Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Friday Links

Like a lot of you, I have spent the week in dismay, feeling utterly disgusted by what happened in Charlottesville over the weekend and the way Trump chose to equate Nazis and white nationalists with the people who were protesting them, saying that there were “good people” on the side wearing swastikas and waving Confederate flags. I brought the kids to a rally in Brooklyn on Sunday, I went to a protest Monday night at Trump Tower where Trump returned for the first time since the election, and I spent a lot of time following the news and calling my reps (one of whom was successful in getting two Confederate plaques removed from a Brooklyn park this week). If you follow me in Instagram or if we’re friends on Facebook, you already know some of this, but I didn’t want to let the week pass without making a comment here about where I stand: I am opposed to white supremacy, bigotry in all its forms, and expressions of hate against anyone for reasons they can’t control (but I am NOT against hating Nazis and their ilk). I think if say you aren’t a bigot but you aren’t deeply offended by Trump’s reaction to the horror in Charlottesville, you’re lying to yourself. And I think all of us who are white and who have benefited from white supremacy all our lives owe it to our fellow citizens of color to educate ourselves, to study the dark history of our country, and to be better allies (by continuing to fight for equality for all people, to call out racism, and to use our privilege to empower the oppressed).

Here are a few related articles from around the web that may interest you:

Heather Heyer, Charlottesville Victim, Is Recalled as ‘a Strong Woman’

The Truth About Women and White Supremacy

How To Fight White Supremacy In Charlottesville & Beyond

The Real Story Behind All Those Confederate Statues

The Monuments Must Go: An open letter from the great-great-grandsons of Stonewall Jackson

Stop Saying ‘Alt-Left’

And a few unrelated links:

I loved this wedding announcement in the Vows section of the Times: “She’s 98. He’s 94. They Met at the Gym.”

Also, this update from a couple whose wedding was featured in the Vows section 20 years ago is pretty great, too:

“In a recent email, Suki John and Horacio Cocchi attempted to sum up their 20-year marriage in one paragraph, which read like a grocery list. It included: 8 homes, 9 housemates, 1 foreclosure, 21 jobs, 3 layoffs, 2 miscarriages, 1 birth, 3 parents and 2 friends deceased, 1 bankruptcy, 1 set of dentures, innumerable road trips, 3 days in Amarillo waiting for parts, 9 cars, 5 billion phone calls, far too many dance performances, 5 weeks in Europe, 17 weeks in Cuba, 1 summer in Vermont, 6 mattresses, 2 bread machines, 9 espresso machines, countless bottles of extra virgin olive oil, 5 tango lessons and 2 wedding rings.”

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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    Em August 21, 2017, 7:42 pm

    Thank you for this. I was one the counter protestors and am beyond enraged at those who sit silently now not condemning what was allowed to happen

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