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Dear Wendy

Friday Links, June 28

Here are a few things from around the web that may interest you:

A powerful essay in light of what happened in Texas this week and what was at stake: “My Abortion, at 23 Weeks” [via NYTimes]

I love this essay about love, parenthood, loss, and the importance of pop songs: “Easy” [via avidly]

“How Pop Culture Changed the Face of the Same-Sex Marriage Debate” [via Wired]

On making friends in a new city: “You’re One in Eight Million” [via The Hairpin]

For all you crazy cat ladies, here’s a blog for you: Cats That Look Like Pin Up Girls

“46 Incredible Gay Wedding Photos That Will Make Your Heart Melt” [via Buzzfeed]

Thank you to those who submitted links for me to include. If you see something around the web you think DW readers would appreciate, please send me a link to wendy@dearwendy.com and if it’s a fit, I’ll include it in Friday’s round-up. Thanks!

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    Taylor June 28, 2013, 1:15 pm

    It’s been a powerful week in the human rights movements. The NY Times article is a tremendous reminder of the depth and breadth necessary to have any kind of discussion about abortion. And those wedding pictures…happiness =)

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  • Imsostartled

    Imsostartled June 28, 2013, 1:22 pm

    OMG the “46 Incredible Gay Wedding Photos That Will Make Your Heart Melt” is NSFW haha I’m tearing up at my desk.

    I love it, so so cute!

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    • Just Max

      Just Max June 28, 2013, 1:43 pm

      Me too!
      It gave me warm, fuzzy feelings to see so much love and happiness. Beautiful!

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    kerrycontrary June 28, 2013, 1:25 pm

    I think the NYT article is great because it points out that abortions that late in pregnancy are rare but sometimes necessary. And I’m sure that anyone who has to make the decision about an abnormally developing fetus really struggles with it. I am always saddened that abortions in North Dakota can only be legally performed at ONE clinic in the entire huge state.

    I also loved the one in 8 million article. I try to describe this to people, but I’m not sure everyone gets it. I always think that finding a real friend is like dating. You know when you click with someone and that it will turn into something special. And finding friends is like finding a soul mate. You only get a few in a lifetime but they are irreplaceable and you can’t fake it.

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    • bittergaymark

      bittergaymark June 28, 2013, 6:10 pm

      Ugh… Don’t get me started on North Dakota. As somebody who grew up there, I remain mortified at those recent developments…

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  • theattack

    theattack June 28, 2013, 1:37 pm

    The 23 weeks article was a powerful story. I’m glad that family got to keep their little girl.

    But I have to say that I look forward to a time when we don’t have to use these extreme examples to justify legal abortion. Abortion is often a very conflicting subject for the parents, but I hope to someday see people inspired by abortion stories that aren’t just about threats to life or health. I’m assuming those cases are far outnumbered by the abortions that happen just because it’s better overall. The right to have an abortion just because you want one is important too.

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    • theattack

      theattack June 28, 2013, 1:39 pm

      I’m obviously not trying to demean these sorts of stories at all. They’re important and tear-jerking, and they’re big obvious examples of why we absolutely must have this right. I’m just having all sorts of emotions about abortion rights at the moment.

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      • othy

        othy June 28, 2013, 3:16 pm

        But, these types of stories are the things that might click most with the legislature when they are on the fence.

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      • theattack

        theattack June 28, 2013, 3:20 pm

        Yeah, and I acknowledge that. They’re very important stories. I just wish there was a safe space for other stories to even exist in our society. There’s so much more to be told about abortion that we’re barely scratching the surface when we talk about extreme examples. I just hope we’re able to see it all one day in our lifetimes.

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      rachel June 28, 2013, 1:59 pm

      It’s a good point, and I’m sure it stings for you a bit when people rush to defend abortion only when it *had* to happen. Unfortunately, it’s the only way I think, to help people understand.

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      • theattack

        theattack June 28, 2013, 2:09 pm

        I think it is at this time for sure. The stories of abortions that weren’t medically necessary would just damage the whole movement right now. If they’re ever accepted though, we’ll know that we’ve really gotten somewhere. When that day comes, abortion stories will be everywhere because I think a lot of women want to share them and take action but can’t. It definitely does sting though. I have so many important things to say about it that I’m not allowed to put into words.

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    • Lindsay

      Lindsay June 28, 2013, 3:16 pm

      Yeah, I read that the other day, and I was like, well, great, but she’s not the person they’ve going after. Of course, politicians think they’re all progressive when they make exceptions for the life of the mother or rape or whatever.

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      • theattack

        theattack June 28, 2013, 3:23 pm

        Absolutely. It’s pretty sick because I think conservative politicians use it as a bargaining chip. Probably many of them are actually okay with it in those cases, but they act like they’re “giving” us the lives of women as a negotiation tactic. These just aren’t things to be bargaining with, IMO.

