief (now that it is widely available).

    3. You will look about 5 month pregnant after having the baby. Your boobs will hurt like hell when your milk comes in.

    4. Breastfeeding is awesome, but t is NOT EASY!! It is natural and all that stuff, and some women succeed right away, but that is not what happened to me (and a lot of my friends). If you really want to breastfeed, try to avoid giving baby a bottle as much as possible. If the nurses or doctors pressure you remember that there are other ways of feeding the baby. You can use a spoon, or a syringe, or even a cup. Then try to nurse him or her as much as possible (every 1 1/2 or 2 hours). If you stick with it, it will get easier. It did not work out for me, despite having a breastfeeding expert nurse come to my house, and despite attending nursing classes at my local clinic. I ended up pumping milk for him for 13 months. I am saying this because, as difficult as breastfeeding is, it is also most convenient, You don’t have to clean anything, no getting up in the middle of the night to warm bottles. And it is usually easier to wean the baby off the breast than the bottle.

    5. You will not sleep for about 2 month. I know you must have been told a thousand times to sleep when baby sleeps, but that is a lot easier said than done. You have to get used to falling asleep as soon as you close your eyes. Took me about 4 months before I could do it.

    6. You will cry. A lot. You will not have time for showers every day, you will barely have time to eat and brush your teeth. Get out of the house as often as you can. Go for walks, research and join mommy-baby activities in your neighborhood. Your husband will have to be your rock. He will be the only sane person in the house, so listen to him when he says that you are doing great and that everything will be ok.

    7. It will get a lot easier past the 6 months stage. I used to cross off the days on the calender. Helped me a lot morally.

    Here are some items that I could not have lived without:
    Playtex Ventaire bottles.
    Medela Pump-in-Style breast pump (ask your hospital, they may have them for sale at a cheaper price, or you can rent one and see if you need it)
    Park-and-play
    Sleepsacks
    Night light
    Infant bathtub
    Baby cubes and Magic Bullet
    A kettle to warm the water to different temperatures (Saeco Electric Water Kettle, at Costco.com)
    Wipes warmer
    Glider chair.
    Exercise mat and jumper (Animal Planet)

    Also if you go and register on different baby sites, you will get a lot of free stuff (formula, diapers, bottles and a lot of coupons)
    (ex. huggies.com, similac.com, nestle.com, pampers.com)

    Sorry I got carried away…

    Any way, get ready for the best ride of your life. It is everything people say it is and more!!!

    Good luck 🙂

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      MissDre May 27, 2011, 3:06 pm

      We are really lucky to have a full year maternity leave. I did not know that the US doesn’t have a full year…

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        Flake May 27, 2011, 3:11 pm

        My cousin’s wife had 4 weeks and not paid.. I really appreciate Canada now 🙂

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      Flake May 27, 2011, 3:10 pm

      Oh, and good maternity bras are very important. I have to shop for my bras on the Internet and barenecessities.com are really good..

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        LolaBeans May 27, 2011, 3:37 pm

        the US doesn’t get a full year?! what do they get??
        i remember canada having 6 months a few years back.. maybe 10 or more years now… i’m not sure.
        thank goodness i live in canada!

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        MissDre May 27, 2011, 3:43 pm

        For real… I remember a bunch of advertisements on TV a few years ago saying they were going to increase maternity leave to 2 years, but that never happened. At least we still have our full year, though!!

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        Flake May 27, 2011, 3:48 pm

        Starting in 2006, right when the QPIP came too 🙂

        And apparently, in US, maternity leave is at the company’s discretion. I might be wrong though

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        PFG-SCR May 27, 2011, 3:52 pm

        If a company has 50 employees or more, they have to follow Federal guidelines under the Family Medical Leave Act (FMLA). But, that doesn’t mean they have to pay you during maternity leave – they just are legally required to keep a position available for you (yours or one at a similar rank) for up to 12 weeks.

        Most companies offer paid maternity leave for 6 weeks for a vaginal birth and 8 weeks for a c-section. Many moms take the additional weeks off to get to 12 weeks, with the difference being unpaid.

