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Dear Wendy

Friday Links

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

How couples save money is a topic I want to discuss in more depth soon. Here’s how four different couples are doing it

Men reckoning with themselves and their behavior (past and future)in “The #MeToo Moment: I’m a Straight Man. Now What?”

“People who sext their partners a lot are more sexually satisfied — but their relationship could be suffering in other ways”

“This is why women like to date married men despite the heartache”

The Reasons Why White Women Vote Republican—and What to Do About It

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to [email protected] and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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  • Portia

    Portia February 3, 2018, 10:14 am

    I read the article about sexting and really, 80% of people sext?? Maybe I’m just “old” having started dating my husband when texting was in its infancy, but I haven’t sexted and that number seems very high to me… I guess it’s only one study that they cited and they used Mechanical Turk, so maybe the audience is more internet savvy and it’s possible that won’t be replicable with other types of studies.

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    Kate February 3, 2018, 10:36 am

    The article about saving was interesting – good topic to explore, and timely for me as we just got our retirement savings organized and have been having more conversations about the future.

    Different topic – there’s no weekend thread so putting this here…

    There’s this Boston pizza chain that’s really really good, and also an inexpensive way to get dinner and a drink. You could go after work and get a couple slices and a couple beers for, I don’t know, under $20? Anyway, on Friday nights there is always a group of working guys at the end of the bar, and I really feel for the female bartenders because these guys are always harassing them. A while back I wrote on here about how one of the guys started harassing me when my husband was outside parking the car on a rainy night and had dropped me off. Guy tried to buy me a drink, called me by a name that referred to my physical appearance, then said fuck you when I told him no thank you, I’m with my husband. The manager took care of it, and since then we sit at the bar in the other room.

    Well, last night we’re at the back room bar, and I can feel the guy to my right staring at me. I look over and indeed he’s staring directly at me. Then I hear him muttering, and I’m 95% sure he called us idiots and other derogatory things. He keeps staring. My husband is like, “hey, what’s up, you’re staring at us.” The guy lies and says he’s watching the TV across the room, which is playing the same game as the TV directly in front of him. He keeps staring. Tries to get the bartender to talk to him and she says she’s busy.

    Then he pays and gets up and we’re like thank god. He says to us, hey, so I really was just watching the TV. Ummm ok. Then he says, “you know, I try not to judge anyone… you’re married, whatever, you’ve made some bad decisions, we all have…” WTF. He introduces himself and wants to shake our hands. Our pizza came so we were like have a good night. Then he goes to the other bar, and we can see him through the cutout, staring at other people. Then the same manager from last time goes and sits down next to him and has a long talk with him and he leaves.

    No point to this, I just wish I could eat a damn pizza in peace and men would mind their own business and leave women alone. I hope the bartenders make a lot of money, because they put up with more shit than I have ever seen.

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      keyblade February 3, 2018, 2:29 pm

      Good for the manager for cleaning house (eventually). Does it seem like some men only seem to respect other men (who could physically for financially kick their butt)? They’ll act apologetic but only if another man, rather than a woman or even a group of women disapproves?

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        Kate February 3, 2018, 2:38 pm

        Yes, exactly, they only behave if a man shows up. I’m glad that manager is there, but it makes me so angry that those young women have to deal with these assholes all the time.

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        Kate February 3, 2018, 2:44 pm

        It’s also really annoying that if you’re a woman who’s not physically intimidating, guys feel like they can just start talking to you and you owe them a conversation. Right now this guy behind me is trying to tell me he has a terrible itch on his back. Like I’m gonna scratch it?? And some guy at Dunkin Donuts was trying to make me say how I felt about Angelina Jolie going to Myanmar with her kids or something. STFU everybody. We’re all just trying to live.

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    keyblade February 3, 2018, 2:24 pm

    I have a link that I think is so interesting. My dad is an immigrant who eventually started his own company. My mother grew up in a working-class home of eight. They both emphasized the importance of this:

    https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2018/feb/01/poor-americans-poverty-rich-class

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    • Copa

      Copa February 3, 2018, 5:38 pm

      One of my favorite podcasts — Death, Sex & Money — just wrapped up a series on money/class in America. I thought the interviews were interesting.

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        keyblade February 3, 2018, 9:13 pm

        I’ll check it out, thanks.

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    keyblade February 3, 2018, 3:02 pm

    We need a new name for this kind of guy, the one so entitled to feel alpha he has no actual respect for anything. Spoiled sausage? Gross.

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      keyblade February 3, 2018, 3:04 pm

      @Kate. Oops. That was meant to be a reply to your comments above.

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        Kate February 3, 2018, 3:32 pm

        Haha, gross!

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