Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Friday Links

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:


New research shows that how thoughtfully couples make decisions can have a lasting effect on the quality of their romantic relationships. Couples who are decisive before marriage — intentionally defining their relationships, living together and planning a wedding — appear to have better marriages than couples who simply let inertia carry them through major transitions.

From: “The Decisive Marriage” [via NYTimes]

“The one that got away: David Sedaris” [via The Guardian]

Check out the three harsh truths about love in: “Love is Not Enough” [via Mark Manson]

“Short Men 32% Less Likely to Divorce Than Tall Men” [via HuffPost]

I was just complaining about digital cruelty the other day and then the NYTimes posted this article over the weekend. Something I just did to minimize online abuse was delete my Twitter account. Of all the social networking platforms, Twitter is BY FAR the cruelest. I am also not shy about deleting nasty comments and banning commenters here. When you write online, digital cruelty is just part of the job, unfortunately, but there are definitely ways people can — and should — minimize that abuse as much as possible. Here are some other tips: “Dealing With Digital Cruelty” [via NYTimes]

I read this over the weekend and found the story fascinating. A young man wanders off into the woods in Maine and lives there for 27 years, surviving off things he steals from people’s nearby cabins until he’s finally caught mid-break-in. “The Strange & Curious Tale of the Last True Hermit” [via GQ]

“Being Objectified May Be Linked To Sexual Coercion In Romantic Relationships, Study Says” [via HuffPost]

And self-promotion:

“How to Get Unstuck in an Unhappy Marriage in 10 Steps (Or: A Guide to Happiness)” [via HuffPost]

“20 Wedding “Must-Haves” You DON’T Need” [via HuffPost]

Korean translation of “49 Skills a Modern Woman Should Have” [via HuffPost Korea]

“My boyfriend wants to quit his job and live off my income” [via and PopSugar Love]

[image by Stuart Bradford for the NYTimes]

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to [email protected] and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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    d2 August 29, 2014, 8:27 pm

    I found the hermit story fascinating. Sometimes we make life complicated for ourselves. Yet here’s a person who found contentment in just being. While I don’t envy his lifestyle or condone his thievery, I find elegance in his simplicity.

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      MsMisery September 3, 2014, 1:34 pm

      That article made me so sad.

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    Taylor August 29, 2014, 9:09 pm

    Wendy! My Danish friend just posted your huffpo 49 things article on Facebook! I squeed 🙂

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  • something random

    something random August 30, 2014, 10:10 am

    I really liked the Three Harsh Truths about Love. Well said, Manson. Well said.

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  • possumgirl

    possumgirl August 30, 2014, 2:08 pm

    Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU for “Harsh Truths About Love”. My boyfriend and I are still, two years in, fighting the vestiges of prior emotionally abusive relationships. It taints our communication in destructive ways, and we are both fighting that so that we can integrate love with respect and honesty. We’re taking it slow and that helps. I read this article out loud to him and we both agreed those truths are things we ascribe too and actively attempt to practice. Again thank you.

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