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Dear Wendy

Friday Links, August 16

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

“Theories on Why Women Don’t Enjoy Career Success as Much as Men Do” [via The Atlantic]

This woman is going to Instagram your wedding all she wants because she bought the wrong shoes. [via Jezebel]

“Man Learns How Not To Launch A Site For Women” [via NPR]

“Eight out of ten newlyweds admit to selling their wedding gifts on eBay” [via Daily Mail]

“It’s Heartbreaking To See How People React To The First Half Of His Test Compared To The Second” [via UPWORTHY]

“7 Secrets of Highly Happy Children” [via HuffPo]

“‘Hookup Culture’ Isn’t Real” [via The Atlantic]

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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    GatorGirl August 16, 2013, 1:14 pm

    We actually made an Instagram hastag and sort of encouraged out wedding guests to take and post photos. We have like 180 instapics or something like that and they captured a lot of moments and images that our photogs didn’t get. So I’m really happy we did it! (I think taking wedding guests phones is total bull. Ask them to not post pictures, sure…but we’re adults, we get to keep our stuff.)

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    Classic August 16, 2013, 1:17 pm

    Wow, the UPWORTHY video is powerful. I’m stunned.

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    Classic August 16, 2013, 1:19 pm

    I love the 7 Secrets of Happy Children article. It is so simple, but it describes the way that I took care of my son, which was simple.

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    TECH August 16, 2013, 1:23 pm

    The link for “Proof you can NEVER trust a man who says marriage will ruin your relationship” didn’t work for me.

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    bethany August 16, 2013, 1:54 pm

    I get the point of the Upworthy video, but I don’t think it’s fair to compare the two things like that. I would never attempt to get in the middle of a domestic fight. It’s too risky. You never know what’s going to happen. In my opinion it’s best to call the police and let them handle it.

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    • katie

      katie August 16, 2013, 2:48 pm

      but no one even did that, isnt that the point? they turned a blind eye to it completely

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        bethany August 16, 2013, 2:52 pm

        I didn’t watch to the end, so I missed that part.

        I used to live on a very busy corner in Philadelphia, and heard all kinds of domestic disputes out on the street at like 2am. I called the cops all the time.

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        rachel August 16, 2013, 2:55 pm

        I sort of wonder whether people in Johannesburg trust the police, like we would, to do something useful in that situation. I’m pretty ignorant of what life is like in South Africa these days.

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      • katie

        katie August 16, 2013, 2:57 pm

        that is a good point. but i guess that would just further illustrate how terrible life is in africa for women? like even the police wont protect them.

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        rachel August 16, 2013, 3:12 pm

        Yeah, absolutely.

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    iwannatalktosampson August 16, 2013, 3:01 pm

    I think the article on women’s satisfaction in high powered positions was really interesting. Although I’m certainly not high powered (shit rolls down hill – guess who’s at the bottom of that hill?) I do think I don’t necessarily get the job satisfaction that young male attorney’s seem to have. And it’s not that I don’t care about my cases. I care about most of them (haha) and really do care to do good work even if the case isn’t – cough cough – personally fulfilling. But even when I get the outcome I want, I just carry on with my day.

    When I was officially hired on at my current job I had a discussion with my boss about boundaries. Mostly I said that I have no problem working late but I need warning because I have a dog to take care of and I need to have flexibility to either work from home at night or have some notice so that I can get someone to pick him up from day care. He agreed but was kind of bewildered by my problem. He of course has a stay at home wife. I’ve seen this happen over and over with older male attorneys. But I don’t know a single older female attorney who has a stay at home husband. They have no idea that I go home and start a second job – keeping a household running. Because to them the second they walk in the door their obligations for the day are over. They have dinner waiting a clean house a happy dog, etc. I definitely think that if I get to a place of power and authority I will outsource as much of my life as I can. I will pay other people to do pretty much everything. I’m not kidding. Like say in ten years I am making pretty good money but working a lot of hours I will probably hire a high school kid or something to do my grocery shopping and just in general run errands for me for a few hours a week.

    I just can’t imagine myself getting mass quantities of self esteem from being an awesome well known attorney. I mean sure it would be nice. But that’s part of the job. My life outside of work has always made me so much more fulfilled and made me feel good about myself. Job accomplishments don’t really mean that much to me.

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      lets_be_honest August 16, 2013, 4:05 pm

      Wow, I appreciate my bosses even more. I’ve never had that issue of bewilderment or the thought that they don’t get home and start job #2 also.
      I’m pretty happy with myself when I know I’ve done a good job. I didn’t read the article, but I think I’m just as satisfied as my male peers.

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        lets_be_honest August 16, 2013, 4:06 pm

        If anything, I think some of my male peers pat themselves on the back way more than necessary. I just finished a quick, easy closing about 10 minutes ago. It was one of the simplest things I’ve done all week, but of course they were all jerking each other off about what a great job they did. Really guys? A monkey could do that.

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        iwannatalktosampson August 16, 2013, 4:09 pm

        But that’s the thing – they really are super proud of themselves over every little thing. I wish I had that self esteem boost, even if it maybe wasn’t deserved you know? The days I feel awesome about my job are few and far between. Like the day I did that thing at the federal court house with the SEC that I told you about? Best day ever. That’s the only time I really felt awesome about my job in the last 6 months. I mean I don’t hate it – but it’s not getting me wet either you know?

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        lets_be_honest August 16, 2013, 4:13 pm

        Oh, I gotcha. Yea, I guess I can say the same, haha.

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    Addie Pray August 16, 2013, 4:09 pm

    HEY YOU GUYZZZ…. Who will come biking with me tomorrow?

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      Addie Pray August 16, 2013, 4:13 pm

      come bike with me TOMORROW in WISCONSIN! see the forum.

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        Addie Pray August 16, 2013, 4:13 pm

        come bike with me TOMORROW in WISCONSIN! see the forum.

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        Addie Pray August 16, 2013, 4:14 pm

        please?

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        Addie Pray August 16, 2013, 4:14 pm

        pretty please?

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        Addie Pray August 16, 2013, 4:15 pm

        It’ll be so fun! We’ll do the Roun’da Manure Bicycle Tour that starts in Sharon, Wisconsin and takes you through small towns…. Can you think of a better way to spend your Saturday?!

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        Fabelle August 16, 2013, 4:19 pm

        I would if I was in the area! Mainly I’m replying to congratulate you on taking over the sidebar. I saw your name once as I was reading through the forums, & by the time I clicked back on the main page, it was all ADDIE PRAY ADDIE PRAY ADDIE PRAY. it made me smile!

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