Dear Wendy
Dear Wendy

Friday Links, July 12

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

It’s not about the nail… [via YouTube]

“Texas activist Sarah Slamen: ‘It’s this police state that keeps us quiet’:
The newly minted feminist icon tells Salon about getting thrown out of the Texas abortion hearings, and what’s next” [via Salon]

“Why Is Boston So Racist’ and 50 Other City Stereotypes Revealed by Google Autocomplete” [via The Atlantic]

Maybe the authors of this article were inspired by this forum thread? “The Comment Section for Every Article Ever Written About Intimate Grooming” [via The Toast]

“4 Harsh Conversations You Should Have Before Getting Married” [via Cracked]

If you can stand one more about Millennials, this one is pretty funny: “The generation we love to dump on” [via CNN]

Finally, for you yoga freaks: “The cult of Lululemon” [via Daily Life]

“What is the average penis length?” [via Salon]

It’s her body hair and she won’t shave if she doesn’t want to! [via Huffington Post]

This is awesome: #myfriendsaremarried (and I’m just 25 and drunk)

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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  • iwannatalktosampson

    iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 1:14 pm

    This is PERFECT timing, my most recent lululemon shipment arrives at my house today according to fedex. I’m so excited to wear the shorts while hiking a 14’er tomorrow. I will need to be super agile and work on my tan so I can look cute drinking beers at 14 thousand feet. (How many Colorado Stereotypes do you think I can fit in one comment?) Colin and I (can we make every time I mention my new bang buddy a drink too?) had a VERY serious conversation about what tickles my pickle yesterday, and I had to inform him that flowers just don’t do it for me. If he does something wrong, or just in general thinks I am adorable, he should buy me lululemon… it’s the way to my heart.

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    • iwannatalktosampson

      iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 1:16 pm

      Also I get mentioned in a drinking post, then Wendy posts a link about lululemon… do you guys think this is secretly IWTTS week on DW? I mean GG got wedding week – I should a week too right?

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 1:31 pm

        You should def get a week πŸ™‚ Maybe like how to still be awesome even when life throws you a curve ball week.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 2:37 pm

        Seriously, iwanna should write a book on that!

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      GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 1:29 pm

      I don’t like flowers much either. I’d rather booze. Or sports stuff.

      But I’ll take flowers πŸ™‚

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      lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 2:36 pm

      What? You don’t like flowers? Or you just like lululemon better? Would you not like both together?

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      • iwannatalktosampson

        iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 2:41 pm

        Well I don’t like plants, and I don’t really like flowers. I can’t enjoy them because I just look at them like a waste of money. Which is so silly considering flowers are like $20 and lululemon is like $100 for anything. I just don’t appreciate them. I wouldn’t throw them out, but I wouldn’t be really excited either. It would be a very disappointing and blah reaction. Funny story – for that hot second Ethan and I were in marriage counseling he would bring me flowers to every appointment and in the brattiest way possible the only thing I could think was “IT’S LIKE YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW ME”, haha.

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 2:43 pm

        That is such a clear “you don’t know me!”

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 2:46 pm

        But but but, fresh flowers are so pretty on a table.

        Yea, I’m w GG. Clear cut doesn’t even know you situation.

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      • iwannatalktosampson

        iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 2:48 pm

        I guess it’s the disposableness of them. Like they aren’t tangible, they don’t last, so why spend money on them? They can’t be consumed or enjoyed. You just… I don’t know – stare at them? What’s the point? At least if I am gifted booze I get to experience the gift (of drunkeness) or with a tangible consumer good like lulu they can live on forever (seriously I have a pair that is over 10 years old and still stretchy as f).

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 2:50 pm

        I like the $4.99 bunches from the grocery store. Anything more expensive freaks me out. We spent less than $600 on all of our wedding flowers because I could not bring myself to spend anymore on something I’d throw away.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 2:55 pm

        I like the cheapo ones from the grocery store too. I’ll shorten the lengths and break them up into a bunch of different tiny vases for all over. Feels worth it then.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 2:56 pm

        Oh, and I had a coworker a few years ago who left her fiance and he sent flowers to the office EVERY DAY, for at least SIX MONTHS. Cah-razy!

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 3:02 pm

        Um, desperate much?

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        bethany July 12, 2013, 2:59 pm

        We have hydrangeas in the yard, and I love cutting them for inside the house. They’re amazing.

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        rachel July 12, 2013, 3:15 pm

        …and the fact that $600 is apparently not that much to spend on flowers means there’s not going to be flowers at my wedding.

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 3:32 pm

        Our quote from the florist was $3,500. We ended up paying $200 for my bouquet and GGuy’s boutonniere from the florist. Then my mom ordered some bulk flowers on line and picked up the rest at the local grocery stores the day before the wedding.

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      • Lady_Red

        Red_Lady July 12, 2013, 4:17 pm

        You can order bouquets and boutonnieres from the floral dept at most grocery stores – they are generally cheaper.

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      • Lady_Red

        Red_Lady July 12, 2013, 3:45 pm

        My mom had to talk me into spending $500 for our wedding flowers. I wanted to just go to the grocery store the day of and pick up some random $10 bouquets, but my Mom was too worried that something might go wrong with that. But it just seems like such a waste to spend so much on something that’ll last such a short time.

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      Sue Jones July 12, 2013, 5:14 pm

      Which 14er? It gets cold up there so I think zip offs are best. Gnarly clouds here on the front range today! I love Bierstadt. I hope to climb Torrey and Grey this year. You can do both 14ers in one go. Have fun!

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        Sue Jones July 12, 2013, 5:17 pm

        BTW, I have a whole dresser full of Lululemon. They even make my 51 year old butt look great! Of course I do keep in shape climbing 14ers and doing yoga, but still…a 51 year old butt is a 51 year old butt!

