Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Friday Links, February 8

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

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I don’t have an actual link for this one, but if you go to your local news stands and find the March issue of People StyleWatch (out today), turn to page 238 and you’ll see a quote from yours truly in the “What’s In, What’s Out” column (Online Group Dating: In).

“What Habits Do Happy Couples Have?” [via Slate]

“What singles want: Survey looks at attraction, turnoffs” [via USA Today]

10 Things You Didn’t Know About Single Americans [via Huffington Post]

Valentine’s Survey Finds Traveling Together Strengthens Relationships, Makes Sex Better [via PR Newswire]

“Why Is This Season of ‘Downton Abbey’ So Boring? Everyone’s Married Now” [via The Atlantic]

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to [email protected] and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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    kerrycontrary February 8, 2013, 12:28 pm

    Congratulations Wendy! It must be awesome to see your name in print 🙂

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      Wendy February 8, 2013, 12:41 pm

      Thanks! Yes, it’s always exciting.

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  • iwannatalktosampson

    Iwannatalktosampson February 8, 2013, 1:25 pm

    That article about 10 things single people are doing was interesting – but more about general behavior in all people. I have to admit I’m slightly shocked to see how often everyone is snooping (although I shouldn’t be since we get letters about it all the time). I have to say I would be a little creeped out if Ethan went through my phone just for fun. I feel the same was about that as I do about my planner and my purse. He knows it’s never okay to go through those things. My planner is like my diary. It’s super embarrassing the things I write down (and then color code) and he knows better than to look in there. Also my purse – well I’ve just been weird about that since high school. I don’t know why. I guess I just feel like some things really should be kept private. And the wrapper filled with gum at the bottom of my purse is for my eyes only.

    Oh and about the cell phone thing – I would be pretty annoyed if my friends’ husbands were reading our text messages.

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      kerrycontrary February 8, 2013, 1:27 pm

      See, I think it’s weird when men act odd about going through my purse. “Please grab me my phone out of my purse” “I don’t want to go through your purse!!” “what do you think is in there??” Like they all must think we have 20 tampons sitting in our purse (and god forbid they touch one!).

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      • bittergaymark

        bittergaymark February 8, 2013, 1:36 pm

        It’s probably simply that your purse is a mess. It always amazes me how otherwise VERY organized and well put together women still lug about so much random crap in their purses. It’s disgusting. Sorry, but going through many a purse is like picking through a dumpster. Believe me, I know, as I’m ALWAYS asked to grab something out of em… Gag. Barf. Vomit.

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        kerrycontrary February 8, 2013, 1:41 pm

        Oke Rude Jude, why would that be the case? You’ve never seen my purse, so no, it’s not a mess. I have no used gum or food or tampons out and about. It’s my wallet, phone, keys, and ONE chapstick. Any medicine/lady items are in the zippered pocket.

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        bittergaymark February 8, 2013, 1:49 pm

        Fantastic. I would hazard a guess you are in the minority though. Look, I’ve found that many purses are horrific messes… (See Iwannatalktosampson’s chewed up gum-wad confession.) Plain and simple? Odds are every man on the planet has had to look through a purse he sincerely wishes he hadn’t and that’s probably why so many of us would simply rather not.

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        bethany February 8, 2013, 2:03 pm

        I went through a few of my purses that I’m not currently using the other day and found $1.27 in change, about 30 tampons, gum wrappers, paper clips, receipts, a few wads of gum that came out of the wrappers, lip gloss, earrings and a snail shell (?!)

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      • iwannatalktosampson

        Iwannatalktosampson February 8, 2013, 2:19 pm

        That’s funny – the one thing that grosses me out is change. Loose change is disgusting to me. But I think that’s more of a personal issue than something that is universally gross. If I have to touch loose change at my house I will put on kitchen gloves. I’m not kidding.

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        bethany February 8, 2013, 2:25 pm

        The thing that grosses me out the most is the random shit that gets stuck around the cap of a sticky lip gloss… You guys know what I’m talking about! What is that stuff?! Ick.

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      • Fabelle

        Fabelle February 8, 2013, 2:20 pm

        Yep, sounds like all of my old purses. Sometimes I’ll find one in the closet that I want to use again, but first I have to dangle it upside-down over the trash can.

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        EricaSwagger February 8, 2013, 2:24 pm

        There’s a hard piece of gum stuck to the bottom of my purse right now. I think it got warm and then cold and now the gum and fabric molecules are like fused together (it’s practically science).

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        lemongrass February 8, 2013, 2:28 pm

        I have thrown out several purses that had melted jolly ranchers stuck to the liner. Damn you delicious bulk candy and your crappy non-containing wrappers!

