Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Friday Links

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

3 Ways to Participate in “A Day Without a Woman” (Even If You Can’t Strike)

Every successful relationship is successful for the same exact reasons

Shame On President Trump For Exploiting A Widow

New Yorker Cartoon Speaks To Every Woman Who’s Been Mansplained To

I met the writer of this essay once, after admiring her work for a while and even writing her a fan letter. (She sent a very sweet reply.) She stood in line in front of me in a feminist bookstore in Chicago, and I worked up the nerve to say hello. Her book, Encyclopedia of an Ordinary Life, is what inspired my Alphabet series. I am very sad to hear about the news she shares in this Modern Love essay — one of the most beautiful and devastating things I’ve read in a long time: You May Want to Marry My Husband.

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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    haggith March 3, 2017, 2:15 pm

    Any Krouse Rosenthal’s essay was simply devastating… no words, just tears

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      K March 3, 2017, 2:40 pm

      Agreed…tearing up at work

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      Vathena March 3, 2017, 2:42 pm

      I’ve seen a bunch of people posting that on Facebook today. Nope, not gonna sucker me into it, any of you! I already cried at Storycorps this morning; my quota’s been met.

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        MaterialsGirl March 3, 2017, 3:36 pm

        yeaa i already read it and was misty

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      anonymousse March 3, 2017, 4:20 pm

      So beautiful!

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    girltuesday March 3, 2017, 2:20 pm

    The SEAL widow thing with Trump made me RAGE, especially after he blamed his team for their death. Nothing put a political ploy.

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    wcgreen March 3, 2017, 3:32 pm

    yep–that widow had absolutely no say in her attendance–Trump’s goons probably forced her to be there at gunpoint. It’s a real shame women have no power to decide whether to do something or not

    Has anyone considered the notion that she might be very proud of Trump’s words or do you think she’s too brain-washed to have an opinion that doesn’t match yours?

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      anonymousse March 3, 2017, 3:44 pm

      Don’t feed the obvious troll.

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      Dear Wendy March 3, 2017, 3:57 pm

      I’m sure she is extremely proud of her husband, and I also think given how utterly grief-stricken she undoubtedly is, she is ripe for emotional manipulation, of which DT is a master.

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        wcgreen March 3, 2017, 5:19 pm

        I have been in her position (albeit my son was killed in combat, not my husband.) How dare you consider this woman incapable of thought and susceptible to manipulation! How dare you decide she is too weak to cope! I ran a business while planning my son’s funeral. Had anyone assumed I needed protection because I was female and grieving, I’d have thrown them out of my shop.

        May you never be in her (or my) position and may no one ever decide you are weak based on her own biases and ignorance.

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    anonymousse March 3, 2017, 5:50 pm

    You weren’t paraded in front of the country while the president blamed your son or husbands death on the team he was the leader of.

    Wendy never said she was weak. Or she needed protection. Or was incapable of thought.

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      wcgreen March 4, 2017, 8:35 am

      Neither was this woman. She made a deliberate decision to be there. You act as though she was drugged/dragged/shanghai’ed/blackmailed or was too stupid to know what she was doing. The fact that you wouldn’t appear with this president doesn’t make this woman wrong for choosing differently.

      BTW, I had numerous opportunities to be interviewed, both locally and in the national print media. I turned all of them down so I could grieve in private. My decision doesn’t give me any moral high ground to label other decisions as coerced or manipulated.

      Why can’t anyone here concede that Carryn Owens is free to make her own decisions? Why must all women walk in lockstop (and why do you get to choose the cadence?)

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        anonymousse March 4, 2017, 11:00 am

        Women don’t have to walk in lockstep. No one has said any of these sexist comments you keep making. If you don’t believe this administration was using her as a political ploy, I’m afraid we have nothing further to chat about.

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        RedRoverRedRover March 4, 2017, 1:13 pm

        I think you’re completely missing the point. It’s not about her desire to be there and have her husband remembered and honoured. It’s about Trump using the sympathy towards her to try to get sympathy towards himself. He’s using her, yes. It’s not a slight on her, it’s fine that she chose to show up, the vast majority of people would. It’s about what he said and how he’s using her grief and loss as an opportunity for himself that’s the fucked-up part.

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