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        LolaBeans May 27, 2011, 3:57 pm

        holy shit. that is INSANE!

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        Flake May 27, 2011, 4:02 pm

        Yeah, and in Germany you can stay with the baby for 3 years. You just get progressively less money

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        Quakergirl May 27, 2011, 4:17 pm

        Yep. And if your company has fewer than 50 employees, they’re not even obligated to give you that (at least by federal law– some states mandate it).

        That’s why I don’t quite understand the total outrage/condescension some people feel towards working mothers, especially in the US. Some people have to go back to work, even with a young child. They’re not just selfish ladder-climbers who don’t care what happens to their babies or don’t want to take care of them. That extra 6 weeks of unpaid maternity leave is really a luxury. How are you supposed to live– and provide for a child– without a paycheck? Even if you’re married and have a husband who earns good money, that’s still a lot of expense for one income to handle. Being a stay-at-home mom is great, and I’d love to do it if possible when I ultimately have young kids, but it’s not really an option for a lot of people.

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        Teresa May 27, 2011, 6:08 pm

        Here in Nevada the employer is not required to give you any PAID leave – they are required to hold a position for you at the same pay for 120 days, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they’ll hold your original position for you. So ya, having children can cause financial ruin if you don’t have money in the bank to take care of yourself for a while, or your SO is making enough to support the whole family.

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        Skyblossom May 27, 2011, 8:10 pm

        My daughter’s teacher just returned to the classroom after only six weeks off for maternity leave. Our leave here is really pathetic.

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        SpyGlassez May 29, 2011, 4:27 pm

        My best friend got 6 weeks paid, and could take a second 6 weeks unpaid. Among my friends and where they work, that’s standard.

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    Meg May 27, 2011, 3:27 pm

    I’ve never had a baby/breastfed, but I did have nipple piercings for a while. Part of the healing process was to soak the piercings in salt water, and I will tell you that sitting there without the use of my hands for 30 mins twice a day got old really fast. Even watching TV was tough because I couldn’t adjust volume/change the channel. I’d say that if you plan on pumping much at all (which could be for many reasons- if you have to be away, if the baby is having trouble nursing so you want her to have the health benefits of breastmilk even if nursing isn’t for him/her, if you will be out and about and want to be able to feed him/her easily without worrying about modesty, if you have a good supply and want to freeze for later on in case it decreases, or want to donate to mothers who don’t produce enough, etc), I’d go hands-free. No you don’t have to want to wander the house vacuuming with it strapped on, but I guarantee you’ll get bored sitting there pumping several times a day otherwise!

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    Sue Jones May 27, 2011, 3:33 pm

    You will need a boppy, a good sling, a baby carrier, car seat, stroller, changing table, baby bathtub, innumerable cloths and blanket type thingies and as one who slept with her baby, a king sized bed (you will both sleep better if you do the family bed) and you will be amazed at how busy 24/7 you will be, so yes the hands free makes sense though I never used one. And don’t bother getting any newborn sized clothing. Size 3 months and up will do. They will grow out of the newborn size so quickly.

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      Flake May 27, 2011, 3:46 pm

      I disagree with the co-sleeping part. We tried it for the first 2 months, and none of us got any sleep. But then again, I am very light sleeper, so that might have been an issue. However, once we moved the baby to his crib in the other room, then I could relax and at least get a couple of hours of sleep.

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      ncp May 27, 2011, 4:26 pm

      If co-sleeping makes you uncomfortable, you can get a co-sleeper (a bassinet-thingy that attaches to the side if the bed), or just side-car the crib to the bed by taking off one side and tying/strapping it to the bed. This way you have easy access to the baby for those night-nursing sessions, but you have enough space for both of you.

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        Sue Jones May 27, 2011, 7:23 pm

        My baby would only sleep if he was on my body. So we did the whole attachment parenting thing. Worked for us, though it is more energy intensive and if I had more than one young child, not sure I would have the energy for it again. AND if you do extended breastfeeding in most women it helps to space the subsequent babies enough apart.