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    • MELH

      MELH July 14, 2013, 6:01 pm

      So…even though below I said lulu’s prices scare me…last night i found a really cute top on sale for $29…and my husband and I had just had a little we got totally lost trying to find a friends new house tiff and I was like our budget is fine and you were a pain in the butt so I’m ordering a new top!

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  • iwannatalktosampson

    iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 1:15 pm

    Oh man and Lili turned me onto the “my friends are married site and I’m 25 and drunk” and it seriously completes my life. It is so so funny.

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    bethany July 12, 2013, 1:24 pm

    I’m sorry, Iwanna, don’t hate me. But I don’t lile Lulu. Their stuff is too thick for Bikram. It’s so cute, and I want to like it, but I can’t wear that stuff to class. Uugh.
    And I can’t justify $70 sweatpants for after class.

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    • iwannatalktosampson

      iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 1:25 pm

      See I like how thick and tight they are in hot yoga (you’ve gone to Corepower Sculpt before right? I can’t remember) because I feel like it helps with my postures and makes me sweat more. Which is good, because I’m naturally not very sweaty, and there’s nothing more demoralizing than jumping around and doing pushups in a heated room and not sweating.

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        bethany July 12, 2013, 1:35 pm

        I haven’t done any other kinds of yoga. Maybe a class here and there, but never more than once or twice.

        I wear these sports bras:

        And these shorts:

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      lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 2:45 pm

      I was turned on to expensive sweatpants from Anthro and treated myself to 3 pairs. My asshole sisters have stolen and shrunken ALL of them.

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      • iwannatalktosampson

        iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 2:47 pm

        Lulu doesn’t shrink. Just sayin’

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 2:50 pm

        These weren’t yoga pants, they were like t shirt material. I’m still sad about them.

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        Sue Jones July 12, 2013, 5:19 pm

        I have a pair of Lulu groovepants that I have had for 6 years, sweating my ass off and washing them 1-2x per week and they still look great!

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      Addie Pray July 12, 2013, 2:46 pm

      AGREED! Way too thick for Bikram. And too… constricting. They’re TOO well made if that’s possible. For bikram I just want a piece of cloth so my privates are covered but even then who the fuck cares. I take my glasses off in class so I can’t see anyone – everyone looks like sweaty fat blobs anyway, so if I can’t see them, they can’t see me, right? I’d love to do a naked Bikram class.

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  • KKZ

    KKZ July 12, 2013, 2:08 pm

    Wow, I already disliked Lululemon for being overpriced, and because the idea of “yoga fashion” is a little antithetical, or at least contradictory, to my personal interpretation of yoga philosophy… but after reading the article linked here, and a few that it linked to, I positively hate that brand now.

    But the Millennials thing was great. Spot-on.

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      rachel July 12, 2013, 2:30 pm

      I didn’t realize it wasn’t made in the US. I assumed it was, since it is so expensive. I don’t go to yoga, but I’m happy enough with my Old Navy workout gear, which, while also probably made in some horrible sweat shop, at least doesn’t break my bank. Yeah, yeah, my principles are ignored for the greater good of my wallet, I’m a typical American.

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      • KKZ

        KKZ July 12, 2013, 2:56 pm

        I can deal with “not made in the US” and I can turn my head at sweatshop garments if it benefits my wallet, but what I couldn’t stand was Chip Wilson’s attitude about it all. His comments directly undermine their supposed brand promise.

        For yoga, I usually wear TEKGear shorts that I got on clearance at Kohl’s, no idea where they’re made, and tank tops from Old Navy. I also buy a lot of secondhand clothes at places like Plato’s Closet, though those probably originally came from sweatshops too… I guess in my head it’s like “Sweatshop Bad! Recycling clothing Good! Karma Balanced!”

        But yeah, it’s kind of ridiculously hard to be a conscientious consumer these days. Limiting yourself to only ‘responsible’ brands gives you so, so, so few choices, and is not easy on the wallet. :\

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      • KKZ

        KKZ July 12, 2013, 2:58 pm

        Anyway, I tend toward the more spiritual side of yoga, fitness is just a fringe benefit, and Wilson’s comments (which I got to not from the article Wendy shared, but one linked to from within it) struck me as so blatantly un-yogic, it made my head spin.

        IMHO, you canNOT be an Ayn Rand Objectivist and a yogi. Does not compute.

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      • iwannatalktosampson

        iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 2:59 pm

        Cough Cough. Why would it be made in the U.S. when it’s a canadian store. (grumbling by americans thinking everything is about them)

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        rachel July 12, 2013, 3:00 pm

        Ha, sorry, I guess I really am a typical American.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 3:01 pm

        Wait! Are there stores outside of America?

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      • othy

        othy July 12, 2013, 3:17 pm

        Next thing you know, you’re going to say that there are people outside the US as well.

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    Sara July 12, 2013, 2:14 pm

    I’m moving to Oklahoma (from the DC area) in two weeks, so I Google Autocompleted “Why is Oklahoma so.” The first suggestion was “backward.” Great .

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      rachel July 12, 2013, 2:19 pm

      Haha, sorry Sara. During my short time there I had a discussion with a friend about how Oklahoma seems to be like, the rest of the US a decade or two ago. Like, they are just now discovering such wonders as organic food and local coffee shops.

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    • CatsMeow

      CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 2:21 pm

      Yeah….

