Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Friday Links, December 7

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

Couple Announces Breakup in a Song [via Jezebel]

“Is It OK For the Girl to Propose? No Way, Study Suggests” [via LiveScience]

“The World’s Worst Online Daters” [via Salon]

“My Superpower Is Being Alone Forever: Newly Single” [via The Awl]

“‘I love you. Now change’: Why do qualities which originally attracted us to our partner now repel us?” [via DailyMail]

15 Heartbreaking Signs That You’re Single [via Thought Catalog]

“Wall Street Exec Seeking Online Dating Manager” [via NewsFix]

Advice for dating on a single parent’s income [via Boston.com]

“Parents slam ‘Good Morning America,’ Lara Spencer for giving away Christmas elf secrets” [via FoxNews]

“Man Sues Wife—and Wins!—For Birthing Ugly Baby” [via First To Know]

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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    MsMisery December 7, 2012, 1:10 pm

    I don’t need 15 signs that I am single. I am pretty well aware of that, thankyouverymuch. Should be obviouscatalog.com. >_> (PS- a lot of these don’t even apply to me or just seem plain ridic, so this is prolly some attached person making biased assumptions).

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    • CatsMeow

      CatsMeow December 7, 2012, 1:48 pm

      It should be “15 Reasons You Suck at Being Single.” Seriously, you can’t find something to fill your time on weekends? You go out with friends and end up crying because you are all alone? You feel developmentally stunted? You stop caring about your health and hygiene? WTF? Not everyone bases their sense of self-worth on their relationship status.

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        ktfran December 7, 2012, 2:03 pm

        AGREED! With both you and MsMisery. I’m single. I take care of myself. I enjoy weekends. I don’t feel left out at family events. I couldn’t even read them all because it just pissed me off.

        Do I occasionally get lonely and wish I had someone to share my life with? Sure, but it has never once stunted me or made me miserable. Those bouts of lonilness usually only last a couple of hours. A day tops. And that maybe happens once every few months.

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    • Astronomer

      Astronomer December 7, 2012, 4:06 pm

      I thought it was pretty funny, and I recognized a few things that I totally did when I was single for a couple years. Like, I would totally fall asleep however. Sometimes I would wake up in my clothes on the bed after lying backward and diagonally around a cat or a pile of books. Sometimes I would sleep on a chair in the living room or on the plush rug, just for a change. Now I sleep all boring and proper-like with the husband, although I did totally pass out on the hardwood floor a few nights ago while I was painting. That was funny and slightly embarrassing.

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      • Fabelle

        Fabelle December 7, 2012, 4:10 pm

        Yeah, this is something my S/O would probably say about being single– before we started dating, he’d fall asleep everywhere. One time, we had to sleep on somebody’s floor when we stayed over, & he was all “yay, floor! I miss sleeping on the floor.”

        … 😐

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      • TaraMonster

        TaraMonster December 7, 2012, 4:39 pm

        I think the moment I realized I was getting old was when my ex and I got invited to a Big Drinking Party and I was like “Do we have to sleep on the floor? Because I don’t want to go if we have to sleep on the floor.” And then it hit me that I hate sleeping anywhere other than my own bed anymore because it makes me sore and my back hurts and I don’t care about partying anymore.

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  • Lyra

    L December 7, 2012, 1:36 pm

    Yikes…just read the 15 signs that I’m single and realizing how I’m TOTALLY fitting into the “dating my career” stereotype. I seriously have no life. I go to work, I go home. Rinse and repeat. Depressing.

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    bethany December 7, 2012, 1:39 pm

    I read 15 signs you’re single, and had about 5 of them! And I’ve been married for over a year…. Wonder what that means?

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      Taylor December 7, 2012, 3:50 pm

      Seriously. And what was with the “only single people eat cupcakes”?
      The comment that made me twitch a bit was “Like, you don’t trim your genitalia” – I know the author means the hair around it, but I snarfed a bit when reading it.

