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Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

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“What Happened When I Lived According To The Pinterest Popular Page” [via Buzzfeed]

“36 Things I Know After 36 Years of Marriage” [via HuffPost]

You may have seen this photo floating around Facebook this week. It’s an image Leigh Anne Tuohy, the woman Sandra Bullock played in “The Blind Side,” shared of herself and two young black guys, with a caption explaining how she basically profiled them while they sat “huddled together” at a table in her business. When a friend of hers suggested they were “up to no good,” she went over to “ask what was happening.” Because, you know, any time two young black men are “huddled together,” something must be “happening.” Anyway, you can read the rest of her caption yourself, as well as all the kudos and pats on the back she got from followers for “not judging a book by its cover,” (ha!). But this post, “Leigh Anne Tuohy, Racism, and the White Saviour Complex,” really sums up my — and a lot of people’s — feelings about the whole thing.

This is funny: How to market toys to girls [via Seasonal Depression]

“How Likely Is It That Birth Control Could Let You Down?” [via NYTimes]

Important to think about this holiday season: “Abundance Without Attachment” [via NYTimes]

This woman’s response to nosy people who question her parenting is: “I’ll Keep That in Mind.” Mine is a simple: “I’m his mother,” which I have found works really, really well at diffusing the situation and getting my point across without being confrontational or overly defensive. [via HuffPost]

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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  • mylaray

    mylaray December 19, 2014, 1:36 pm

    Oh man, that Pinterest article was really funny. I’ve been trying to find some easy and lazy hairstyles I can wear to work. And they’re so hard. I can’t even master the sock bun. I do like Pinterest, but it’s easy to go overboard.

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      Lyra December 19, 2014, 5:48 pm

      Agreed! Some of the “simple” hairstyles are waaaay complicated. I want something that I can literally get done in like 2 minutes. In the morning I hate getting up early and most days I don’t especially care what I look like, so I need something fast and easy!
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      I found The Small Things Blog and she has some FANTASTIC tutorials for shoulder length hairstyles.

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        RedroverRedrover December 20, 2014, 2:04 pm

        Has anyone found one for thick, straight hair? Everyone says they’d love that type of hair, but in reality, it sucks. It’s nice if you want to keep it long and straight every single day of your life, I guess. I can’t even wear a ponytail because it’s so heavy that it gives me a headache. 🙁 Maybe the double-ponytail would work for me. But I’m pretty sure the top ponytail won’t cover the bottom one, because even though it’s thick it’s very fine and has no volume. Plus it’s blonde so it’s harder to “hide” things. Every detail of your styling shows up.

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      • Lyra

        Lyra December 20, 2014, 10:46 pm

        Can you put it up in a bun? Buns have become my go-to style when I wear my hair up because they’re so much more professional than a ponytail. Even if your hair doesn’t hold a curl, you might want to try texturizing spray or powder so it holds in the style. I use Not Your Mother’s Texturizing Spray and it works pretty well. From the blog I mentioned above (I basically worship her hair tutorials) maybe try some of these:
        http://www.thesmallthingsblog.com/2013/07/the-alternative-bun/
        http://www.thesmallthingsblog.com/2012/10/not-just-ponytail/
        http://www.thesmallthingsblog.com/2013/03/the-messiest-of-buns-hair-tutorial/
        http://www.thesmallthingsblog.com/2013/02/low-chignon-hair-tutorial/
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        I use the alternative bun and the messy bun on a weekly basis. I’ve tried the chignon and the ponytail and haven’t mastered them yet so I haven’t worn them to work or anything. I’m really dumb when it comes to hair, and her tutorials are really basic so pretty much anyone can understand them. Her natural hair is very straight as well, so maybe you can use some of the tutorials she has for waves or curl or whatever too. I’ve spent too much time watching these in front of my mirror! Haha.

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      • Lyra

        Lyra December 21, 2014, 1:01 am

        Tonight I just mastered both a teasing technique that works and I managed to get her mid knot tutorial to work! Yesss.

