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Friday Links: 4/20

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

From the Telegraph: “Women are More Moral Than Men, Survey Says”

From Huffington Post: “Marriage Sex: The Truth About Sex After Marriage”

Speaking of missing college: “We’re Not Young”

A positive spin on Herpes disclosure from The Hairpin: “The Perks of Herpes”

From Salon’s resident advice column, “Since You Asked”: “Am I too young for my life?”

Everyone is talking about the new HBO series, “Girls,” (the first episode of which is on YouTube) a show about 20-somethings in New York City (for the record, I liked it a lot and would be happy to discuss why at another time. Does someone want to start a thread in the forums?). Here are some thoughts from around the web (spoiler alert!):

from The Hairpin: “Where (My) Girls At?”

from the Daily Beast: “HBO’s ‘Girls’ Is the Best New TV Show of 2012”

from Slate: “Why Is the Sex on HBO’s Girls Such a Drag?”

from Mother Jones: “‘Girls’: What the Hell Was HBO Thinking?”

from Salon: “‘Girls’ breaks new TV ground in creating an identifiable portrayal of women’s relationships”

And if that’s not enough: “24 Thinkpieces About ‘Girls'”

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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  • Kristina

    Kristina April 20, 2012, 12:26 pm

    I like that link about “Am I too young for life?”. That pretty much describes me. Sometimes I feel too mature. And part of the reason I recently broke up with my boyfriend (who is a bit older) is that I feel so weird pretty much knowing I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I live in the south so that might be considered normal, but I was raised to think you will meet that person in your late 20s or later, not now. My boyfriend and I intend to get back together at some point, but I felt I needed time to be on my own a little bit since I sort of jumped into the relationship after a horrible break-up. The whole article reminded me of why I feel older than I am. To be honest, I can’t stand when I see people my age partying every weekend and even on week nights, and I just feel too out of place with my generation a lot of the time. I have a smartphone, but I only text and call people. I don’t use any of the apps or internet because I really don’t want to be that connected to technology. I *might* get an iPhone when the new one comes out, but that would be really hard for me to just switch over like that.

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    ele4phant April 20, 2012, 1:14 pm

    Is it fair that I haven’t even seen “Girls” and I hate it? I’m sure its somewhat different than “Tiny Furniture”, but its the same people, it can’t be that far off.

    Tiny Furniture drove me nuts. I mean, I’m in my mid-twenties. I remember, clearly, how big and confusing the world is straight out of college. I know what it’s like to be un and under-employed. I remember what its like to have no clue what to do with your life (still figuring it out a bit!). I know what it’s like to date crappy guys or be uncertain in a relationship that makes you unhappy. But God, I wanted to smack all of those girls.

    Way to give further ammunition to the “Generation Y are a bunch of entitled whiners” rhetoric.

    Get it together!

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    • Budj

      Budj April 20, 2012, 1:43 pm

      Yea – Since I have had free HBO for a few months and I just leave the TV on the movie channels and whatnot….the advertisements for that show just make me like “wait….this is on HBO…people want to pay extra money to see this?!?” *head explodes*

      It looks like a show based on “real life” with a bunch of characters that resemble the most stereotypically pathetic aspects of our generation…exactly what I want to watch. Reading the fans trying to defend it and the people hating on it on that article that negatively reviewed it was pretty entertaining though.

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    • CatsMeow

      CatsMeow April 20, 2012, 8:53 pm

      I haven’t seen Tiny Furniture. I kinda decided that I hate “Girls” without seeing it also, just because of everything I’ve heard about it.

      But now the curiosity is too much!! I think I need to see it.

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    Anna April 20, 2012, 3:40 pm

    I love that “We’re not young” video. Too good! That’s pretty much how I feel lately, even though I’m only 28. I just had to share that on FB.

    The person who wrote in about “Am I too young for my life?” really does seem kinda immature. She said it’s even an “open relationship,” which usually means both parties can date/screw other people as long as they inform the other. That’s totally not my style and I would never do it, but if being in an open relationship is still too constraining for you then maybe you are just meant to be single. Maybe I’m the one who’s too old-fashioned here, but I was ecstatic to have met a man who I thought was “The One” when I was only 19 and I would still be ecstatic if he wanted the same forever that I want. I don’t need to see all of the other dicks that are out there; I don’t care about them. So I guess I am too old for my life?

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    • CatsMeow

      CatsMeow April 20, 2012, 8:55 pm

      Some people can do that. I’m not one of them.

      My best friend met her husband in high school. They dated all through college, and got married when she was 23. They’re the happiest most awesome couple I know. Seriously! They’re my role model couple.

      But when *I* was 19, I broke up with my first love just because I felt so “tied down” and wanted to do my own thing, haha. I don’t regret it either.

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    • katie

      katie April 21, 2012, 12:31 am

      i was confused about the “open” part of that letter too.. i think, though, that she meant open as in they could talk about anything and they are honest with each other and everything…. i dunno though. that just made more sense in my head.

      i feel like you- im too old for my life. me and jake say that all the time because we dont ever go out and party, and our idea of a nice time is staying home and making dinner, watching a movie and having a bottle of wine. like, we never go do anything fun… but we still have fun. i dunno. ive only ever felt “tied down” once, and it was when i moved across the country for college, and so i think it wasnt so much tied down, it was just that i was ready for a change and for my adult life to start. and cats- im 23, and i am basically married now. lol. its weird. i feel like its weird sometimes.

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  • bittergaymark

    bittergaymark April 20, 2012, 11:52 pm

    If GIRLS is truly the staggeringly brilliant, honest and oh-so-accurate portrayal of young women presently in their twenties that EVERYBODY in the media is proclaiming it to be… then, whoa. And wow. You are all so much more fucked up than even I ever could have possibly imagined.

    No, seriously.

    I have simply never, ever seen anybody portray both themselves and their generation as being so empty, so vapid, and just so flat out horribly stupid. I’ve also never seen a show go so out of its way to disempower women by making them all silly little whiney victims. Nor have a seen anything THIS sex phobic in a long, long time. It’s like the Christian Right produced this scare tactic propaganda piece as an over the top cautionary tale…

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      Eagle Eye April 21, 2012, 12:31 pm

      FWIW, I’m nearly 25 and I couldn’t stand it, I skipped through most of it on Youtube because it made me too uncomfortable, and not in the “this strikes too close to home” kinda way, its more, “ugh, these people are annoying and they’re making decisions that I would never make, why am I wasting my time…”

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