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Dear Wendy

Friday Links, February 1

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

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“Happy Birthday, You Bastard, Under no circumstances will I be attending your stupid birthday dinner.” [via Slate]

What the word “Lady” Really means [via New Republic]

This coming out story takes the cake [via Yahoo News]

“My best friends are from the internet” [via Offbeat Home]

“There’s No Such Thing as Everlasting Love (According to Science)” [via The Atlantic]

“Florida man accused of fraud after name change in ‘act of love'” [via Reuters]

Written by a Dear Wendy reader (and former LW!): “Burning the Myths: Letter to an Angry Young Woman” [via Dear Fanny]

“Why Are Smart People Usually Ugly?” [via Slate]

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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    Desiree February 1, 2013, 12:12 pm

    The article from the Atlantic might be making an interesting social point (the idea of redefining love as something more reasonable and accessible for everyone), but it’s “science” is nonsensical.

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  • LadyinPurpleNotRed

    LadyinPurpleNotRed February 1, 2013, 12:36 pm

    The coming out story made me so happy. I loved the note (I love puns) and was so relieved that her parents responded well.

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      SuzyQ February 1, 2013, 1:47 pm

      Loved it – and hadn’t seen the udpate part. Glad her parents responded well! Fun story.

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    lets_be_honest February 1, 2013, 12:41 pm

    The birthday dinner one…I’ve never read a more accurate description in my life!
    This whole event just played out for me at a dinner for a friend’s boyfriend a few weeks ago (not even my friend technically!). I found myself wondering the next day what the group of us could’ve done with almost $1500. I assume a lot funner things than sitting at a big table, eating mediocre food and not being able to talk to anyone but the 3 people closest to you. I told myself I would never ask friends to go to a bday dinner ever for me after that.

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    • katie

      katie February 1, 2013, 12:48 pm

      haha, if i ever had friends that acted like that, i wouldnt want to go either! yikes..

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      SuzyQ February 1, 2013, 1:49 pm

      OMG I had this exact experience when I was a fresh-out-of-college unemployed French major. Watching everyone who worked with my friend order these crazy dishes – and WINE (WTF – I never ordered wine with dinner. The restaurants I could afford didn’t sell wine)!!!!!!!!

      Ugh – I rarely go to those kinds of events now, but if I do, I know to bring lots of cash.

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  • bittergaymark

    bittergaymark February 1, 2013, 12:57 pm

    Yikes… If my kid came out to me by cake — I’d be far too concerned that she apparently thinks “tears” and “tiers” are one and the same. I suppose that she COULD be well aware of this, and it COULD be a Carrie Bradshaw pun… I dunno, coming out by cake is not something I would recommend… It seems to rather trivialize the whole issue…

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    • Fabelle

      Fabelle February 1, 2013, 1:02 pm

      It’s hard to see, but she signs off with “sorry for so many puns” so I think the “tiers” thing was very intentional.

      I thought it was cute, but I was cringing a little the whole time, hoping her parents reacted well! I’m glad they did.

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      rachel February 1, 2013, 2:11 pm

      The tiers thing was definitely a pun.

      I assume this may have been a case where her parents basically “knew”, so she wasn’t too worried.

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    AliceInDairyland February 1, 2013, 2:34 pm

    Woah, that Dear Fanny link hit my like a pile of bricks. It started out slow, but then it just built up and was so lovely and beautiful and inspiring and sad. I started crying in my student union. Like tears streaming gently down my cheeks and quiet hiccuping tears as I smooshed smaller into the corner. (Emotional Intensity, heh heh). Sometimes you just need to hear something like that sometimes.

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  • sobriquet

    sobriquet February 1, 2013, 3:58 pm

    The dreaded birthday dinner! I learned this the hard way a few years ago when I threw my ex a birthday dinner for his 30th. He just wanted to do something with a few of his closest friends. He didn’t want to make a big deal out of it. It was pretty obvious that he was feeling a little anxiety about the big 3-0. It seemed simple enough, inviting his best friends to dinner. What is more simple and easy than dinner? I even chose a nice, yet affordable restaurant (upscale Mexican food, so everything on the menu was under $30). There were 8 guests total since his best friends brought their SO’s. When the check came, his notoriously cheap friend decided that we should just split the bill up based on what people ordered. Nightmare. Especially when the check came around to me and I noticed that it didn’t quite add up! A few people forgot to factor in the tip! I tried to get it fixed on my own, but when my ex realized what had happened, he actually SCOLDED his friends at the table! The drama! I was horrified!

    Never, ever, ever again.

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    • Fabelle

      Fabelle February 1, 2013, 4:20 pm

      haha sorry, made me think of this:

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    Trixy minx February 3, 2013, 6:48 am

    The dear Fanny writer reminds me of Rainbow. She didn’t comment on this site much anymore. 🙁

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    Emma February 3, 2013, 12:48 pm

    Well, duh there’s no such thing as ever-lasting love… everybody dies at some point. Kinda puts a stopper to that, don’t it?

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