      Why is St. Louis so:
      dangerous
      humid
      ghetto
      bad

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        bethany July 12, 2013, 2:25 pm

        Why is Philly so…
        Bad
        Dirty
        Ghetto

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      • iwannatalktosampson

        iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 2:28 pm

        Why is Colorado so…
        Dry
        Windy
        Skinny
        Cold

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      • Fabelle

        Fabelle July 12, 2013, 2:30 pm

        Why is New Jersey so…

        Bad
        Expensive
        Hated
        Depressing

        hahaha

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 2:49 pm

        Yikes, haha.

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      • Fabelle

        Fabelle July 12, 2013, 2:57 pm

        I should’ve just made some up? Why is New Jersey so…

        Awesome
        Full of gorgeous people
        Nice-smelling
        Fun to vacation in

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        rachel July 12, 2013, 2:27 pm

        Haha, Milwaukee gets

        ghetto
        segregated
        poor

        It is definitely a really segregated city, it’s weird.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 2:49 pm

        NY…
        Expensive
        Liberal
        Dirty
        Popular

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      • katie

        katie July 12, 2013, 3:06 pm

        haha, why is chicago so

        windy
        corrupt
        violent
        cold

        why is illinois so

        corrupt
        liberal
        humid
        flat

        haha, these are awesome

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        convexed July 12, 2013, 7:27 pm

        Why is Pittsburgh so…

        cloudy
        great
        racist
        boring
        yellow

        ??? some of those make more sense than others.

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        convexed July 12, 2013, 7:28 pm

        And why is Pennsylvania so

        boring
        racist
        famous
        humid

        Well I didn’t know Pennsylvania was FAMOUS.

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        MsMisery July 17, 2013, 2:10 pm

        Why is Chicago so…
        Windy
        Cold
        Expensive
        Corrupt

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      kerrycontrary July 12, 2013, 2:27 pm

      Well Sara hopefully you won’t miss DC which is so: expensive, humid, ghetto, and boring.

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        Sara July 12, 2013, 2:36 pm

        I guess I shouldn’t forget that I also recently lived in (and loved) Cleveland, OH, which is bad, dangerous, cloudy, and depressing. πŸ™‚

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      GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 2:33 pm

      My town came up with no “Why is my town so…”words. I guess its’ so lame it’s off the google radar. Florida gave me crazy, weird, hot, humid. It is in fact all of those things.

      OK isn’t too bad depending on where you are. I was in Edmond and OKC (my college roommate’s hometowns) and had a great time. It is f-ing hot though.

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      • Lady_Red

        Red_Lady July 12, 2013, 3:57 pm

        I started to put in my town (why is Kirkland so…) and it switched to “why is Costco so….” So apparently I live in Costco.

        But Seattle gets:
        liberal
        rainy
        boring

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      Addie Pray July 12, 2013, 2:33 pm

      Hahaha, why is Chicago so….

      – windy
      – corrupt
      – violent
      – cold

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    • KKZ

      KKZ July 12, 2013, 3:11 pm

      Why is Cincinnati so…
      …humid
      …conservative
      …racist
      …boring

      To be fair, though, I mean it’s kind of obvious that people go to search engines with these negative questions rather than positive ones. Why would I ever Google “Why is Cincinnati so awesome? Fun? Much better than Dayton?”

      But psssht, boring. Please. There is SO much to do here.

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      • KKZ

        KKZ July 12, 2013, 3:13 pm

        And methinks Why So Racist has something to do with Why So Conservative…

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        Christy July 12, 2013, 3:23 pm

        When you’re comparing it to Dayton, you’re not comparing it to much. πŸ˜‰

        And I’m surprised it’s not “Why is DC so full of rich white people who can’t believe this city has its own culture?”

        I can hate on my area AND yours!

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      • KKZ

        KKZ July 12, 2013, 3:59 pm

        Yessssss Dayton is awful. Though I will say, it’s trying sooo hard to not be quite as awful, there are little pockets of sunshine and some activist groups trying to help, but it’s hard to level-up your city when 95% of the people who live and work in said city think it’s a shithole.

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      A La Mode July 13, 2013, 2:11 am

      My state:

      Hot
      Dry
      Cheap
      Conservative

      My town:

      Hot
      Windy
      Boring

      πŸ™

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        LT July 13, 2013, 6:49 pm

        Aak! My town got “Famous!” Granted, it’s famous because they killed a bunch of innocent people almost 400 years ago, but I’ll take it!

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  • CatsMeow

    CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 2:20 pm

    Sooooo when I was younger, and going through a, uh, “curious” phase, I totally had pretty much every guy I knew measure their erect penises: length and circumference. I logged the results in my Penis Book. I wonder if I still have it somewhere…?

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      rachel July 12, 2013, 2:28 pm

      If so, can you please publish said book, with names redacted of course.

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        iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 2:31 pm

        Agreed. Is it weird that I have a really hard time telling different penises apart? Maybe it’s just been a while since I had them really close together – but I kind of take each for what it is and has to offer to me? Like in the ghosts of penises past I can’t really think of a favorite? I’ve decided I’m much more emotional about sex than I previously thought because my enjoyment of sex is 90% related to how much I like the person and how well they treat me.

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        kerrycontrary July 12, 2013, 2:56 pm

        Really? I def had favorites. They vary in size and shape so much!

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      • Fabelle

        Fabelle July 12, 2013, 2:58 pm

        Right??

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      • iwannatalktosampson

        iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 3:01 pm

        My favorite is pretty much always the current one I’m banging. I’m romantic like that, haha. Or I have dementia.

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        rachel July 12, 2013, 3:26 pm

        I definitely had a favorite. I wish I had dated that guy for longer…

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    • Lindsay

      Lindsay July 12, 2013, 2:28 pm

      That is amazing.

