Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Friday Links

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

I’ve been following the Weinstein story with disgust and disdain. I’m appalled by Weinstein himself, of course, but also by how enabled he was, by how long it took his high-profiled pals, like Hillary Clinton and the Obamas, whose campaigns he made huge donations to, to express outrage for him and support for the women who are coming forward with their stories, and I am grossed out by Donna Karan suggesting those women “asked for it.” None of this — well, maybe the Obamas’ late statement — is a surprise, sadly. This kind of thing — a powerful man taking advantage of young, inexperienced women who feel they have a lot to lose by rejecting him and whose behavior is enabled by people who depend on him for career advancement — isn’t limited to Hollywood. Hopefully, as these kinds of stories continue coming to light, it will empower women in other industries to speak up and it will put some fear in the monsters who think they can grab at whatever they want because they’re powerful.

Twitter suspended Rose McGowan’s account after she started speaking out against Weinstein (whom she says assaulted her) and other men who enabled him. Just in case you haven’t been keeping track, on Twitter you can: threaten nuclear war, make racist comments, make sexist comments, make transphobic and homophobic comments, and it’s all good. Call men out for shitty behavior? Nope — you will be silenced.

“Aging is harder for women. We bear the brunt of the equation of beauty with youth and youth with power — the double-whammy of ageism and sexism. How do we cope? We splurge on anti-aging products. We fudge or lie about our age. We diet, we exercise, we get plumped and lifted and tucked.

These can be very effective strategies, and I completely understand why so many of us engage in them. No judgment, I swear. But trying to pass for younger is like a gay person trying to pass for straight or a person of color for white. These behaviors are rooted in shame over something that shouldn’t be shameful. And they give a pass to the underlying discrimination that makes them necessary.”

— Working to Disarm Women’s Anti-Aging Demon

From longtime reader, JustMax: “I came across this podcast by Tim Ferriss interviewing Esther Perel on relationships. It’s a long podcast (two hours!) but oh so full of interesting views on modern relationships. Some of Esther’s comments reminded me of your advice style on DW.”

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to [email protected] and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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    Northern Star October 13, 2017, 1:26 pm

    The many, MANY coverups of Weinstein are especially horrifying. Major corporations (NBC, which tried to kill the story) and the frickin’ government (New York District Attorney) kept him in the raping business. And honestly, anyone who worked closely with Weinstein should be viewed with a lot of suspicion as an enabler or even fellow rapist.

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    • Lianne

      Lianne October 13, 2017, 2:09 pm

      Couldn’t agree more.

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      Anonymousse October 13, 2017, 2:27 pm

      Agreed. Every single person who enabled this. Assistants at meetings who left just as HW gave the signal. Ugh. It’s sickening. I’m glad these predators are getting some consequences. Please let Trump face the music next.

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    Anonymousse October 13, 2017, 2:50 pm

    Here’s an interesting read compared to the Oprah article about women and anxiety:

    https://www.nytimes.com/2017/10/11/magazine/why-are-more-american-teenagers-than-ever-suffering-from-severe-anxiety.html

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