Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Friday Links

I love you

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

I have a simple theory about the world. The reason more people aren’t ending up in wildly enthusiastic relationships is simply due to one thing: They’re not getting out of bad relationships soon enough. They stay in something “ok” for months and even years on end, preferring the safety of mediocrity to the angst […] in “If you’re not saying “I love you” after six months, move on” [via Quartz]

“Can You Die From a Broken Heart?” [via Nautilus]

“Is it cooler to be a ‘stay-at-home dad’ than a ‘stay-at-home mom’?” [via Salon]

“Is the First Date Too Early for Couples Therapy?” [via The Cut]

“12 Relationship Tips From a Wedding Reporter” [via Cup of Jo]

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and, if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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  • mrmidtwenties

    mrmidtwenties April 24, 2015, 1:22 pm

    Love the articles this week, especially the first and the last. My girlfriend and I said I love you this past week and that’s coming up to 6 months from when we first started dating and I can say a wholeheartedly agree with the article on the 6 months and love thing. I think we’ve both wanted to say it for awhile. I find it very interesting that with this relationship, everything feels and seems so logical, I don’t think I’ve had that before, it’s not that it’s not passionate, but everything, just feels so reasonable. There’s no drama or anything like that, it actually feels really great. I don’t know what I’m trying to articulate, I’m just rambling, but I like with my relationship that it’s not just my heart feeling it, it’s also my brain.

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    • Stonegypsy

      Stonegypsy April 24, 2015, 2:17 pm

      I told my partner that I loved him at around 3 months. It was really, really soon. It was scary, for both of us. But I knew it, really early on. And we are so happy together, and so passionately into each other, that (aside from the first week after I said it, when everything was kind of scary and unsure) I have never regretted it.

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    • Skyblossom

      Skyblossom April 24, 2015, 3:17 pm

      I knew very quickly with my husband that we were a great fit. We just clicked. We had fun together, we fell in love very quickly, we got along and never had serious drama. We were able to talk to each other and talk to each other and talk to each other. We could talk about our pasts and our future. Over the years I have remained amazed at how alike we are considering that we came from very different places.

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    tbrucemom April 24, 2015, 2:41 pm

    If I had insisted on hearing I love you after 6 months I wouldn’t be married to him right now! It took him 2 1/2 years to be able to SAY it. He SHOWED it probably around 8 months but couldn’t say it (and still doesn’t say it often but he shows it every day). My ex-husband said it all the time but never backed it up. I said it around 18 months and thankfully was able to wait to have it returned. We were exclusive almost right from the start (we were in our late 40s so obviously a different situation than most). I was still raising my youngest and not in a hurry for anything permanent (moving in together) until she finished high school so I’m sure that’s part of the reason I was able to wait so long. Besides like I said, I FELT it and that was enough until I actually heard it.

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    booknerd April 24, 2015, 2:49 pm

    I love the last one. I read it earlier this week. It’s so good.
    I don’t know how I feel about the first article. One one hand, yes, I’ve always known and said it fairly early, but I don’t think six months is always the same linearly. Some couples spend a lot of time together, others not so much. My husband and I started dating in a much more casual relationship. Neither of us were in it to find love or the “one.” It just happened. I wanted more, I told him that and was willing to walk away, and bam, we moved in together. That was probably at six months or so.

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