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    • Fabelle

      Fabelle July 12, 2013, 2:29 pm

      I wish I’d done that. Every time I hear the stats of average dick length, I wanna be like, “UH-UH, come measure all the dudes from MY sexual history, why dontcha??” because I think I’ve lucked out? (That’s my subtle way of saying: a lot of the dudes I’ve been with were way above average…)

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      • Fabelle

        Fabelle July 12, 2013, 2:31 pm

        and duh, it goes without saying, you need to find that book & post everything in it on a forum thread πŸ˜‰ haha

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      • CatsMeow

        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 2:36 pm

        haha! Well, my small sample of white boys (and one Asian?) revealed that everyone was pretty much in the average range. I was kind of shocked at how similar everyone’s measurements were. There was one outlier on girth, though (self-reported, although I confirmed this later with someone I know who had sex with him).

        In my actual experience, everyone has been mostly the same, size-wise. Two guys were ginormous. One was uncircumcised. One was kind of bulgy in places. Hmmmm… that’s all I got. I guess a dong is a dong is a dong.

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      GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 2:38 pm

      So I’ve never understood the interest/obsession with a longer length, or even huge penises in general. I’ve only slept with one guy with a BIG package and honestly it was so big it just wasn’t pleasurable at all. All my average lays have been way more satisfying.

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        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 2:43 pm

        Same here! I’ll take average any day.

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 2:45 pm

        He also was drunk and just…banged away…ever time we hooked up. It was exhausting. I’m so glad I don’t have to have drunk hook up sex for the foreseeable future.

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      • CatsMeow

        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 2:49 pm

        Yeah, one of my large-wanged partners would just lie on his back and do nothing. Like I’m just supposed to be grateful to be riding a big dick.

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        iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 2:52 pm

        I relate it to how people say hott girls are bad in bed. They are just used to getting by on their looks – so they think that just the sight of them should be able to get a guy off. So they end up not trying and sucking in bed. So guys that are huge think the same thing. They are giving you the gift of their penis so why don’t you just explode at the sight of it. So they end up sucking.

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 3:04 pm

        Seriously love this theory. My big guy was also kinda hot and a star athlete at our school, so he pretty much just though I should drool at his site. Which I did at the time. Now I think he’s a scuz ball who sucks in bed.

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      • theattack

        theattack July 12, 2013, 2:44 pm

        How many times did you sleep with that guy, if you don’t mind me asking? IMO, it’s an acquired taste, but once you get it figured out nothing less is satisfying.

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      • theattack

        theattack July 12, 2013, 2:45 pm

        At least for me. I’m definitely a size queen.

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        Fabelle July 12, 2013, 2:51 pm

        I love that you just said you’re a size queen. I am too, high five.

        Like, average is okay, but bigger is much more…satisfying. To me! Also, I like the larger look for aesthetic purposes, too?

        I’ll shut up now.

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        theattack July 12, 2013, 2:57 pm

        haha, Glad I’m not alone, and of course it would be you. Everyone drink, Fabelle is talking about sex!

        I agree about aesthetics. I’m just not turned on by an average look. It ends up disappointing me and really drops the excitement down a few notches. Also the first guy I was with as a teenager (my husband actually during Round 1) was huge, so it really skewed everything for me. I was shocked when I saw my first average guy.

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 3:01 pm

        Is it weird that I don’t think any penises are attractive? Haha. I get more excited seeing a nice rack then a floppy dick.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 3:02 pm

        YES! Men and lesbians are lucky. They get to find the body parts of people they are having sex with attractive. Has a dick and balls ever really done it for anyone? No offense to all the dicks and balls out there!

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      • CatsMeow

        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 3:23 pm

        Ha… yes… I love looking (among other things).

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        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 4:11 pm

        I also used to looooove watching my ex masturbate. I might still have videos…

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        bethany July 12, 2013, 3:02 pm

        I think we are twins.

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 3:11 pm

        Thank goodness I’m not the only one! If I watch porn (which is rarely) it’s always lesbian porn. Penises are just NOT sexy to me (visually).

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        bethany July 12, 2013, 3:20 pm

        twins again πŸ™‚

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 3:34 pm

        triplets?

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      • Lady_Red

        Red_Lady July 12, 2013, 4:36 pm

        I tend to watch lesbian porn too. The huge dicks in porn just look gross and not proportioned right – the head always seems to be smaller than the shaft.

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      • Fabelle

        Fabelle July 12, 2013, 3:16 pm

        Yesss, drink up, everybody! haha πŸ˜€

        And yep, on the “disappointing” thing (even though I feel bitchy saying that??) Like, I guess I want to legitimately be like, “oh…oh my…” when a guy drops his pants, & not just, “Oh. Alright, then.”

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        Fabelle July 12, 2013, 3:18 pm

        And since GG is talking about porn, same goes for the men I see in porn. I click off of it immediately in search of better things if the dick is average-ish.

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      • theattack

        theattack July 12, 2013, 3:25 pm

        Haha, I second everything you said. I also click off if it looks too big, like it’s one of those penis extensions or whatever. It has to be genuine. Sometimes it takes a little while to settle on something.

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 2:47 pm

        um…like once every other week-ish for 6 months? so I def tried to get used to it. He also kinda sucked in bed anyways.

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 2:48 pm

        AND I think he sucked so much because he assumed the massive member would magically make it great. No foreplay, etc.

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      • theattack

        theattack July 12, 2013, 2:50 pm

        Oh geez, that’s really awful. Not to mention that no foreplay with a big guy HURTS. It’s not optional.

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        theattack July 12, 2013, 2:50 pm

        Oh, haha. Guess it’s just not for you then! I do think that it’s more important for well-endowed men to be more skilled even though that’s contradictory to what most people say. If they’re not skilled it can be painful and intrusive feeling. If an average dude isn’t skilled it makes for mediocre or average sex, but it’s not necessarily horrid, ya know?