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        Skyblossom May 27, 2011, 9:37 pm

        And you can breastfeed the baby and sleep at the same time. I thought the family bed idea was crazy until my son was about two weeks old and while feeding him in the night I dozed off and nearly dropped him, having been sleeped deprived for two weeks. That scared me and I got into bed with him and started feeding him while laying down and then if I fell asleep I couldn’t drop him. My husband and I both started sleeping and we all did so much better.

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    mzirish May 27, 2011, 3:46 pm

    Hi Wendy,
    First of all, I don’t think you need nearly as many things as the store lists claim you do. My experience has been that each child and mother is different and what works for one baby or mom may not work for another, so keep your receipts for big items! I’ve known some babies that only liked bouncer seats and others that loved swings that went back and forth and hated going side to side and vice versa. When I was pregnant, my own seemed to go to sleep when I was moving around. Unsurprisingly, we ended up using our swing and infant carrier a lot. I really liked the Bjorn infant carrier for when I wanted to make trips to stores and I didn’t feel like taking up room in the cart with a car seat.

    I really liked my bobby pillow because it can be used to sleep more comfortably while pregnant, position the baby while breastfeeding (very useful for the football position), and to support the baby when they are starting to sit up on their own.

    As far as clothes go, I found that NB outfits are quickly grown out of and there is no harm in using 0-3 month outfits. In the beginning you will be changing a lot diapers and clothes due to loose bowel movements and spit ups. Clothes with zippers and just a few snaps will become dear friends (Think long-sleeve onsies). You really only need a few good-sized blankets. A few sleep sacks/ swaddle blankets with the tabs are also really convenient, especially if you plan to use a sitter who might not know how to swaddle. I found the cute Gerber receiving blankets were too small and thin to get a snug swaddle. I ended up using them as burp clothes most of the time. Socks are great for keeping your baby from scratching themselves. There is no such thing as too many baby socks, but don’t get one size, they grow really fast. In fact, it isn’t a bad idea to buy a few clothes in 3-6 and 6-9 months while they’re on sale, just keep in mind the seasons. Bibs aren’t really necessary until they are starting to eat solids unless you plan to use them as burp clothes. Bigger bibs are a lot more practical than the small clothe ones.

    If you plan to breastfeed make SURE you have some lanolin. Other types of lotions can clog your milk ducts and cause an infection. Good nursing bras are must and button down/ zipper shirts are also really helpful.

    As far as the breast pump goes, I was a SAHM and so I didn’t think I would be pumping much. However, due to an unforeseeable medical circumstance my milk supply came in late and very low. My son had a difficult time latching despite all the help of my lactation consultant which complicated the issue. I was determined to get my supply up as much as possible and this meant breastfeeding AND pumping around the clock. Having to sit for 20 minutes at a time every two hours in addition to nursing on demand was completing exhausting. I would have loved the option of reading a book or surfing the internet, or even just holding my baby while pumping. I ended up renting a hospital pump but I wish I had invested in my own high quality pump because I would have saved more money in the end. But I realize that my case is rare. That is the thing about kids and motherhood. As useful as books and lists can be, ultimately you learn by experience and everyone’s experience is different.

    My advice is to try to enjoy this time as much as possible. I wish you the absolute best of baby bliss.

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      Flake May 27, 2011, 4:05 pm

      I went through the same thing with breastfeeding. I also have 2 friends who dealt with those issues as well. It is really not as rare as you would think.

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    LolaBeans May 27, 2011, 4:01 pm

    I know this is a little off topic.. but my mom bought myself and my 2 siblings a soft, expensive blanket each at birth and we kept it for YEARS! it was less than a meter long with cute animals on it and a great trim. i think something like this would be amazing for your baby to have as he/she gets older. “security blanket” if you will.

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      MissDre May 27, 2011, 4:32 pm

      I still have my baby blanket 🙂

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      LolaBeans May 27, 2011, 4:37 pm

      i guess a meter is really long. i wasn’t thinking. i forget the length lol.