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        GatorGirl February 8, 2013, 2:40 pm

        My purse is just as clean. A wallet, chapstick, car keys, phone, and a pen. A few tampons in the zippered section.

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      • theattack

        theattack February 8, 2013, 2:15 pm

        My purse has a lot of stuff in it, but it’s not disgusting. You might have to look past my knife, wallet, checkbook, hand sanitizer, keys, phone, etc. in order to find something, but it’s not like it’s gross. If I can wash your dirty underwear, you can dig through my cluttered purse for my phone, ya know? (Not that I’m washing BGM’s underwear…) Purses just aren’t made with enough compartments to keep things from being cluttered.

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        lemongrass February 8, 2013, 2:25 pm

        I love that you list knife first.

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      • iwannatalktosampson

        Iwannatalktosampson February 8, 2013, 2:18 pm

        Ha I have been known to have disgusting purses in my life Mark, but actually lately I never do because I’m switching between purses so often. I have one that I use when I need to take my laptop/ipad with me, one if I need to have big case files with me, and one for the usual Saturday drives to the farmers market (I’m just being weird – I guess it’s called my everyday purse).

        BUT I do regularly find 7 chapsticks/lipglosses/lip stains in my purse on the regular. But I don’t find those gross. So in summary: I respect every individuals right to have a disgusting purse. Stay out of it if you don’t want to have to see the mess! But I currently have to keep all my shit clean – I would be in trouble if I got gum on some court documents.

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      • bittergaymark

        bittergaymark February 8, 2013, 2:55 pm

        It’s fine to have a messy purse. But then don’t ask somebody to retrieve your sticky lipgloss from it simply because you are driving… That’s ALL I am saying here.

        Funny story, I was at a party once and there was this one woman who I admittedly didn’t like very well. Friend of a friend, overly bitchy, especially to her poor husband… you know the type. Anyway, she was going on and on and on about what a slob her man was. What a mess he was, and how gross and disgusting he was and blah blah blah. Yeah, she was really getting on my nerves and as I loathed her, anyway, I decided to have some fun.

        As she was going on and on and on, I said. “Wow, I love your handbag! May I please see it.” Still ragging away she swung it my way and I immediately proceeded to dump it out right there on the coffee table. Its foul contents did NOT disappoint. Talk about gross. Gum-wads. A bazillion used tissues. Crumpled up sweetner packets, a surprising amount of straws… You know, just garbage.

        Tossing the now empty purse back to her, I simply said. “Yeah, well, not everybody can be as neat and as well organized as you…”

        Anyway, she hit the roof and probably still hates me to this day. Whatever. I still laugh about it. A friend was like, “How did you possibly know to do that?” “Oh please. She asked me to fish out her keys one time…”

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      bethany February 8, 2013, 1:42 pm

      I wouldn’t like the idea of my husband going through my phone. However, he knows my password, and if my phone is closest and he wants to check the weather/traffic or something, I don’t care if he uses it. I think he respects my personal stuff (and frankly doesn’t really care about what I text to my girlfriends)

      Last night I was showing him something on Dear Wendy, I forget what, and he went to scroll down, and I yelled at him! I told him that DW was my personal place and he wasn’t allowed to look at it. I’m trusting that he’s respecting my wishes… and if he’s not… DAVE, START RESPECTING MY WISHES AND STOP READING THIS!!!!

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      • iwannatalktosampson

        Iwannatalktosampson February 8, 2013, 2:15 pm

        Yeah I never freak out when he looks at my phone – he used it to call family members and friends and stuff when he can’t find his or is to lazy to get it. I also hate the idea that “well if you have nothing to hide why would you care?” I do have nothing to hide. No secret boyfriends, no inappropriate friendships – and no more shit talking about him than things I would say to his face. But if he started making a habit of just using it for the purpose of being nozy I would not be pleased.

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      lemongrass February 8, 2013, 2:23 pm

      My husband and I are very open-book about our technology. We keep each others favorite apps on our phones so we can use both, text from either one, etc. I check his email for him everyday and open all his snail mail too. My husband literally just said “when you are done feeding maybe you can help me make a Facebook status.” We have some things we need privacy for but the Internet isn’t one of them.

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    Addie Pray February 8, 2013, 1:35 pm

    Congratulations, Wendy, you’re famous (again/still)!

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  • honeybeegood

    honeybeegood February 8, 2013, 11:05 pm

    That “what singles want” article said only 11% of women and 8% of men consider wanting children a must have. No wonder Wendy gets so many letters! Wasn’t that on like 95% of people’s deal breakers in the deal breaker thread. There is no compromise. You can’t have half a baby. Sigh.

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