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 3:07 pm

        I think I have an abnormally small vagina too. So big, no foreplay, and tiny vag = bad news bears.

        I don’t have any proof on my theory other than my husband saying so and going to the lady doc being pretty dang uncomfortable. Can you measure a vagina?

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        theattack July 12, 2013, 3:09 pm

        I don’t think you can measure them. You can always ask your gyno though. I once had a gyno who told me all about how I looked compared to other women. haha

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        iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 3:10 pm

        THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS. This is my theory. Everyone is so busy talking about big dicks but there is zero discussion about lady parts. And obviously they aren’t all the same size or shape either. My lady doc has said things to me about mine being small and hard to maneuver in, haha.

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 3:13 pm

        The last time I went to the lady doc I think it was the male doc’s first PAP. He practically sprinted out of the room after. The nurse was mortified. GGuy was like “is this a normal reaction?” haha. Plus the doc sucked at answering our questions.

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        rachel July 12, 2013, 3:18 pm

        Did your husband go in with you to the gyno? Is this a normal thing or were you there specifically to ask questions about baby making?

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 3:20 pm

        I don’t know if it’s normal but we where wanting to ask about the baby making and some other sex related stuff. We’re pretty up in each other’s medical business all around though so it’s not uncommon for us to go to the doc together.

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        rachel July 12, 2013, 3:23 pm

        That makes sense, I was just wondering if it’s normal for you. I would feel super awkward having someone else in any doctor’s appointment with me

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 3:29 pm

        We pretty much share everything other than poop with each other so it’s not weird. But we’re probably the weird one’s for over sharing. And we talk about poop if there is ever a need (like an abnormal bowl movement) so I guess we share that too. Hmmm. Maybe we should keep some things a mystery, haha.

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        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 3:21 pm

        Oh, I think vaginas and vulvas get plenty of commentary and criticism. Especially vulvas. I’ve had guys say some girls had short vaginas and they hit the cervix and it was uncomfortable. Or they bitched about someone being too dry. But the vagina actually lengthens during the arousal process, so if you’re hitting the cervix, it could potentially be because of a lack of arousal. And wetness, duh, is usually an arousal thing (but not always).

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        Fabelle July 12, 2013, 3:23 pm

        This is what I was going to say—vagina length isn’t fixed, it changes depending on arousal/time of the month.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 3:35 pm

        I really know nothing about my body. Jeez.

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        iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 3:29 pm

        Well yeah I mean you can normally feel it differently during different parts of sex – but overall they all have to be different sizes. And only talking about dick sizes is sexist. And I won’t stand for it.

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 3:36 pm

        Our issues is usually a “fit” issue. If we take a week (or month when one of us goes on ridiculous business trips) it’s almost painful no matter how much foreplay (or lubrication). Things “work themselves out” after a few minutes but the initial is ECK.

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        othy July 12, 2013, 5:11 pm

        My SIL was a young, virgin bride. A month before the wedding, she went to the lady doctor. She came home from the gyno (I was staying at my in-laws’ house at the time) with a bag full of ‘medical instruments’ that looked suspiciously like dildos. Apparently, the doc thought she was too small to have sex, and needed to be stretched out. I think the first words out of her mouth were ‘I’m never having sex!’

        Of course, she’s now a mother of two, so you know πŸ™‚

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        EB July 12, 2013, 4:23 pm

        Uh yeah I never used to think of myself as a size queen because until fairly recently i thought my boyfriend was around average until I saw a statistic similar to the “85% of men are less than 16 inches” and was like ” fuck…welp hope we never break up”- because the odds are like 90% the next guy I bang would have a smaller package” *waa-waa*

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 4:25 pm

        Um, I think every guy is less than 16 inches. Please tell me that was a typo and your bf isn’t actually 16 inches.

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        EB July 12, 2013, 4:45 pm

        Haha, oops I meant cm!

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        bethany July 12, 2013, 3:01 pm

        Yeah, I’m with you. Average is fine by me. Although there was 1 that was WAY below average. It was like a thumb. That was not good. not good.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 3:03 pm

        I actually have said “thumbin it” haha

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        iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 3:13 pm

        Know what I also find fascinating? The ones that can start out small and then when they’re hard they grow EVERYWHERE and in all directions, and it’s like wait where did all that come from? Is the rest of your dick stored in your stomach? Whereas others are pretty much the same size limp or hard.. just you know – harder. Why is that? I need to know.

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        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 3:16 pm

        Yeah, like the smaller they are flaccid the more they grow. It’s neat.

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        Kate July 12, 2013, 3:17 pm

        Have you heard the term “He’s a grower, not a shower?”

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        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 3:17 pm

        Wow… what did you say/do?

        On the bright side… At least it wouldn’t make you gag?

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        Fabelle July 12, 2013, 3:21 pm

        My friend slept with a guy with a micropenis (it’s a medical term, okay, guys??) & apparently, when he Took It Out, he said something like, “Don’t worry, I make up for this in ~other ways~ ” Like…omg.

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        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 3:26 pm

        Aw…

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        EB July 12, 2013, 4:43 pm

        I had a friend who dated a guy with the same affliction( not sure if that’s the best term but it was the result of other hormonal problems). Anyway, she really tried to make it work but she said she couldn’t even feel when he “entered” her so i guess one time she told him she was “ready” and he’s like, “Umm… I’m already inside you”.
        Gahhhhh- I felt terrible for all parties involved.

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        bethany July 12, 2013, 3:23 pm

        Well, it didn’t end well for reasons other than the Thumb-ness. It was right after my first “real true love” broke my heart into a million pieces and I was drunk and started crying…
        So at least I didn’t have to deal with it for very long!