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    _jsw_ May 27, 2011, 4:25 pm

    A father’s perspective on breastfeeding: please, please pump some of the breast milk, even if you’re at home 24/7 and don’t need to, because it is an amazing bonding experience and it is really sad for the father to not be able to take part in it. My two kids were not breastfed (it wasn’t my choice, nor was it my body, nor did the kids turn out bad, so… that’s just how it was). The real plus to that was that I did most of the feedings that weren’t during work hours, and I would hate to have missed out on that.

    Auxiliary advice:

    * Buy as late as you can. Baby products go through development cycles at the speed of light, and what is a premium feature now will be standard by the time you actually need the product in question. No good ever comes from buying ahead of time unless you truly need it at the beginning or are terrified that baby stores will all go out of business once your child is born. Also, you’ll have a better idea what you’ll need when you need it as opposed to four months ahead of time.

    * If your child becomes attached to something – and indeed if you think it’s the sort of thing you suspect they will – buy multiples of it. Of that exact same yellow fluffy blankie or that exact same soft teddy bear. Because the one or two things they’ll truly attach to will suddenly go out of production the day before they lose their one favorite thing in the world, and you will not sleep for days. The key is, once a favorite is developed, cycle through the versions so that they all are about at the same level of wear and tear. Learned this with the first kid. Been very helpful with the second. Note: it has to be the same thing. The same thing. The little bastards are really good about noticing slight variations.

    * Buy one of those strollers that’s nothing more than a frame for the baby seat and storage underneath. These are miracle products. They’re smaller and cheaper than most other infant strollers and yet work better at first because it’s soooo easy to move the baby seat from the car to the stroller and back.

    * Speaking of strollers: for your other stroller, buy the best you can realistically afford. A really good stroller will save you much pain and suffering for many years. That said, you don’t really need that second stroller until you’ve outgrown the one mentioned above. Infants don’t give the slightest shit about what stroller they’re in because they’re typically in their car seats anyway.

    * Take a digital photograph of every poopie diaper as you are about to change it. Keep these pictures. Ten years later, print them all into a bound volume. When the kid asks “why do I have to ____”, show them the book and say “that’s why.”

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      PFG-SCR May 27, 2011, 4:29 pm

      “…please, please pump some of the breast milk, even if you’re at home 24/7 and don’t need to, because it is an amazing bonding experience and it is really sad for the father to not be able to take part in it.”

      It’s not necessarily that easy, though – two of mine would never take a bottle, even from someone else, and it wasn’t worth the hassle of hearing a baby screaming to push it for an occasional bottle. There are plenty of amazing bonding experiences that a father can do with a baby that don’t involve putting a bottle in the baby’s mouth.

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        _jsw_ May 27, 2011, 4:32 pm

        But they aren’t the same. They really aren’t. Feeding a baby is a lot more intimate than changing a diaper. If you can’t, fine, you can’t, but just as many have said it can be a struggle at first to breastfeed, it might also be a struggle at first to couple that with bottle feeding, but it’s worth it if possible.

        You will feel much more bonded to a child you feed than one you merely change. It’s good for the baby and it’s good for the father.

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        _jsw_ May 27, 2011, 4:33 pm

        Perhaps replace the “just as many have said it can be a struggle…” with “in the same way that many have said it can be a struggle…” Realized it read a bit awkwardly.

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        PFG-SCR May 27, 2011, 4:50 pm

        I didn’t write that changing diapers was an appropriate substitute to feeding a bottle. A newborn is awake for about 8 hours a day, and that time increases as they get older – nursing is not going to take up all of that time, so the father can hold the baby, interact with the baby, etc. in the same face-to-face way that he would be if giving a bottle.

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        _jsw_ May 27, 2011, 4:55 pm

        Those other things are not the same, though… and I’m sure that, had someone said you could interact with your babies in any way except to feed them, you’d have felt upset as well. Feeding is important, and I think the father’s emotional bond is strengthened by it. JMHO.

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        cmarie May 27, 2011, 5:15 pm

        Pumping and bottle feeding can shorten the amount of time mom can produce breast milk and can diminsh her supply. Also, if you introduce a bottle too soon, baby may have difficulty going back to the breast. It’s good for the dad to be able to bond but if mom really wants to breastfeed those are some things she should take into consideration.