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        RedroverRedrover December 21, 2014, 4:28 pm

        Thanks Lyra! I’m going to give them a try. The low styles are good for me because they don’t slip out as easily, and they don’t feel so heavy. But I think my hair isn’t long enough right now to do these, it’s not even shoulder length.
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        My hair doesn’t hold a curl at all and doesn’t have much texture, which is where a lot of the “messy” styles fail for me. They just look like I actually couldn’t do it, instead of looking cool. Even doing a ponytail, I find it looks bad on me unless I brush the sides perfectly and make them totally smooth. And then there’s no volume. 🙁 But I will try! Thank you! 🙂

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        Lyra December 21, 2014, 5:20 pm

        I think the “not just a ponytail” would work really well for you. 🙂 Or could you try teasing your hair to get some more texture in it? She has a tutorial on that too. Maybe try out some different products too…texturizing spray or powder, mousse, dry shampoo, etc. can help create more texture so the styles stay in place better.

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        RedroverRedrover December 21, 2014, 6:47 pm

        Teasing doesn’t look good because the way the hair lays on top, it splits and you can see the teasing underneath. And again, because it’s light-coloured, it’s hard to “hide” that mess. So no luck. But yeah, I’ll see if I can find a texturizing spray. I have dry shampoo but it’s not the spray-on kind so it kind of just sits on the roots. We don’t have nearly as many options for that kind of stuff in Canada as you do in the US. But it’s a good idea, Sephora might have some, I’ll look around.
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        Agree that the “not just a ponytail” seems like a great option for me! I just need an inch or two more of growth I think. I cut it all chin-length awhile ago because my one-year-old was yanking it so much, and it’s not yet long enough to do anything with. But I’m saving these links! 🙂

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      • Lyra

        Lyra December 21, 2014, 11:21 pm

        I can understand that. I have brown hair so I don’t have that issue fortunately, not to mention I also have more wavy hair too. It’s naturally halfway between wavy and straight though so it’s annoying…and I’m too lazy most days to do anything about that haha. If you look at some of her other tutorials too there may be some that work with your hair. Maybe some of the cleaner/less “messy” styles?

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        RedroverRedrover December 22, 2014, 1:40 pm

        Yeah, some of the half-updos definitely look like they’d work! I could even do them now I think, with my semi-long hair. It’s a great site, thanks for pointing it out!

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        Kate December 22, 2014, 12:04 pm

        Redrover, when your hair was longer, did you ever try getting some layers, or always go all-one-length? Long layers, if done right by a skilled stylist, would take weight off your hair, give it some movement, flatter your face, and let you do more interesting styles, like back or up with pieces out in front. It might even make it easier to put some texture in it, like if you were to wash your hair at night, put in some styling cream and wave spray, then sleep in a low bun and undo it in the morning.

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        RedroverRedrover December 22, 2014, 1:49 pm

        Yes, I’ve had it “thinned out” or layered pretty often. But then I can’t really do many styles once I do that, because it’s got so little volume. It’s weird to have such thick hair with so little volume. It’s flat flat flat, and not in an attractive way. In a weighed-down kind of way. One time a hairdresser told me he’d bring out my “natural curl”. I laughed at him, but he insisted. You should have seen it when it was done. No volume at all. He couldn’t believe it.
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        So when it’s thinner, you can imagine how much flatter and less full it is. And it often isn’t thick enough anymore for ponytails or many other styles. I just can’t find that perfect balance between weight and thickness. And short isn’t really an option anymore because after I had my baby my hair got some weird kinks in the back. They’re really in there, blowdrying and then using an iron still doesn’t totally get rid of them. So having weight helps with that, unfortunately.
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        I mean, it’s not the end of the world, it’s a pretty colour and it does look nice when it’s thick. I just get so sick of the same thing every day, without having a lot of options. I think putting it half-up is probably my best bet. That’ll let me do something different, without having the whole weight of it pulling back.

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  • Addie Pray

    Addie Pray December 19, 2014, 1:37 pm

    The blogger’s response to Leigh-Anne Tuohy was so perfect. She (the blogger) gets it.

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  • muchachaenlaventana

    muchachaenlaventana December 19, 2014, 4:11 pm

    Yeah I loved that Pinterest article. I have done some successful DIY projects from there, but some of the things are just yeah, I feel like they can’t really exist.

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    d2 December 19, 2014, 10:40 pm

    The statistics in the article on birth-control effectiveness kind of left me in shock, so I typed the numbers into a spreadsheet (nerd here). Yeah, the risk does increase that fast, because compound risk accumulates like compound interest. Although the way my love life is going at the moment, my risk is not compounding…

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