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Friday Links

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

“The Pact That Saved Our Friendship” [via HuffPo]

“Not-So-Social Media: Why People Have Stopped Talking On Phones” [via NPR]

“On Anti-Depressants” [via The Toast]

“The Science Of ‘Happily Ever After’: 3 Things That Keep Love Alive” [via Time]

If you didn’t watch “Louis” this week, you have to check out this scene about “Fat Girls,” which might be one of the most insightful, best-written seven minutes of the show ever. [via Buzzfeed]

Fuck yeah! “Swearing Is Good For You, Study Says” [via Time]

“‘Insatiable’: One Woman’s Love Affair With The Porn Industry” [via NPR]

“Woman Writes To Advice Column, Gets Put In Her Place” [via Opposing Views]

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to [email protected] and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray May 16, 2014, 12:25 pm

    Aw I loved that Louie clip. That was good stuff.

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  • iwannatalktosampson

    iwannatalktosampson May 16, 2014, 12:30 pm

    On the pact article – I feel like the only friendships I’ve been able to maintain from high school and college are the ones where we are brutally honest with each other. I find those “hey how’s it going – oh I’m only going to tell you about the great things going on in my life even though my life is crumbling because I dont’ want to make you uncomfortable” conversations exhausting.

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    • TaraMonster

      TaraMonster May 16, 2014, 1:07 pm

      This is really true. And that piece really hit home for me. I have 3 best friends: one from HS, one from college, and one from “adulthood”- whatever that is. Two of them have moved to other countries on different continents (London, Sydney). Last year I really started to wonder if I missed the “move to another country” memo. I just sent them both the article and told them we should read the book together.

      I definitely keep it brutally honest with them. Being anything other than genuine would feel weird. Last night I was WhatsApping the friend in Sydney some pretty raw stuff. And that’s why she’s still my best-good-friend. Because I can text her my insane thoughts while I’m shoveling chips and salsa in my mouth while crying over the Vampire Diaries.

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        Jessibel5 May 16, 2014, 1:59 pm

        My best friend from college moved away and started doing that “everything is perfect, life is wonderful, here are all the amazing things going on!” in every conversation, and I found myself not really calling as often and thinking she had turned into a robot. But one night I made a comment about how “marriage is hard work! whew!” and she surprisingly replied “I know, right?!” and we started talking about our experiences and it felt like old times again when we lived near each other and could just hang out and watch tv together and be happy. We can be insane together, just like you said with your friend. True friends: They’re the only ones who understand your insane thoughts!

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    ktfran May 16, 2014, 12:56 pm

    Oh my gosh, the woman put in place thing is so heartbreaking and the advice was spot on. People make me physically ill.

    As does the word hubby.

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      MissDre May 16, 2014, 1:03 pm

      Agreed. The advice as awesome.

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    • honeybeenicki

      honeybeenicki May 16, 2014, 1:06 pm

      I sent that one in 🙂 And I’ve read it over and over and over and I still completely agree with the advice.

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      • shanshantastic

        shanshantastic May 16, 2014, 1:17 pm

        I keep reading it just so I can agree with it all over again!

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    • rosie posie

      rosie posie May 16, 2014, 1:33 pm

      I can’t believe that when her sister showed up at her house crying her husbands reaction was to threaten to call the police. At this point I think she’s doing her sister a favor by not including her. Who wants to be around people that selfish and coldhearted? Oh, and maybe her children were upset because they realized what a B**** their mom is!

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    • Portia

      Portia May 16, 2014, 2:08 pm

      I’m not always a fan of Amy’s advice, but that one was spot-on. It made the top of reddit too!
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      Seriously, how can that sister be so uncaring, especially to her own sister? It blows my mind that people like that exist.

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        ktfran May 16, 2014, 2:38 pm

        Right? The more I think about this, the more pissed off I am.

        So, I have a sister who accidentally got pregnant at age 19 and then married at age 20. They have another now too. She doesn’t have a lot of extra money and what she and her husband do have go to the girls. My other sister and I don’t shun her. Instead, we make it possible for her to do fun stuff. Like, she might come visit once a year and we pay for her train ticket. And then pay for most of the weekend. But we’re happy to do that because we actually love our sister and make it a point no to leave her out.

        People are shitty.

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    • Kate B.

      Kate B. May 16, 2014, 4:21 pm

      That was the best ever. There seems to be an epidemic of people being shitty and then being totally upset when other people call them on it. You can choose to be a shitty person, but there are consequences, and one of them may be that someone may think you’re a shitty person. And may even tell you so to your face. It’s like they think, “How dare you be insulted when I insult you.” I guess we’re just supposed to suck it up. Not.

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        Amy May 16, 2014, 11:13 pm

        I like this! I am going to pin this up at work! “You can choose to be a shitty person, but there are consequences, and one of them may be tat someone may think you’re a shitty person”. I totally needed that quote right about now! Thank you!

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    MsMisery May 16, 2014, 1:17 pm

    That anti-depressants article would be moving, if I weren’t depressed. I have struggled with the same issues all my life and been on and off medications. Is it considered suicidal to wish to be dead but not to wish to kill yourself? Sometimes I think about being hit by a speeding truck on my way home from work or getting a really aggressive cancer, but never hanging myself or actively participating. Which is really the story of my life.

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      Sunshine Brite May 16, 2014, 1:37 pm

      Yes, it is considered suicidal when it’s mainly the thoughts withought a plan for action. Those thoughts can be very persistant. I truly hope you’re still receiving some sort of help for these thoughts either like ongoing therapy, etc.

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    • gigi

      gigi May 16, 2014, 1:40 pm

      Oh Ms. that is so sad, I wish I could hug you. My son struggles with depression & it kills me to not be able to help him, to fix him, to make it all better. Even though I have felt depressed at times & had a few of those same thoughts, they are gone quickly & I can never pretend to understand what living with that day in & day out would be like. I am so sorry & I hope that you are seeking & getting help with that, & that you have some friends or family for love & support.

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