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        Skyblossom May 29, 2011, 8:42 pm

        My son had nipple confusion because the hospital took him away after he was born and fed him formula, then fed it to him several more times. Since feeding is both instinctive and learned he learned to suck a bottle nipple which is much different than what he needed to do to breastfeed. It took weeks before he was good at breastfeeding. So, if you wish to breastfeed it’s best to do that exclusively for at least a month before you try a bottle. When my daughter was born I didn’t allow the hospital to take her to the nursery because I knew they’d feed her a bottle and cause us lots of trouble.

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      _jsw_ May 27, 2011, 4:30 pm

      Also along the deferred-buyng lines: the baby will likely sleep in a bassinet at first, at least for a bit. You can get a crib now, but you can definitely wait until after the baby is born to get one as well.

      Crib advice: easy of lifting/lowering the gate is key. You don’t want it to be difficult or noisy or whatnot.

      Also key? Ease of lowering the mattress, which you’ll do over time as the child grows. Trust me, you don’t think it matters, but some cribs make it a huge pain to do so.

      And… assembly ease matters if there’s any chance you’ll move the crib around and yet id doesn’t fir through the doorways. Learned that the hard way.

      One more thing: those baby bumpers look really adorable. They also make changing the sheets a nightmare. And there will be times when you need to change the sheets more than once in a night. Baby bumpers are the devil’s work.

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        _jsw_ May 27, 2011, 4:35 pm

        Good God, I can’t type. No, wait, I can. I’m just mimicking the way one types when one has an infant in the house and one has not slept since before they were born.

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        PFG-SCR May 27, 2011, 4:38 pm

        “Crib advice: easy of lifting/lowering the gate is key. You don’t want it to be difficult or noisy or whatnot.”

        That is actually great advice – I’m short so it was hard to place the baby in the crib when the mattress was lower, but if I had the side of the crib down beforehand, and then lifted it up, it would wake the baby up after I worked to get him/her to sleep and laid him/her down. (Ideally, you teach them to fall asleep on their own, but that’s easier said than done.)

        Also, get him/her used to noise when they nap/sleep at night so they’re not so sensitive to sounds. Otherwise, you feel like you have to live life on mute while they’re sleeping, and it’s difficult to go about your normal routine that way.

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        cmarie May 27, 2011, 5:13 pm

        Actually, producing drop-side cribs is now outlawed and it’s recommended that you don’t buy any that may still be on the market because they can be so dangerous to babies.

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        PFG-SCR May 27, 2011, 5:21 pm

        I didn’t know that! I don’t know how a short person can lay a baby down in the crib once the mattress is lowered, though. I guess a few inch drop on to a soft surface won’t hurt the baby…just kidding, I guess you just keep a stool (no pun intended) next to the crib.

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    Gugui May 27, 2011, 5:15 pm

    Hi! I’m a mom of twins. And the machine is great. Babies are exausting, so my husband used to take two or three turns at night to feed them so I could sleep for 5 hours straight and also bond with the babies through bottle feed them the breast milk. It was a great time for him to feel useful and part of everything. I used to pump during the day while the babies where sleeping and store it in individual bottles, so at night he only had to take them and warm them up.
    Another great thing is a bouncy chair.
    Good luck, it is going to be a bumpy ride but it is an amazing one!!!!

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      Sue Jones May 27, 2011, 7:26 pm

      Ditto on the bouncy chair. I had forgotten about that one, but it was the only way I could take a shower since I placed him in the bouncy chair and brought it in the bathroom with me. I had a nice one with bubbling and fish.

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    Teresa May 27, 2011, 5:48 pm

    OMIGOD – I wish I knew about this pump 6 months ago!!! I haven’t read what others said (I’m at work and don’t have much time right now) WENDY – believe it or not – this could probably be the handiest thing ever. Not necessarily to watch reality TV marathons – but because it’s really hard to get up and put the passifier back into crying baby’s mouth ….or your phone rings and it’s a really really important call that you just can’t miss, or some annoying Nikki Minaj song comes on the radio and you can’t change the station fast enough to save your ears from exploding, or or or……if both your hands are holding bottles to your tits – you’re stuck… and since you’re pumping for a good 15 minutes, waiting to be done pumping simply won’t cut it. Wendy – GO GET IT!

