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Friday Links

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

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“No Way In Hell is My Boyfriend Getting Out Of Apple Picking This Year” [via Reductress] which reminds me of an all-time favorite:
“It’s Decorative Gourd Season, Motherfuckers” [via McSweeneys]

From Addie Pray: I read this last night and I can’t stop thinking about all the race-related experiences, conversations, or observations I’ve had in life and now I’m baffled Linklater didn’t include a single race issue in ‘Boyhood.’ I’m embarrassed I didn’t notice this blatant flaw when I saw and reviewed and largely praised Boyhood last month. I can’t stop thinking about the various scenes and dialogues that I’m SURE LInklater had growing up that could have been and should have been featured in his depiction of “what life is like for all (white) boys” – even if he grew up in a mostly white environment, you know?
“Not Everyone’s Boyhood” [via The Atlantic]

“A NYC Bartender’s Powerful Open Letter To The Hedge Funder Who Allegedly Grabbed Her Ass” [via Gothamist]

“Remember #BringBackOurGirls? This Is What Has Happened In The 5 Months Since” [via HuffPost]

“Read erotic poetry constructed exclusively from iPhone 6 reviews” [via The Verge]

“Why Girls Get Better Grades Than Boys Do” [via The Atlantic]

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Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to [email protected] and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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14 comments… add one
  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray September 19, 2014, 1:05 pm

    Oh thanks for posting the Boyhood article. That article still has me thinking. … Ktfran and I, and Taramonster and I, too, have had lots of back-and-forths about it. Read it and tell me what you think. I guess if you haven’t seen “Boyhood” it may not be that interesting.

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      ktfran September 19, 2014, 2:39 pm

      And it was a good conversation!

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      csp September 19, 2014, 4:04 pm

      Thanks for sharing this, Addie. I think this is interesting and makes me think.

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    • peppers87

      peppers87 September 19, 2014, 4:49 pm

      I found this quote really powerful:

      “What’s most troubling about all of this is not the idea of a fictional 18 year-old who has never had to think about race. It’s the thought of living white men in America mistakenly thinking that race has played no significant role in their own lives. In fact, cinema like Boyhood suggests that it’s the norm for these boys and men not to think about race. “

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      • Addie Pray

        Addie Pray September 19, 2014, 6:22 pm

        Yes! Loved that part too.

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      MsMisery September 22, 2014, 12:53 pm

      I remember taking a women’s studies class in college. They mentioned the under-representation of minorities in the media, specifically advertising. While that was 5 or 6 yrs ago and there’s been a little improvement, like the mixed race Cheerios family (which pissed people off, so one step forward, two steps back?), I still find myself noticing how many non-white faces I see in commercials. Usually it is very unbalanced and ads are still largely white.

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  • Kicia

    Kicia September 19, 2014, 1:19 pm

    That gourd article is amazing! I’ll have to share it with my sister. She’s obsessed with decorating with gourds for fall.

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  • Moneypenny

    Moneypenny September 19, 2014, 2:26 pm

    I love decorative gourd season!

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  • MackenzieLee

    MackenzieLee September 19, 2014, 7:11 pm

    I really disliked the article on boys in school. The whole world privileges boys over girls (men over women) why are we going to change education to do that as well. Even with men earning worse grades they still make more than women for the same week. Beyond that the life skills the article seems to deem less important than mastery of knowledge are actually far more important long-term. Can anyone actually remember most of what they learned in elementary school? Probably not, but time management and self discipline are needed for later in school and most careers. If anything perhaps boys should start school later but altering the grading system to help boys at the expense of girls and to stop valuing important actions like completing homework is a disservice to all children.

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      RedroverRedrover September 19, 2014, 7:28 pm

      Totally agree with you. The current education system was designed by men, for boys. It was just fine for decades. Centuries, even. When girls were finally let in, they didn’t do as well as boys. Then they caught up. Now they’ve passed them, and suddenly it’s a crisis? No fucken way. Men made the rules of the game for themselves. Now that girls are doing better, they want to change the rules to give themselves the advantage again? It really, really pisses me off.

      And it’s completely true that the “conscientiousness” they describe leads to being a successful employee. Seriously, anyone of average intelligence can pass a test. All you have to do is cram. It’s a LOT more difficult to be consistently successful. So why would we stop measuring that? Instead we should be finding ways to teach those skills to boys.

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        RedroverRedrover September 19, 2014, 7:34 pm

        Also, I have never seen one piece of evidence that boys’ grades are getting worse than they used to be. The studies don’t measure boys now against boys a decade ago. They only compare the genders. So boys might be achieving at the exact same rate they always were. If that’s the case, there should be no problem, because they were fine before. It’s only because girls are getting ahead that they think there’s a problem.

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        SasLinna September 20, 2014, 4:54 am

        In my country (Switzerland) a study was done to find out why “boys were doing worse in school than girls”. There had been a lot of hand-wringing about this apparent “boy crisis” and even special courses started etc. My friend who’s a teacher was lectured by parents how the school and especially the female teachers were unfair to boys. Only the first result of the study was that the boys were NOT doing worse than the girls grade-wise, at least in elementary school, which the whole fuss was about. At all. It simply turned out not to be true. However, this result somehow didn’t get broadly distributed and people are still talking about the “boy crisis” like it’s a real thing.

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      • Portia

        Portia September 20, 2014, 9:53 am

        This type of BS bothers me too, in the same way that the anti-vaccinators’ battle cry bothers me. They see one or two examples where there’s some slight link and go all crazy, but then someone crunches the numbers and they don’t change their stance. And just because when women and girls are now given some of the same opportunities as men and boys in some areas and do better in some places does not mean that they are taking opportunities away from men and boys. Because when 70% of girls go to college and only 60% of boys, there’s a boy crisis, but less of a problem when women make up 5% of Fortune 500 CEO’s?
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        Anyway, the actual study that they site said this: “The study reveals that recent claims of a “boy crisis,” with boys lagging behind girls in school achievement, are not accurate because girls’ grades have been consistently higher than boys’ across several decades with no significant changes in recent years, the authors wrote.” Somehow that didn’t make it into an article that basically proclaims there’s a boy crisis…

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      • Portia

        Portia September 20, 2014, 1:45 pm

        haha, *cite, not site

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