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Friday Links

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

Breaking: “Internet Trolls Really Are Horrible People: Narcissistic, Machiavellian, psychopathic, and sadistic” [via Slate]

“Confessions of a Reluctant Father: How I Learned to Love My Daughter” [via People.com]

“Map: The Countries That Feel the Most Love in the World” [via The Atlantic]

“The All-or-Nothing Marriage” [via NYTimes]

“Up for Polyamory? Creating Alternatives to Marriage” [via The Atlantic]

For anyone who is aging or thinking about aging: “THIS OLD MAN: Life in the nineties” [via The New Yorker]

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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    kerrycontrary February 21, 2014, 1:10 pm

    Awww I love the confessions of a reluctant father. I think a lot of people feel this way about newborns and they’re disappointed in how boring they can be. My sister and SIL both just had babies in the past 6 months, so I can see a lot of the same things like “I would buy ANYTHING to make them stop crying”

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    • Lianne

      Lianne February 21, 2014, 1:17 pm

      Me too. I just came to comment on that. I loved the honesty and journey he took us on to his love. Melted my heart.

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      lets_be_honest February 21, 2014, 1:27 pm

      That was phenomenal, and makes me wish I were better at taking pictures.

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  • BriarRose

    BriarRose February 21, 2014, 1:32 pm

    That confessions of a reluctant father is basically how I felt when my daughter was born. Looking back, I probably had some minor PPD but I didn’t realize it at the time (I was only 24 and clueless, with an unsupportive husband). I just felt like a terrible mother. I always appreciate when people share their stories like that–I hope there is some other new parent out there right now who reads it and feels less alone.

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    othy February 21, 2014, 1:54 pm

    My father is an internet troll. He’s very conservative, but posts on the Huffington post website, just to argue with folks. I read through a few of his comments, and then realized I didn’t want to see that side of my father, especially because he shows many of those characteristics in his online persona.

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    bethany February 21, 2014, 1:57 pm

    I loved the Reluctant Father. I loved his honesty. I think a lot of men (and women, too) feel the same way. There’s a ton of pressure to have that *moment* at birth, where you just instantly bond with your child and cry tears of joy when they’re born, and that doesn’t happen for a lot of people, and it’s ok. Babies are just babies for a little while… they grow into people you can form relationships with and love for more reasons than the fact that you created them. I have a feeling my husband is going to be a lot like the author of this. It’s going to take him a while…

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  • TaraMonster

    TaraMonster February 21, 2014, 2:16 pm

    On a normal day, I’d read the reluctant father thing and think, “That’s very honest and beautiful.”

    But my new little brother was born a premie yesterday at 34 weeks. Watching my dad look at him and gush over him, I’m just having a hard time picturing bewilderment. Granted, my dad LOVES babies and kids. Clearly! Because he can’t stop making babies!

    And I am in full on LOVE with this little guy and he’s not even mine! I hate that his teeny body is all wired up in the NICU and I just want him to be bigger and to be held 24/7 like he’s supposed to be. All things considered he’s doing really well. He’s breathing on his own and even suckling. I already have about 20 videos of him just squirming and yawning. He is the best thing I have ever seen.

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      kerrycontrary February 21, 2014, 2:51 pm

      Aw Tara, my nephew was in the NICU (posted on here about it). He wasn’t premie, but stopped breathing about a day after birth. It was really terrifying. But the NICU nurses are amazing and I have that instant feeling of love with babies, but not everyone does.

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      • TaraMonster

        TaraMonster February 21, 2014, 3:10 pm

        That is really scary. How long was he there for?

        Everyone at the NICU is amazing. They even bent the 2 people rule for us a little so my brothers and I could all be in there at the same time yesterday. He’s at a really really good hospital with a renowned NICU. I hated having to work today and not being able to visit him and my stepmom! I’m gonna go in the morning before the DW meet up. 🙂

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      bethany February 21, 2014, 3:11 pm

      I didn’t realize that was your brother!! I didn’t put two and two together there, becasue I remember you mentioning they were having a baby! Congrats!! I hope he continues to do well and gains weight and everything. He was super cute in the pics 🙂

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    • lemongrass

      lemongrass February 21, 2014, 4:15 pm

      Congrats! That baby looks really healthy for being born so early. He’s adorable 🙂

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    • TaraMonster

      TaraMonster February 21, 2014, 5:01 pm

      Thanks, ladies! He is doing so well. I heart him so hard!

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        lets_be_honest February 21, 2014, 5:02 pm

        Congrats! Have you bought a Big Sister t-shirt yet? 🙂

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    No Pantalones Today February 21, 2014, 3:29 pm

    Haha I totally thought the “Life in the 90s” article was going to be about growing up in the 90s, not being in your 90s. Ok, now I’ll go read it

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