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Dear Wendy

Friday Links

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

“Here’s how much the average single American spends on their dating life”

This doesn’t seem to be satire… “Why I won’t date hot women anymore”

Twitter Responds Accordingly To Dude Who Says He ‘Won’t Date Hot Women Anymore’

Millennials, hoping to find real connections, ban the booze

5 Signs Dating Apps Are Affecting Your Well-Being & How To Fix It

Some brides say yes to selling their wedding dress online

This Guy Wrote Down All the Reasons His Wife Cries, and It’ll Crack You Up

Fuck Trump: “Trump Gives States The Okay To Defund Planned Parenthood”

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to [email protected] and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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  • honeybeenicki

    honeybeenicki April 14, 2017, 8:19 am

    I’ve never understood the need for a super expensive wedding dress. Mine was far more than I was comfortable spending (about $500), but my mom bought it for me. And I opted not to keep it. I donated it instead to an organization that makes baby burial gowns out of wedding dresses. A sad concept, but a necessity. I got to see a few of the burial gowns made from my dress and they were beautiful.

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    • Copa

      Copa April 14, 2017, 9:52 am

      I didn’t read the article, but there’s an organization in my college town, The Brides Project, that raises money for cancer by selling donated dresses. I’d be all over purchasing from them or donating a dress to them if I had one.

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      • honeybeenicki

        honeybeenicki April 14, 2017, 10:30 am

        The article was about some resale sites where women sell their dresses and other women can get them cheaper than in stores. That organization in your town sounds great too! I went with the burial gowns because we’ve had more than our fair share in our family of babies who need them and they’ve always been free from organizations like the one I donated to.

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  • Copa

    Copa April 14, 2017, 9:56 am

    I cracked up at the “reasons my wife cries” and “NY Post Twitter reactions” articles. That NY Post article was a doozy and a head-scratcher.

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      RedRoverRedRover April 14, 2017, 10:16 am

      One of my favourite parts of the article was how they always have to mention the women’s hair colour. Apparently blonde is code for “useless wastes of space” and brunette is “woman of substance”. Nice.

      Although I do have to agree with the person who said that guys with hot bodies spend too much time at the gym. I only dated one guy like that, but I’ve had friends who did as well, and we all agreed that while we enjoyed the hotness, we’d rather be with guys who actually have time to spend with us. If he goes to the gym every evening, when do we see each other, you know?

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        TheHizzy April 14, 2017, 11:23 am

        I am female and I love the gym. I go 5-6 times a week. It’s safe to say I have planned parts of my life around when I go. Not because of the “hot body” (I still eat some foods and take several days off at a time) but because it’s therapeutic for me. BUT! I don’t prioritize it over family, friends or work. I found a partner who enjoys the gym too and goes on his own and will eventually switch to my gym. Balance in life.

        When I went to start dating and I would tell guys I worked out I was riddled with “I bet you have a six pack” (no) “I bet you eat only healthy” (no) “I bet you don’t drink alcohol” (no). It’s frustrating to be judged based on gym habits. I feel very fortunate to be able to exercise, I know not everyone can.

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        RedRoverRedRover April 14, 2017, 12:36 pm

        Yeah, I don’t mean just the fact that someone works out, I mean the people who build their whole life around it and make it a top priority. That probably only works if they couple up with someone else who has the same lifestyle. I definitely do not, so there’s no point in me dating someone like that.

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  • TaraMonster

    TaraMonster April 14, 2017, 10:23 am

    My boyfriend sent me that “reasons my wife is crying” post a while ago and was like “This is YOU!” and it totally is. I am unapologetically emotional! Show me an animal doing something sweet and all bets are off—god forbid I also have my period and it’s full on waterworks lol.

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    • Dear Wendy

      Dear Wendy April 14, 2017, 12:33 pm

      Yeah, when I read the post, I immediately thought of all the things Drew could have written about me in the same post. I cried yesterday reading david Letterman’s mom’s obituary. And then I cried again in the evening when Jackson told Joanie he was so happy she was born and he gets to be her big brother. I’m not even PMSing.

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      RedRoverRedRover April 14, 2017, 12:39 pm

      Does anyone watch Futurama? The episode with Fry’s dog, omg. I went out to a nice restaurant with my husband, and I’d just seen the episode the night before and I was telling him about it, and I just started crying and couldn’t stop. And I’m trying to finish my description through my tears, lol. Sitting in this formal restaurant, all dressed up, bawling my eyes out. I’m sure people thought he’d dumped me. 🙂

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    K April 14, 2017, 10:48 am

    The article about not dating hot people any more…the example photos shown are “Oh, I used to date super hot women/men! But I still ended up with a hot woman/man!” It’s not like they ended up with someone with average looks, or someone who’s not in shape.

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      RedRoverRedRover April 14, 2017, 10:57 am

      Yeah, but they’re not SUPER hot. That’s how you know they have actual value as a human being.

