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Friday Links


Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

The Ultimate Guide to Being a Woman [via Buzzfeed]

“Science Says Lasting Relationships Come Down To 2 Basic Traits” [via Business Insider]

“The Law of Fuck Yes or Fuck No” [via Mark Manson]

“No Really, I Never Want to Have Kids” [via HuffPost]

“21 ‘Beautiful Girl Habits’ Every Girl Should Adopt” [via Thought Catalog]

“Let’s Just Say It: Women Matter More Than Fetuses Do” [via New Republic]

People who complain about the spoiled “millennial” generation—themselves the alleged product of helicopter parenting—forget how old they are. Many millennials are now raising children themselves, while carrying enormous college debt burdens and scrambling with low-paying, contingent jobs. The standards erected by their prosperous progenitors are unsustainable. The helicopter parent, always more of a mythological standard than a familiar figure, has crashed. Here’s an interesting look at the social effects of helicopter parenting, the generation that started it (baby boomers) and the generation that can’t keep up (millennials): “How baby boomers ruined parenting forever” [via Quartz]

TaraMonster sent this link to Drunk J.Crew Tumblr and said: “It’s been making me chuckle all week because the models really do look pretty drunk, and some of the captions are really funny. I keep sending them to my cousin because she wears a lot of J. Crew. :)”

(NSFW!) “Everybody Sexts: What love (and sex) really looks like in the 21st century.” [via Medium]

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to [email protected] and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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6 comments… add one
  • mylaray

    mylaray November 14, 2014, 2:37 pm

    I found the baby boomer and helicopter parenting article interesting, but I didn’t really get the point the author was trying to make.
    It’s also interesting to me because of the age gap between my parents with them being boomers (from the 40s) and me being a millennial. My parents were very old school and traditional. I hardly saw my dad growing up. My parents weren’t involved much. And I worry that I will be a helicopter parent as a result. Maybe that was what the author was trying to get at, with boomers “ruining” parenting.

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    • Portia

      Portia November 14, 2014, 3:04 pm

      I think the author did fall a tiny bit short of getting to a more interesting point. But being the millenial with baby boomer parents (born in the 50’s), I see this disconnect between what I experienced in my childhood and what I have to offer another generation. My mom, though I doubt she intended to do so, really did become a sort of helicopter parent (that stranger danger bs really got to her). And since I see how much work and money that took, I’ve really rejected that whole idea of parenting in a big way by not really wanting to be a parent. Because it seems like the baseline level of care you’re supposed to give to your kids. Although at least now fathers as a whole are more involved, so that may distribute the burden slightly better… But yeah, I think a lot of my rejection of parenthood goes back to this extra responsibility put on all parents to have helicopter tendencies, whether or not they can afford it.

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  • Portia

    Portia November 14, 2014, 2:38 pm

    Reading that Fuck Yes or No article is always so satisfying. I’ve read that thing a few times by now and each time I just feel like I can take over the world or something with this new knowledge.

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  • TaraMonster

    TaraMonster November 14, 2014, 3:34 pm

    My favorite of the drunk j. crew photos is this one: “i dint say you are a bidsh, denise! i dint!”
    Cracks me up every time!

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    RedroverRedrover November 15, 2014, 9:40 am

    OMG, the comments on that abortion one. It really feels like the anti-woman sentiment is coming to a fever pitch. Has anyone here read The Handmaid’s Tale? I always think about that when I see this amount of woman-hating.

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    • Portia

      Portia November 15, 2014, 1:13 pm

      So, I had a general idea of what Handmaiden’s Tale was about, but didn’t get around to actually reading it until about a year ago. In the current political climate, it was absolutely frightening to read. I imagine when it was written in the 80’s and Roe v. Wade had happened about 10 years before, things were looking up, but with all the regressive policies… It’s just scary.

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