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      • CatsMeow

        CatsMeow December 7, 2012, 4:26 pm

        hahaha, that got me too. I thought of going to the salon to get my vulva trimmed. Just a bit off the ends, please.

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      rachel December 7, 2012, 4:16 pm

      Quite a few of them apply to me since I’ve been in a LDR, haha

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    artsygirl December 7, 2012, 1:47 pm

    I saw the breakup video earlier today and thought it was a wonderful way to deal with separating out your lives. I especially liked the idea that they said their friends should still invite both of them to parties even though it will be awkward. Unfortunately I read some comments and was shocked at how people were treating the woman (Ivory). Apparently they were working under the assumption that she just decided to not have kids but it is clear in the opening line that she was upfront about it and he had hoped she would change her mind. I find it disheartening that society still reacts negatively to women (and men) deciding that they do not want to become parents.

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    • Astronomer

      Astronomer December 7, 2012, 4:10 pm

      I loved the song and its earnestness. I agree that it seems like a nice and healing thing to do, even though the sadness in it was also obvious. I also may have teared up a bit, because they both seem like such nice and interesting people. This must be so hard for them.

      P.S. Bass clarinet for the win!

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    lets_be_honest December 7, 2012, 2:08 pm

    Re the elf. We went to see Santa last night, and Mrs. Claus asked about our elf (which we dont have!). It wasn’t around when she was very little, and I thought it’d be weird for an elf to show up after all this time. Anyway, on the way home, my daughter goes ‘Mrs. Claus seemed pretty aggravated at the elf for not coming. I hope he doesn’t get in trouble.’ Kids. They’re amazing. (bias showing?)
    Needless to say, the elf was there this morning, with an apology note saying he is sorry it took him so long to get here, but that Mrs. Claus understood.

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      rachel December 7, 2012, 4:18 pm

      I’ve never heard of this elf thing. It wasn’t around when I was a kid. I hope they send out some kind of memo to parents to tell them about this kind of crap, haha.

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        lets_be_honest December 7, 2012, 4:36 pm

        Its only been around 2-5 years max. Its called Elf on a Shelf and comes with a little stuffed elf and a book explaining. The elf is sent by Santa to watch the kids in the days leading up to xmas to make sure they behave. Every morning, the elf is in a different spot in the house “watching.” Its a really cute idea, and good for a kid that will behave if he/she knows Santa’s watching 🙂
        And trust me, when you have kids, you will be aware of all these things. The companies behind them have a way of making sure every parent is aware of what they must spend their $ on! haha

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        Caris December 8, 2012, 9:59 am

        The idea of there being someone watching you at all times is actually kinda creepy imo.

        Also, is this elf thing an american (USA) thing ? It just sounds a bit weird to me.

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    AliceInDairyland December 7, 2012, 3:33 pm

    My Superpower is being alone Forever: Newly Single

    OMG, this was eerily true. This man is so excellent at articulating why break-ups are so incredibly painful. And he does it in a super amusing way. I enjoyed this article, and his 2 others in the series.

    “Being heard is not the same as being known.” Yes.

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      Taylor December 7, 2012, 3:46 pm

      Yes! “Nothing can substitute for the presence of an actual human person who knows most of your secrets and still somehow wants to make out with you.” <– this really resonated with me.

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    • Fabelle

      Fabelle December 7, 2012, 4:07 pm

      I submitted that one, yayy 🙂 Some of the lines gave me such chills when I read it.

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  • TaraMonster

    TaraMonster December 7, 2012, 4:32 pm

    I watched the breakup song (which I’ve been avoiding the past day or so since it went viral) and then read “My Superpower Is Being Alone Forever: Newly Single.”

    Because I’m a masochist.

    Next up: “15 Heartbreaking Signs That You’re Single” and a glass of red wine.

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    • Lyra

      L December 7, 2012, 5:01 pm

      Cheers from a newly single gal drinking wine to another, Tara.

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