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Friday Links

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

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“21 Awkward Valentine’s Day Cards For Your Confusing Modern Relationship” [via HuffPo]

“The 7-Day Digital Diet: A Digital Detox Test: Unplug Twitter and Facebook. Put Off Email and Smartphone” [via NYTimes]

“The First Lesson of Marriage 101: There Are No Soul Mates” [via The Atlantic]

“Record share of wives are more educated than their husbands” [via Pew Research Center]

Related to Tuesday’s column: “Survey: Reluctant breadwinner moms are less happy” [via CNN]

I love this (and now someone needs to write a letter to stay-at-home/work part-time moms!):
“A Letter from a Working Mother to a Stay-At-Home Mother, and vice versa” [via a healthy doctor]

“Indisputable Evidence That Millennials Have It Worse Than Any Generation in 50 Years” [via The Atlantic]

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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15 comments… add one
  • bittergaymark

    Bittergaymark February 14, 2014, 12:18 pm

    True story. That pictured greeting card was made in Los Angeles. How do I know? I recently spent a weekend first stuffing them with envelopes and then rather tediously sealing them up in little plastic wrap/bags…

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    AllegroFox February 14, 2014, 12:55 pm

    My BF sent me that valentine last week and I awwwwwwww’ed. Kept a picture in my phone because it felt appropriate. 😛

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  • iwannatalktosampson

    iwannatalktosampson February 14, 2014, 2:13 pm

    Ha! Millennials win! Or lose?

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      RedroverRedrover February 14, 2014, 2:36 pm

      That article scares me. The trend is, to say the least, not good. I’m GenX and we had it second-worst in all categories. The Late Boomers were 3rd-worst in almost every category. Is it just going to keep going down?

      On a related note, anyone who can afford to should try to support local manufacturing. Even if you don’t have much money, think about whether you need 3 shitty T-shirts from Walmart, or could you get by with one good-quality one that wasn’t made in a developing country? It’s the only way to keep more jobs from going overseas. Other than that, our only hope is that unions catch on in developing nations so that it’s less attractive for first-world countries to exploit the workers there. Then maybe they’ll come back and exploit us instead. 🙂

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    RedroverRedrover February 14, 2014, 2:30 pm

    That article about reluctant breadwinning moms being unhappy is weird. Yeah. They’re reluctant. Would they be expected to be thrilled about it if they didn’t want it in the first place? Clearly the moms who chose to be breadwinners would be happier.

    Who thinks of this stuff?

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  • Skyblossom

    Skyblossom February 14, 2014, 2:40 pm

    I agree with the content of the article about marriage but I don’t agree with the title. I do think there are soulmates. I don’t believe that there is just one person in the world that you can be happy with but I do believe that there are people who are such a great match that you are soulmates. I guess, in my mind, a soulmate is someone who is highly compatible. Am I just using the term wrong?

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      RedroverRedrover February 14, 2014, 3:27 pm

      People usually use the term soulmate to refer to “The One”, who is the one person out there who’s your perfect match.

      Personally, I kinda do think you have a soulmate, but more like this: There are a lot of people out there who you can have your perfect relationship with (obviously not perfect-perfect, but perfect for you). But how many of them are you ever going to meet, date, fall in love with, have them fall in love with you, and happen to be in love with at the same time that both of you feel ready to get married or otherwise commit for life? One. That’s your soulmate. 🙂 Maybe a few people get two, like if your first one dies and you’re lucky enough to find a second.

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        Jessibel5 February 18, 2014, 3:08 pm

        I think the same thing, and I have a scientific theory to back it up. You know how Carl Sagan said “we’re all made of star stuff”? Eons ago stars blew up and we, and everything around us, is made of components that came from the stars. My theory is that our “soul mates”, the people who “get” us and love us and that we end up with and have chemistry with are the ones that were made of the stuff that came from the same star that we did, or a higher concentration of it.

        It’s probably a stupid theory, but it makes me happy 🙂

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    • iwannatalktosampson

      iwannatalktosampson February 14, 2014, 3:41 pm

      I don’t believe in soulmates even a little bit. It’s all too fairyland, unicorn-ville for me. And it’s the opposite of a romantic thought to me. I think it’s sexy to think of someone working on a relationship with you every day because they want to and love you and think you’re the bees knees, not that they are destined to be with you.

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      • GatorGirl

        GatorGirl February 14, 2014, 3:43 pm

        I completely agree. It’s way sexier to think this person is actively wanting and working to be with me every day, rather than “it’s just meant to be” or something fluffy. I’m so not a romantic.

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        RedroverRedrover February 14, 2014, 4:11 pm

        My husband and I work at it every day, but that’s why he’s my soulmate. If I was with someone who I didn’t want to bother working on it with, how could I call him my soulmate? I don’t think of it as some magical, fated thing. I think of it as everything lining up at the time that we met, and not wasting this fantastic chance we’ve been given by not appreciating it and not working as hard as we can on it.

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    • katie

      katie February 14, 2014, 3:55 pm

      i think they are using the term in the literal, soul mate is my one special love lobster way.
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      its like the different interpretations of “best friend”. the literal way that is used is for the one best friend you have… but other people use it as other things.

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  • GatorGirl

    GatorGirl February 14, 2014, 3:40 pm

    I thought the DW world might like this ad campaign. Hopefully anyways, it seems to be a step in the right direction. (Could be a rape trigger, this deals with enthusiastic consent.)

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    • Miel

      Miel February 14, 2014, 5:06 pm

      I like the campaign but the reader’s comments below it are just so discouraging. “Women need to learn to say no loud and clear! If they say “okay” instead of “YES!” it’s not good enough ? Then all men on the planet are rapist!” I’m just so discouraged at people sometimes.

      I think people don’t understand how hard it is to prove someone guilty of rape. Having campaigns about “you need enthusiastic consent” is not about increasing the amount of people that will be accused of rape in front of the tribunal because “the girl said yes and now she regrets it so she will accuse the guy”. This is about reducing the amount of people who could be sexually assaulted. It’s just so people don’t get raped. It’s not “to put all men in prison”. Ugh…

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        RedroverRedrover February 14, 2014, 5:16 pm

        Oh man, I was gonna say the exact same thing. One woman posted on there that guys will never understand the pressure women get to have sex, and the way you’re treated if you don’t do it. Then a man replied saying that it should just be treated like any other decision an adult makes, like buying a car. Ok, way to completely ignore what the poster said! We totally live in a society where you’re pressured into buying cars by people you love, or where you’re judged for test-driving one but not going all the way and buying one.

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