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        rachel July 12, 2013, 3:24 pm

        I dated (didn’t sleep with) a guy with a thumb penis, and when he brought it out he was grateful that I didn’t laugh at him, because apparently another woman had. Yikes.

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        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 3:29 pm

        Aw….

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      lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 2:51 pm

      Is it weird the only reason I clicked on that was to see if Peter is bigger than the average? Competitive much? haha.

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        Kate July 12, 2013, 3:12 pm

        What is the average? I’m afraid to click on it at work.

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        Fabelle July 12, 2013, 3:20 pm

        5.57 inches (apparently I care not for clicking NSFW links while at work…)

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        Kate July 12, 2013, 4:17 pm

        Really! That is a little smaller than I would have thought. Thanks.

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      • Fabelle

        Fabelle July 12, 2013, 3:17 pm

        So, what is the answer? πŸ˜‰

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 3:36 pm

        haha, he’s bigger. I win again. πŸ™‚

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 3:36 pm

        He’s also the thickest I’ve ever had, and wow, what a difference that makes.

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        rachel July 12, 2013, 3:42 pm

        Yes! My favorite penis wasn’t that much longer than others I’ve been with, but it had some awesome girth.

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        iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 3:42 pm

        LBH get of FB. I have updates for your eyes only.

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        Fabelle July 12, 2013, 3:48 pm

        Are they dick pics?

        (OMG SORRY I can’t stop talking about dicks now)

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 3:49 pm

        hahahhahahaha. You are an awesome creature Fab.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 3:50 pm

        And that’s a helluva deleted thread idea!

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        mrmidtwenties July 12, 2013, 7:22 pm

        Holy fuck this was hilarious to read. I have nothing to say about dicks. The only one I can really comment on is my own, and you know, that’s kinda awkward and weird. But vaginas, vaginas are awesome, and they’re all so different. There’s really flat vaginas, with like a really flat vulvas, and then there’s ones with really fat vulvas. Then there’s like different shapes, and some are really “short” vaginas where the girl is really wet but it feels like you’re hitting a wall. Then there’s those really loose vaginas where you don’t feel anything at all. And those tight vaginas where no matter how wet they are you can’t get it in. Ok, writing that has made it clear to me that I need to find a lady to have sex with asap.

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      • KKZ

        KKZ July 12, 2013, 4:08 pm

        This whole chain of comments has been awesome. Just truly truly awesome. I have not experienced enough dicks to really have a good gauge of size – what’s normal, what I prefer, etc.

        So it’s really weird to know this at all, but I found out through the grapevine that my brother has a reputation for having a massive dick. I haven’t seen it since we were little kids in the bath together, I don’t know, and I’m not rushing to verify, obvs. But apparently that was what he was known for at college. They even named a drink after it at one of their house parties. Soo… good for him I guess? LOL.

        P.S. Hey size queens… he’s single… πŸ˜‰

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      Christy July 12, 2013, 3:29 pm

      So like when I was but a wee lass reading erotica, I never used to question the absurd dick lengths in stories. 10″, 12″, 15″. And like, look at a ruler. 5.5″ seems like plenty to me. Now, I’m working with a different material than dick, but still.

      I think our societal ideas of how long a 5″ dick is contrast greatly with how long 5″ actually is.

      But what do I know.

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        Miel July 12, 2013, 5:42 pm

        I remember reading somewhere not serious (was is a xkcd comics ?) saying how “all guy pretend they have a 10 inches penis”. The other day I was on the sofa with my boyfriend, and the measuring tape was in front of us, so I block it at 10 inches, and I was just “OMG, but this is impossible ! What the heck is that ! That’s way too big !”

        My boyfriend is not 10 inches, which is good.

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    KKZ July 12, 2013, 2:22 pm

    And OMG, the “I don’t shave” article … That was scooped right out of my own brain! (Confession, I was the recent LW who wrote in about that, and yes, I fully admit my letter was silly and poorly written in hindsight, I was just upset and confused when I wrote it.)

    What she wrote in that article is EXACTLY HOW I FEEL about shaving, down to the details of starting as a teen, growing to hate it, becoming lazy about it, forming feminist opinions about it and finally “deciding” to quit, amid mixed feelings of how I’d deal with people’s comments/reactions. Except I haven’t actually bitten the bullet, because Husband remains very opposed to the idea, unlike the article writers’ BF who came around after they talked. But he does let me get away with being pretty fuzzy (if not full-blown hairy) all the time, so I guess I’ll take what I can get…

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      theattack July 12, 2013, 2:46 pm

      I knew that letter was you within the first sentence. Maybe this is creepy, but I guess I can immediately recognize your writing. Reading it was like a direct conversation with you or something.

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        KKZ July 12, 2013, 2:49 pm

        Haha, thanks? But I’m pretty sure it’s because I said something about it on FB first and we’re FB friends… πŸ˜‰

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        theattack July 12, 2013, 2:58 pm

        I don’t remember anything from FB. Maybe that’s it, but it really did sound like your voice! Hey, it’s a compliment that you have such a strong and distinct writing voice.

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        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 2:50 pm

        Ooh! I totally called it too.

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        KKZ July 12, 2013, 3:03 pm

        OK, I think this just says I write WAYYYY too much on Dear Wendy if y’all can so easily pick up my writing style.

        And also means, no more hiding out as an anonymous LW when I have a problem too embarrassing for the forums. Drat.

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      Christy July 12, 2013, 3:27 pm

      KNEW IT.

      Oh I’m so proud of myself.

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  • MELH

    MELH July 12, 2013, 2:23 pm

    I take a barre class after work and I swear everyone in the class wears lulu or some comparable expensive workout clothing (splits 59 is a popular one.) I’ve been trying to buy more stylish workout clothes, but I stick tto old navy, gap and target. On the flip side, I now look weird in my zumba classes on the side of town where I live because everyone there wears tshirts and has probably never heard of lulu.