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    Classic June 28, 2013, 1:40 pm

    The wedding photos are so sweet. Sigh.

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    • iwannatalktosampson

      iwannatalktosampson June 28, 2013, 1:45 pm

      I can’t bring myself to look at them yet, it’s just too much. I’m sad its taken so long for everyone to have this right. I have no idea why “allowing” two people to publically love each other was ever thought to be a bad thing. I want to look at the pictures, but I’m in public right now…

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    rachel June 28, 2013, 1:49 pm

    The 1 in 8,000,000 article hit me in the feels. I’m slowly finding people to hang out with in a new city, but I miss the ease of true friendship.

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      kerrycontrary June 28, 2013, 1:56 pm

      I’ve been in my city for 4 years and I have some friends that I love, but they don’t compare to my college best friends. It’s really hard. My boyfriend is awesome so I’m lucky to have true companionship that I can depend on, but I recently saw my best friend from college who I hadn’t seen for THREE years and we fell back exactly where we were. And we were both like “NO ONE GETS IT”. Like people tolerate our weird sense of humor, but no one “gets life” like we do.

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    • kmtthat

      kmentothat June 28, 2013, 2:30 pm

      Agree! Reading it I felt like I could have written that article, word for word. Being in my late 20s, it seems like everyone I’ve met in Chicago already has their social group set, so it is much harder to make friends than when I was 22 and in college surrounded by others looking to make friends. But I’ve found that when you do meet people you click with, it’s sort of awesome that you can say “hey, I think we should totally hang out!” and not worry about being a dork because the right kind of person will be glad that you had the balls to say it first 🙂

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    • othy

      othy June 28, 2013, 3:18 pm

      I miss college a lot for this. It was so much easier to make and maintain friendships when you lived in the same dorm as them. As an adult with so much going on, I find it is much easier to have many acquaintances, but not as many good friends.

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    GatorGirl June 28, 2013, 2:20 pm

    So Westboro Baptist cray cray’s are going to picket the Taylor Swift concert saying she is a whore. Tehe.

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  • bittergaymark

    bittergaymark June 28, 2013, 6:08 pm

    The jumping boys in all the photos were especially HOT.

    The pop culture article was interesting — but the glaring omission of Madonna was absurd. NOBODY else talked so relentlessly about gays and gay rights as she did back in the 1980s when doing so was so NOT cool. She took a lot of shit from the media on it, too. She supposedly had AIDS several times in the tabloids… (You know, why ELSE would she care?)

    Madonna tirelessly and blatantly inserted gay imagery into her music videos (even 1986s’ Open Your Heart video has some crazy gay twin imagery.) By the early 1990s, she was on Nightline to defend such imagery when she was banned from MTV for it.) Nobody else at her level (admittedly, few were at her level back then) came even close to being the outspoken ally and advocate that she fearlessly became.

    Hell, a few months ago, on ELLEN, Ellen publicly thanked Madonna on her show. Madonna, a stranger at the time of Ellen’s coming out, had sent Ellen a very warm and personal letter right in the firestorm of the would she or wouldn’t she come out of the closet drama…

    I’m telling you… if NOT for Madonna… much of this would still be five, ten, maybe fifteen years off. Madonna sure got people talking (Truth or Dare. Justify My Love, Erotica, the SEX book, pretty much EVERY interview she did back in the day…) She was always “Yay, Gays!”

    She not only paved the road for other mainstream celebrities to support gays and lesbians — she clearcut it through a nasty forest of hatred. She truly made promoting gay rights hip rather than a controversial career killer…

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      Jodee June 30, 2013, 12:37 pm

      Could not have said it better. Agree, 110%. Without her, the movement wouldn’t be anywhere near where it is. She truly paved the way for anyone today in the public sphere who is openly gay/supportive of gay rights. She was also interesting at the time for incorporating gay rights/struggles into her music (In This Life in particular), and also rarely used gendered pronouns in her songs, something she only started doing heavily in the “Music” era. Without her, there’s no point in discussing the others – they wouldn’t exist.

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      • bittergaymark

        bittergaymark July 3, 2013, 4:07 am

        The entire EROTICA album was so wonderfully gay… and those videos… DAMN! Love that era of Madonna! And the way she frequently echos back to it lately… The song Erotica has been sung on two of her past three tours… and the video for Girl Gone Wild looked largely like outtakes from the SEX book shoots… no simply feat considering those shoots were (gulp!) TWENTY YEARS AGO… But the shots of Madonna laughing at near the end are brilliant recreations of the EROTICA video. Loved it. Loved it. LOVED IT!

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    Megan_A_Mess June 29, 2013, 5:36 pm

    The wedding photos hit me right in the feels. Love is love, and it is truly beautiful. <3

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