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    redessa May 27, 2011, 6:34 pm

    I myself have 5 children and learned very quickly that I didn’t use half of the stuff I thought were “must haves” with my first. My babies did love to swing or bounce so some kind of swinging/vibrating chair was great. But I never found any use for those slings where you wear the baby. I found them awkward and just learned (quickly) to do everything with one hand.

    A pump was nice for when I wanted to go out or even just have my husband take a turn. That is, except for my middle child who refused every type of bottle we tried. But if you are pumping, it’s worth it get a good one. You’re more likely to keep using it than if you have a crappy one that just frustrates you.

    You obviously need things like a car seat, crib and stroller. But a bassinet is optional and will be outgrown very quickly. I recommend one of those “pack and play” type things with a removable bassinet insert. When they outgrow the bassinet part of it, you still have a playpen/portable crib for use in another room or when you travel.

    I also think diaper genies are a total waste of money. Maybe if you are in an apartment without easy access to an outside garbage can it might, maybe be worth it but I found it easier to take the dang diaper out rather than messing with those stupid genie bags.

    And you’ll want nursing pads, plenty of cloth diapers for burping, enough baby wipes to always have them within reach (do not get a warmer though because it just dries them out) and a good diaper bag. Make sure you get one with a nice vinyl changing pad cause you don’t want to be laying your baby directly on just any old restroom changing table.

    The main thing though is just to learn your own baby’s needs. All the other stuff is just that – stuff. It’s scary at first and you’ll wonder how the nurses could just let you walk out of the hospital with this person who you are now responsible for keeping alive, but try to relax. Babies are very good at letting you know when they need something (though it may take a bit to figure out what that is) you’ll find that before you know it, you can understand a pain cry from a hungry cry from a frustrated cry. You’ll see.

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      Skyblossom May 27, 2011, 9:53 pm

      I found changing the babies clothes the first time to be daunting. They are so little and helpless but also solid and totally dependant on you getting the job done right.

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    Jessika May 27, 2011, 7:01 pm

    My youngest daughter just turned one month old yesterday, the oldest is 3 and a half… in my opinion so many of the things marketed for babies and pregnancy are overrated.. in my experience the best things have been: breastfeeding pillow (crescent shaped), avent breast pump (with my 1st, this time I haven’t had to use it yet), nipple airing shields (a huge help!)
    Diapers are trial and error, my 1st was really skinny and the only nappies that worked were huggies, my 2nd is a chubby little thing and huggies just aren’t working for me, I’m going to start with Pampers once my supply runs out! Instead of wipes i try to use a cleaning cream (wipes can be quite harsh on baby skin). This time my midwife ave mw samples of medela washin liquid for baby, I can[‘t remember the proper name, I love it!

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    Skyblossom May 27, 2011, 9:55 pm

    I haven’t seen anyone list a baby nail clipper but you’ll need it. Their nails grow rapidly and they will scratch their face if you aren’t clipping them and you can’t keep their hands wrapped indefinitely.

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      meeple May 28, 2011, 5:21 pm

      long time reader, first time commenter. this made me think of something my mom told me about when i was a baby: i hated to have my nails clipped as an infant. i would cry and scream and fuss, until my mom figured out that she needed to wait until i was asleep. then it was no problem at all.

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        Skyblossom May 28, 2011, 9:05 pm

        When my son was a toddler I’d trim his hair while he slept because he wouldn’t sit still while he was awake and he would try to take the scissors to run them himself. He slept soundly so it worked although he did occasionally wake up when I rolled him over to do the side that had been down and then I’d have to wait until the next day to finish his haircut.

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        SpyGlassez May 29, 2011, 4:36 pm

        When my sister was a baby, she would pitch a fit if anyone tried to clip her nails…except one of my aunts, who could just clip away and my sister would just stare while she did it. Anyone else, and it was a scream-fit.

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