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      kerrycontrary July 12, 2013, 2:28 pm

      From what I know (at least in DC) the only people who can afford to take Barre classes here can afford to buy lululemon. But I just couldn’t spend that much on exercise gear out of principle.

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        MELH July 13, 2013, 1:43 pm

        They are expensive! Probably not as bad in Cincinnati as in DC, but my feeling is I’m already paying a ton to workout, now I have no money left for lulu! Also, I’ve always been a bargain shopper and it physically pains me to spend that much on one article of clothing!

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    iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 2:25 pm

    I really liked the 4 hard conversations to have before getting married article. My marriage didn’t last long enough for them to be a problem, haha, but I never did have the conversation about “what happens if I get fat?”. What are we going to tell hypothetical future kids about the things we disagree on?

    That last one specifically is kind of a crazy conversation I never even thought to have. I mean granted I didn’t want to have kids with him anyway because his genes were fucked, but really – every couple has things they disagree on. It’s a fact of life. How are you going to handle those topics with your kids. Say for example one parent believes that you should always stand up for yourself, and another parent believes that you should be the bigger person. Do you both just instill your personal views on your kids? Or do you compromise until one person wins? (That’s what compromise is right?)

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      kerrycontrary July 12, 2013, 2:32 pm

      I think the “what do we tell hypothetical future kids about the things we disagree on” is an interesting point. How many people have even had that discussion though? There’s only a few things that my boyfriend and I agree to disagree on (none of them are major such as spirituality), but they are certainly something to come up as discussion points with our kids. I feel like it’s a little bit of putting the cart before the horse, and it’s something that a healthy relationship can sort out. Like if little 6yr old Johnny comes up to Mom and says “I want to wear a tutu to school” and that mom is totally fine with it, but the father isn’t, it’s something they can discuss then. I don’t think you need to explore ALL hypothetical situations before getting married.

      And the fat thing, my boyfriend and I have discussed a “at what weight would my weight become a problem” (just being silly I like to ask weird questions), and we decided on when I outweigh him (barring pregnancy) and that he would encourage me to diet and exercise for health.

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      GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 2:35 pm

      I thought it was good overall too. I like the get your dirty secrets one out too.

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        kerrycontrary July 12, 2013, 2:37 pm

        yeh I think the dirty secrets one is definitely necessary. But then it makes you scared of those random stories you hear where someone gets married and one spouse pulls a bait and switch and is a totally different person after marriage.

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 2:41 pm

        I think this one is resonating with me because my guilty pleasure tv right now is Couples Therapy and 2 of the kid-os from Real World New Orleans are on there. The guy hid (or didn’t disclose) that he’d done a lot of gay porn before (or maybe during the early stages?) of his relationship with the girl and it’s set a really bad tone for their whole relationship. (Among other f-ed up issues they have.)

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        kerrycontrary July 12, 2013, 2:56 pm

        yeh…that would be pretty hard to get over if you didn’t know about it or it was hidden.

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  • Lindsay

    Lindsay July 12, 2013, 2:54 pm

    I’m glad to see the link to the forum thread about shaving. (Because I care much more what you guys have to say about it than some random journalist.) I guess I’m curious about people’s habits because I feel like up until somewhat recently I didn’t realize that SO MANY women shave or wax or whatever. I was sort of under the impression that it was a select few. I don’t mind the idea of the end result, but the process seems unbearable to me. (I’ve tried a few times, but not consistently.)

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      CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 3:11 pm

      I’ve always trimmed at the very least, and shaved the “bikini area” (I guess?). Usually I remove quite a bit more, but I don’t like being completely hairless (plus, at least when I shave, it seems like it starts growing back instantaneously and looks/feels like chicken skin). I’ve had bikini waxes before, but never a full Brazilian. The main reason I like waxing is because it irritates me less than shaving and stays smooth for a long time. NOW… I can’t afford any waxing at all, and for some reason, shaving has been irritating me A LOT. Since I’m not having sex (ugh), I’ve just left it alone and I’m only trimming.

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        Lindsay July 12, 2013, 3:20 pm

        Yeah, I know that I probably wouldn’t keep up with shaving enough, so I’d probably spend more time being stubbly and gross than nice and smooth. I’m also too cheap for waxing, but maybe if I were dating someone for longer than a few months. I just am never dating someone consistently enough to get into a routine.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 4:04 pm

        I don’t like to be completely hairless down there either and you totally hit the nail on the head with the chicken skin, sorry tmi! But that’s how I feel. I never was bald down there pre-baby, so I wonder if that’s what changed it?

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      GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 3:18 pm

      I change it up, but typically the “mound” area is left just trimmed and the area around the lady bits is shaven clean. I probably shave that twice a week- but I do so primarily for my own comfort. When things start growing in it gets hot and itchy (husband doesn’t have a real preference).

      My legs get shaved like once every 6 weeks and pits every shower. Thankfully overall I’m not a hair person.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 3:38 pm

        I shave my legs every day. My mom once said that if she’s ever in a coma, all she asks is that I shave her daily. Haha, runs in the family. (and we’re not hairy at all)

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        iwannatalktosampson July 12, 2013, 3:54 pm

        I shave my entire body everyday, and I don’t have a lot of hair either, and it’s strangely blonde considering I’m a brunette. I guess I don’t shave my arms, but they’re pretty much bald anyways. If you do it everyday quickly in the shower it doesn’t take that long because you don’t have to worry about doing it perfectly and leaving a patch, because you never give them time to grow a patch. Either that or it’s quick for me because I’m short, haha.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 3:58 pm

        Me too…weird. All blonde except my head. I don’t shave my arms, but we all know the story about when Lil did, yes? Poor thing. Its quick for me too since its every day, and I’m taller.