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        K April 14, 2017, 10:59 am

        Lol! They look pretty damn hot to me, but then again I’ve never dated supermodels!

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    • Copa

      Copa April 14, 2017, 11:17 am

      It’s funny that the first guy profiled hates how the “vapid hotties” he was dating were full of themselves, but he seems quite full of himself and took FORTY YEARS to stop dating them. You don’t seem like THAT great of a catch yourself, sir!

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        RedRoverRedRover April 14, 2017, 11:31 am

        Wait, did you miss the part where he has a full head of hair? I mean, come on. What else do you need?

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      • Copa

        Copa April 14, 2017, 11:34 am

        I’m kind of a jerk. I found his fiance’s Twitter and she has some pics of them up. Judging by looks alone, I don’t think he’s that attractive. Does a full head of hair and a big paycheck really mean that much to women that he could have “had any woman he wanted”? He’s not UNattractive, but c’mon, he’s no Adonis.

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        RedRoverRedRover April 14, 2017, 11:43 am

        Lol. Well maybe the article underplayed how much money he makes. If he’s got millions, PLUS he’s decent-looking, then yeah that probably makes him a catch to quite a few women. Gold-diggers, mostly, but HOT gold-diggers.

        And of course he’s no Adonis. The dude with the violin already got that title.

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  • bittergaymark

    Bittergaymark April 14, 2017, 1:12 pm

    Guys, that “no more hotties” article is a PR plant for the matchmaking service. Talk about Fake News… its pure bs.

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    Janelle April 14, 2017, 7:24 pm

    I am SHOCKED on average people only spend $1600 a year on dating. I wish! That is easily a month!

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    carolann April 14, 2017, 11:37 pm

    I can’t even remember what I did with my wedding dress from my first marriage. I went looking for it to give to my daughter and I have no idea. I probably burned it. The second time I wore a nice skirt outfit. We went to the courthouse.
    I wouldn’t call “Dan” ugly, but I don’t find him very attractive either. He looks kind of dorky. I find it hard to believe he could “have any women he wanted”. At least not based on looks. Maybe if he had the most awesome personality ever. (Oh and his money makes him a little cuter to a gold digger, but I still wouldn’t have been even slightly attracted to him physically.)
    My husband has a full head of super thick hair. He teases me that if I ever left him, single older women (he is 44) would be all over him because of his thick mane. Lol

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      Kate April 15, 2017, 7:45 am

      My brother, also 44, has a thick, lush head of hair and no gray. He’s never had a date that I know of. That anecdote aside, I really don’t think women care about men’s hair. Men think they do, but it’s so unimportant, at least when you’re out of your 20s.

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      • Copa

        Copa April 15, 2017, 8:20 am

        A lot of my girl friends actually care about hair! (At least for now?) Since many of us have at least tried online dating, I’ve noticed that many of them treat/treated balding/thinning out dudes the same way some women treat short dudes. Like, won’t even give them a chance. My last serious boyfriend was 31-32 when we dated and balding, the guy I’ve been on a few dates with now has good hair but went grey young (he’s 37). I think they’re both attractive notwithstanding their follicular challenges, haha. It’s just not something I pay much attention to, but over the past few years have found I’m in the minority on that.
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        At the risk of sounding shallow, I think the one thing I notice most is build. I’m not typically attracted to men who are very skinny, and would rather date someone who is a little overweight vs. someone who is lanky. Weird personal preference or shallow? Who knows. But I definitely don’t rule men out solely on this when trying to meet new people.

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        Kate April 15, 2017, 8:30 am

        That just seems so silly, because most guys are going to lose a bunch of their hair, or go grey, or both.

        Or they could be like my ex bf, go on Propecia in their early 30s, and refuse to ever go off of it, so they can’t have kids even though they claimed to want kids. And be obsessed with their hair to the point that they insist on having it at a weirdly long length that sticks out all over, and scream at their hairdresser that she’s making them look like “a cancer patient.” I know this because he still goes to my hairdresser. She fired him as a client but he keeps coming back.

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        Janelle April 15, 2017, 1:35 pm

        For me the hair thing is different for each man. I have dated men I think look fat better without hair and some who really need it. Like if I went bald all would see my oddly shaped, flat in the back head. ha

        My last one was far more handsome with his full head of salt and pepper, George Clooney like, hair than the pics I saw of him when he was younger.

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    Kate April 15, 2017, 7:53 am

    And yeah, everything everyone else said about the dating hot people article. So effing stupid. I love the chick who thinks she’s a 10 but now dates guys for their money and success rather than their looks.

    And Dan, piss off with this, you vapid fool:

    “[She] is a softer beauty, someone you can take home and cuddle with, and she’s very elegant,” Rochkind says. “And she’s 5-foot-2, so she can’t be a runway model, but I think she’s really beautiful”

    PS? He looks about 5’6″, so I’m sure these runway models were crawling all over him, you know, because of the tragic shortage of douchey 30-something finance guys in NYC.

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