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        Sue Jones July 12, 2013, 5:23 pm

        Do you shave “down there”? That seems to be the trend for younger women. I only notice because I do Gyn exams…. Middle aged women don’t bother.

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        Sue Jones July 12, 2013, 5:24 pm

        Hey, sorry if that is a too personal question, but since y’all are talking penis lengths and shaving I thought I would chime in…

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        lets_be_honest July 17, 2013, 2:42 pm

        Haha, just saw this. Not entirely.

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      kerrycontrary July 12, 2013, 3:18 pm

      I’m totally bare (shaving) and I’ve been that way since I was 16. I tried it once and loved it. I think you have to do it consistently to appreciate it and get used to how it looks/feels. But I just felt cleaner. I’ve gotten a full brazilian once but it HURT. Like I was surprised how badly it hurt. I don’t know if I’ll do it again. I would say more women shave everything than don’t in my circle of friends.

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        Lindsay July 12, 2013, 3:27 pm

        I do appreciate how it looks/feels, and did almost immediately, but it just seems like such a commitment! Like how if you get behind on shaving, it’s going to be much more unpleasant feeling than if you didn’t shave at all. Sigh. This is one of those things where I just need to woman up, I think. But I think I’d like to try it for a while.

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        kerrycontrary July 12, 2013, 3:41 pm

        Yes i think it’s like a commitment. But I probably do it twice a week? Takes 2 mins I think?

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 3:50 pm

        Yeah for me twice a week and 90 seconds is all it takes to maintain. I buy Bic Sole razors so nothing fancy and sometimes use shaving cream. Easy peasy. Leg shaving is MUCH more of a hassle in my mind.

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        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 3:31 pm

        If I could achieve smoothness rather than irritation with shaving, I definitely would do it. Lately, the razor bumps and ingrown hairs are getting out of hand. Any tips???? I’m trying coconut oil…

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        kerrycontrary July 12, 2013, 3:42 pm

        I don’t know about tips for razorburn I’m sorry. I don’t usually have problems unless i try to shave my bikini line every day.

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 3:51 pm

        Do you wait until near the end of your shower? I’ve always heard the hair follicles soften and/or pores open some and that helps reduce irritation.

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        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 4:01 pm

        Yeah, I feel like I’ve tried everything. When I was younger, I would use Nair. Now that irritates me. It’s the last thing I do in the shower (or after a bath), and I’ve tried baby oil and hair conditioner and different shaving creams and combinations of all of the above. I use new razors. And I heard that putting deodorant on it right after is supposed to help, but that didn’t do anything for me either. I’m at a loss.

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        theattack July 12, 2013, 4:03 pm

        Have you ever tried shaving cream from a sex shop? My best friend let me borrow her Coochie cream for my wedding, and it was amazing! It’s high, but it helps with people who have easily irritated skin.

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        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 4:05 pm

        Actually, a friend recommended Coochie Cream to me and it was next on my list to try! Now I definitely have to get some.

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        theattack July 12, 2013, 4:07 pm

        Yay, I hope it works. My friend’s ex-husband was a Marine with easily irritated skin, so he even used it on his face every day to clear it up.

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 4:15 pm

        Coochie face!

        When we were kids, we heard a story about a guy who had his face burned, and they took skin from him butt, so of course we thought it was hilarious that he had Ass Face. Nice kids, huh?

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        lets_be_honest July 12, 2013, 4:23 pm

        Really guys? I said coochie face. Did you all miss that? No likes?

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        GatorGirl July 12, 2013, 4:06 pm

        Maybe ask your gyno? Perhaps you need an anti inflammatory cream or something.

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        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 4:08 pm

        Yeah, she said it was just irritated hair follicles and didn’t give me much advice. I’ll bug her about it again next time I see her.

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        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 4:19 pm

        Oh and The Internet said to try putting zit cream (something with salicylic acid) on it so I’ve tried that too. And I have prescription acne stuff for my face and I tried that. Hahaha I have seriously tried everything (except coochie cream).

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        Fabelle July 12, 2013, 4:11 pm

        Cats, you’re not alone! My area also looks all jacked up after I shave—my solution lately has just been to shave less? (like, once a week. Then shave everything into a vague triangle & keep that for a while. Then shave everything off.)

        I might have to try this coochie cream theattack speaks of though, haha

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        CatsMeow July 12, 2013, 4:15 pm

        I want to do something about it before next Friday, what WHAAAT.

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        Amybelle July 12, 2013, 5:42 pm

        I use stridex pads for sensitive skin (they have salicylic acid) after I shave and once a day and it keeps the razor burn and ingrown hairs away. Also use at least a 5 blade razor.

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    SasLinna July 15, 2013, 6:27 am

    I’m pretty impressed with the woman who doesn’t shave. I looked at the pictures she took and my first reaction was (honestly) “ick, hairy legs!”. I couldn’t suppress that even though I rationally disagree with this thought. But looking at the pictures a bit longer, my perspective started to shift and I got over the inital “this is ugly” reaction. The aesthetic norm of shaved legs is so deeply ingrained that it’s irritating to see hairy legs in combination with a short skirt, for example. But I think I could get used to it if I saw it more often. So, props to her for her courage. (And let’s just say it – this proves that shaving your legs is absolutely coercively imposed on women right now. Not doing it would be sanctioned by others, like me, who have the “oh, ugly” reaction to it. I still think it’s fine to shave, of course, but it sucks that it’s not optional).
    Also, my own reaction is funny to me, because I don’t shave regularly myself. But my hair is not so visible on my legs because of its light color.

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